This article is from the public number:Gu Yu Lab – Tencent News (ID: guyulab)< span class = "text-remarks">, author: Yuan Lin, from the title figure: vision China

In the past, efforts to build an instantWas destroyed. Lujiazui’s favorite takeaway, afternoon tea and colleague’s milk tea, the tea at 9:30 every night and the shirt that must be ironed are falling apart in an instant. She claimed to be a workaholic who relied on her busy work and gained value from her work. She suddenly pressed the pause button and turned sharply in another direction.

Zhou Yunjiao sat quietly on the chair, wearing a wide-brimmed hat and a mask, showing only a pair of eyes. She is looking down at a stack of reports on her hand. A handsome little handsome man moved to her side and took her shoulder. “That… are you a pillar brother?” The little handsome guy’s face rose red. He handed over a book with a blank sheet of paper. “Look at this. Thank you.” The little handsome guy shouted with his fingers and said shyly.

Zhou Yunjiao is sitting at the door of the hospital’s blood clinic. The little handsome boy who handed the book was a doctor, dressed in white coat. The book is called “Lymphoma Clinic Handbook.” Written on white paper: “Can you please sign a name on the book? I admire you. Thank you!”

In the crowded hospital corridor, the main color of the crowd is gray, and Zhou Yunjiao is easy to become the focus. She wore an apricot pink scented jacket, a beige high-necked base, a checkered suit trousers, and a pair of stilettos and small leather boots creaking. She was originally tall, one meter 68, and the weight of less than 90 pounds made her look more slender. When the surrounding people look at her, they can’t help but move back to see the second eye.

From the outside, this exquisite woman is a typical Shanghai new citizen. Fudan graduated from a graduate school, a financial practitioner, stylish and lean, speaking in both English and Chinese. 29 years old, love beauty, love spoiled. On the Internet, her pen name is “Pillar Brother”, a small name, followers. The reason for being famous is her other identity – lymphoma patients, advanced.

Zhou Yunjiao’s “Pillar Brother” handmade leather case

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The popularity of “Pillar Brother” is a pure meaningouter. If you can choose, no one wants to be a source of disaster that is widely known.

On the evening of October 17, 2018, Zhou Yunjiao was on a business trip in Wenzhou. During the meeting, she received a message from a doctor on her mobile phone. Some time ago she took part in the company’s medical examination, and the doctor felt that the suspect was abnormal. She suggested that she do additional inspections. Now the results are checked out. She got a noun from the doctor: “follicular lymphoma grade 2.” Four issues.

“Like the moment you crashed, you know that you are dying. At this time, the airbag quickly pops up to catch you, and the self-protection mechanism starts immediately. It was this feeling at the time. It is difficult to describe it specifically.”

The brain is blank. Zhou Yunjiao entered this term on her mobile phone and got a list of illnesses. She quickly identified two key points from a large number of terms: 1. It is not curable. 2. In the case of proper treatment, the survival period may be very long. She left the meeting room to go to the bathroom, left alone for 10 minutes, and then returned to the meeting room to continue the meeting.

She was originally doing two additional tests to enhance CT and lymph node biopsy with an absent-minded attitude. Previously, her only impression of lymphoma was “Get Out of the Cancer” and Kai-Fu Lee. The former soon passed away, and the latter lived well. She never thought that she would get sick, not to mention the terminal illness. But in fact, her whole body’s lymph has been overgrown with tumors and invaded the bone marrow. “Like a Christmas tree full of lights.” She repeatedly mentioned this metaphor.

As an investment manager of a bank, Zhou Yunjiao was originally one of the most representative images of Lujiazui financial women on Shanghai. Mature, competent, energetic, can work more than 12 hours a day. When I was on a business trip, the red-eye flight flew out in the morning, and the red-eye flight flew back at night, which was commonplace for her. In the company, she was called “road show small days”, has set a record of 50 million road shows, the boss is very important to her. When she first entered the business, she continued to go home from the company at 1 o’clock in the morning for two and a half years. Her colleague would go to her and put a small note on her before work~ “Labor Model”.

Zhou Yunjiao speaks at World Peace Care Day

After the disaster, Zhou Yunjiao is in the rapid rise of his career. She didn’t feel physically uncomfortable at all.

The confusion is only a matter of time for a hot pot. Looking at the red oil that rolled down, Zhou Yunjiao remembered the face of her husband, Lao Tang. He was 10 years older than her and might face the fate of the 40-year-old re-marriage market. Then she remembered her parents. In 2007, her mother checked out breast cancer. In 16 years, her father found rectal cancer. She currently lives in the Northeast, and her daughter is the only one who relies on her for the rest of her life.

She has been fighting for 28 years and has entered the city from the countryside. She has spent a long period of treatment as a pillar of her family. She takes care of her parents’ life without any care, wants to take her parents out to travel, and let her 86-year-old grandmother come to Shanghai to see her new life. The girl at the bottom is hard to stand firm in the big city. The framework of life is just set up. She is one of the pillars. Once she is removed, the whole structure will collapse.

No. No. Thinking of this level, she suddenly calmed down. “I want to find a way to control the situation. The way I control the situation is to collect information into a table, as I always do.”

In Zhou Yunjiao’s life ranking, the first is the family, the second is the parents, and about herself, “the first three are not allowed to enter.” There are so many things that are more important than her own life. “If my body is not working, what is the last moment of my life? I am of course going to manage my husband, in-laws, and parents. I have no way to bear them because I am not doing well.” Zhou Yunjiao said that her desire for survival is only a small one. Part of it comes from oneself, and more is not willing to let others face the pain.

In the following week, Zhou Yunjiao made a complete plan. She organizes all the information, lists it, draws into the mind map, and calculates all possible outcomes. Master the key points and arrange in advance. Like the previous investment project, she regarded the sick herself as a brand new project with the theme of “self-help”.

No. 18 organizes all policies. 19, 20 to do the financial budget – especially the parents’ expenses, after the parents were sick, Zhou Yunjiao took care of them remotely, shredded to the rice, salt, daily necessities, three meals a day during hospitalization, she was remote Ordering, telephone supervision and distribution – she needs to know how much money she will spend on her parents every year if something goes wrong. On the 21st, she was admitted to the hospital. She set up a small table on the hospital bed to sort out the work handover. On the 22nd, write the will and assign “the property behind him”. On the 23rd, all the chores in the family are included in the memorandum, such as the medical records of the husband and the four elderly people, the policy, family information, account number andpassword. On the 24th, she built everything into a mind map. Then, because the treatment is too painful + allergic, it is in a state of stagnation.

“Like the final risk analysis report. Find a risk – propose a solution.” Zhou Yunjiao said that she is too good at this matter. It’s just that this time is more complicated than ever.

After a week of discharge, with only a little energy left, she summed up the constructed mind map and wrote a complete operational report, named “hardcore knowledge-based beauty self-help guide” . It includes 4 major aspects: 1. Accept the reality of illness and do a good job in psychological construction. 2. Dismantle specific problems and deal with them separately. 3. Medium and long-term sustainable strategies. 4. The part that I face alone. Each aspect has been broken down into detailed operational stages.

Along with the mental journey after the illness, Zhou Yunjiao sent this “self-help guide” to his public number “a pillar column pillar brother”. At the time, the public number had only nine fans, all of whom were her girlfriends. She likes to write since she was a child, and the public number is her position from entertainment. The original intention of this article is to sort out my own clues. Second, when it is necessary to inform the person who cares about her, she does not have to repeat it over and over again.

Zhou Yunjiao’s “hardcore knowledge-based beauty self-help guide” (part)

After the article was issued, Zhou Yunjiao lay back on the bed. She was very uncomfortable after the first chemotherapy. The following week, this article was screened in her circle of friends and quickly spread, with more than 3 million readings across the web. Within a week, the public number fans rose to more than 30,000, and tens of thousands of messages. Many people have begun to know that there is a beautiful girl named “Pillar Brother” who has just detected lymphoma. She faces cancer with objective, rational and self-deprecating humor. She uses a professional literacy to provide ideas for other cancer patients, professional, thoughtful, and extremely operability.

“Pillar brother” fired in the tumor world. After the cancer patients, Zhou Yunjiao immediately had a new identity.

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The last day of October, Thursday. The goal of the pillar brother this day is three hospitals – see a doctor in one hospital, take a report in another hospital, and go to another hospital to find a doctor’s answer. When she got into the taxi, she was panting, and the thin back of the paper swayed back and forth with the undulation of the chest. She is very tired, but still wearing the high-heeled boots. She wears a good-looking hat every day, because when the chemotherapy is done, the hair is uncontrollably dropped, and all of it is shaved.

Running gap, she also needs to prescribe medicine for her husband Lao Tang. Throughout the morning, she waited for two and a half hours in a hospital where people came and went, and finally waited for a chance to talk to a doctor in the blood department. After a hasty lunch, she went on to her next destination.

The pillar brother called this play “Shanghai Hospital Punch Journey”, which is the normal state of her current life: running around, alone. Because her condition has recurred.

Pillar brother during hospitalization

After the first phase of chemotherapy for 5 months, she left two edges in her neck, and the tumor in her body subsided. Most patients can have a remission period of 3 years. However, two months later, her “the lymph on the neck grew again”, which means that the first stage of treatment did not achieve the desired effect.

In addition to lymphoma, she is also accompanied by an immune system disorder, lupus erythematosus, which is more difficult and trickier to treat than patients with lymphoma. After the recurrence, she had to travel to various hospitals in Shanghai to find the next stage of treatment, and the best comparison was made. But the fact is, because the condition is complicated, the doctor has no definitive answer. “You can only try one by one.”

There has been a relapse for half a year, and the next treatment plan has not been determined. The patients urged her to make decisions as early as possible. The pillar brother is of course anxious, but in the face of useless emotions, she has always insisted on giving herselfThe principle that has been set: rational face, scientific medical treatment.

She has seen too many pseudo-scientific irrational treatments. After she was laid off from the cotton mill, her sister from the northeastern family was transformed into a “small shaman witch of the Manchu Zhenghuangqi family”, often jumping for the sick. Three years ago, the four brothers of the pillar brother were in the late stage of liver cancer. The eldest sister closed his eyes and the shaman in the ward, and the four grandfather left the night. Parents are all cancer, the pillar brother has seen an endless stream of treatment remedies: drink fragrant gray water, eat durian anti-cancer, health juice detoxification. The public number is constantly sharing the treatment coup with her. The friend pulls her to see the doctor, send the sea cucumber, and send the Cordyceps sinensis. All of this, she does not believe one.

She summed up two criteria for screening scientific information: 1. People’s endorsements. On the one hand, it is the real expert in this field, the authoritative doctor of the hospital, the scientist who is really doing research on the frontier of the tumor, or the paper or research result published by the public of the authority. 2. Endorsement of the platform. Some objective and authoritative platforms, such as the domestic Tencent medical code, and the foreign Pubmed, are the platforms that she usually consults when collecting information. These professional people and platforms have their own structured knowledge maps, and there are countless scientific verification or clinical experiences behind them.

Pillars are searching for information using Tencent Medical Dictionary

” Just like writing a thesis, this is a more scientific mode of thinking,” said Pillar. She has been sick for more than a year and her condition is complicated, but she has never walked a detour.

On the road to cure, the pillar brother asked himself to always clear his mind. An important methodology is to increase efficiency. Just like what she used to pursue when she was working.

She explored her own method: before the doctor, list the questions that need to be inquired in the notebook, literate the terminology that is not understood, improve the communication with the doctor, reduce the cost of explanation; Immediately record the key points in the notebook with you, and compile it into the master list – she has a document that records the situation and points after each visit; gets the inspection report, the first time to take photos, and each report The results are presented in tabular form, especially with different data.