This article is from WeChat official account: Vista see the world (ID: vistaweek) , Author: Pingmei Li, FIG title from: Japanese drama “Marginal Man”

Anyone who just started working knows the cruelty of the workplace.

However, they think that what makes them trip up is a mistake of the level of “I turn the table when the leader picks food, I don’t drink the leader toast, and I brake when the leader drinks water.”

But in fact, just thinking about how to call the seniors in the office can be tortured enough.

In response to this problem, NetEase issued a notice some time ago, requiring employees to remove the names “brother”, “sister”, and “general” in internal communication and use nicknames instead.

After the notification is issued, all NetEase employees can initiate a nickname application through the company’s internal system. Once the application is approved, this nickname will become their general code for NetEase in the future.

Such news has made many netizens who have been troubled by the “problem of shouting in the workplace” as if seeing the dawn of hope——

You can call the leader the nickname, can a comfortable office environment be far away?

But is it really that simple?

I don’t have nine lives, so I dare not yell in the office

How to call people is not just a trouble in the workplace.

Which young boys and girls do not want to raise a forty-meter knife when they are called “uncle” or “auntie”? How many original and practical titles have been stigmatized and greasy in the craze of the publicChange?

In short, the more you grow up, the more you discover that modern people who haven’t fallen for a few somersaults can be called a miracle of human society.

In the past two years, the China Youth Daily conducted a questionnaire survey of nearly 2,000 people in the workplace. The results showed that 75.9% of them had the trouble of “not knowing how to call their seniors” when they first entered the workplace.

In our simple cognition, when facing a stranger who can’t know how to call it, we can simply use a human pass code such as “hello” and “excuse me” to get confused.

However, when the situation is switched to the workplace, if you want to avoid calling someone, you will be considered impolite in all likelihood.

Although most people have already remembered the kind reminders of the predecessors in the “100 Must-haves in the Workplace”–

You don’t suffer from shouting “Brother” and “Sister”. If you can take a position, you can take the position. First see how your colleague shouts. If it doesn’t work, use “teacher” to help.

However, these experiences are specific to different industries, different regions and even different people, and the doorways can be ever-changing.

For example, in the TV series “Twenty Do Not Confused”, Dabao, one of the protagonists, encountered the embarrassment of calling the wrong person on the first day of his internship.

Ask an older seniorDuring the mission, the other party was very dissatisfied with Dabao’s name “elder sister” and thought she was called old;

However, when she learned the lesson and called the English name of another senior, this senior who was similar to her was also unhappy, and even thought Dabao was rude.

The original plot not only made Dabao in the play feel very wronged, but many audiences outside the play were also very heartbroken.

Although the performance of the two predecessors in the play is too straightforward and dramatic, the embarrassment caused by calling the wrong person particularly makes people in the workplace empathize.

It’s all about calling the wrong stranger on the street, after all, even if the other party is no longer happy, he can’t really pull out his weapon and fight you hard.

But in the office, things changed immediately.

You are facing either a senior who is more experienced than you, has the right to speak than you, and is more pleasing to the leadership than you, or is a boss who directly controls the power of life and death, and one word may make you lose your job.

In short, as long as the person being called out shows any signs of cramping at the corners of his mouth, the fragile rookie will immediately start to brainstorm about the future battles in this office.

Don’t sin against people, it’s the bottom line for shouting in the workplace. But in practice, this bottom line is as high as the ceiling of a career.

What’s more, this bottom-line variable is sometimes not just in the hands of the person being called.

Many industries are accustomed to naming each other a fixed name, such as X(usually the last name) between technicians, The X game among researchers, the X finger of the competitive sports industry…

At first glance, such a rule is simply the savior of the dumb star in the workplace. It wasn’t until someone unconsciously called out “Xiang Gong” and “Gong Gong” so that both parties could work at the same time, that people understood that the antidote to the problem of calling people in the workplace did not exist.

Source: Doubanha X11 Team

The leader who asks you to call by name is not the leader

So it’s not difficult to understand why when NetEase internally advocated the use of nicknames instead of “brother”, “sister”, and “general” and returned to “equal and simple communication”, so too many stumbling on calling people Of workplace people feel relieved.

In the internal notice of NetEase exposed by the media, it can be seen that NetEase requires that employees’ nicknames do not reflect their seniority, rank, and full real names cannot be used.

In addition, at the NetEase annual cultural event in 2018, founder Ding Lei once asked employees to call themselves “Ding” or “Boss” and said, “Don’t call Ding Manager, I’m not that old. “.

In this way, using nicknames instead of routine workplace titles seems to be due to Ding Lei’s pursuit of equal communication.

But such an attempt is actually not new. In many Internet companies in China, the trend of “Don’t call Mr. X” has been popular for a long time.

For example, Ali internally encourages employees to use martial arts novels as their own names, Tencent internally uses English names to refer to executives, and Lenovo requires employees to directly return to their real names when calling management—

CEO Yang Yuanqing asked employees to call themselves “Yuanqing”.

The name Ma Yun used in Ali is Feng Qingyang

Regardless of the form, when talking about the starting point of changing the title, Internet tycoons cannot do without such rhetoric as “de-class” and “freedom”.

Some netizens felt that the process of naming her reminded her of her first English class experience in her life——

In order to compete with the same table for an English name of “Mary”, the two hit the board from their seats all the way in front of the foreign teacher.

This is indeed a rare equality scene in the school days.

However, under this analogy, it appears that the process of choosing a nickname in the workplace is everywhere restrained.

One of the differences that is not difficult to think of is that taking an English name for yourself seems to be the only possible form of personal address in English class.

And workplace codes—even if they are used or not—have many different possibilities.

When a leader likes martial arts, maybe the name of the entire company is martial arts.When leaders like internationalization, the entire company may only allow each other to call each other by English names.

As far as how to start this code name, in fact, no one thinks so casually.

On the first day when NetEase opened the nickname application, some netizens complained that they failed to name it.

In the receipt rejected by HR, the other party stated that because the nickname will accompany the entire career, it must be “positive and in line with the ideal personality”.

@I can’t think of a good nickname

A few years ago, Gao Xiaosong encountered similar problems when he joined Ali.

In order to “be like the locals”, he applied for the two names of “Tian Boguang” and “Skinny Touduo”, but they were both rejected because they were villains and not positive enough.

In the end, he still used his best-known nickname: “short, big and tight”.

So you see, on the surface, changing the nickname within the company does seem more equal and casual, but whether there is freedom and how much freedom there is, it is ultimately up to some people to decide.

Even if employees are given enough space to give themselves a code name, there are still unspoken rules that can be seen but not broken–

“The leader is called Iron Man, can’t I be called Thanos?”

“Take a name that is too rare and exaggerated, will you be illiterate colleague Dark Shark?”

“You look so much like the sister at the next table, do you think I have a crush on her?”

In people’s imagination, “de-generalization” will make the company atmosphere more relaxed and the communication pressure between superiors and subordinates less. However, the whole process of naming still cannot be separated from the consideration of the relationship between superiors and superiors. .

Imagine, when an employee encounters Jack Ma in the toilet, he calmly yelled “What a coincidence, the wind is clear”?

It seems that nicknames are just another invisible form of marking people’s workplace status.

So, it’s self-explanatory how much equality can be achieved by changing the nickname.

Why do you always worry about newcomers in the workplace when you are a big name?

However, it is obviously unreasonable if we beat this kind of attempt to death because of the power projection destined to exist behind this nickname.

We know that as an enterprise, there are different scopes of rights between superiors and subordinates. This is a fact that cannot be changed.

Although “equality” is a beautiful fantasy, there are indeed people enjoying the convenience it brings.

Quiet Mimi changed her nickname to a fairy or a pretty girl, she didn’t care how courage her colleagues called out such a name; the hapless child who was called “Viagra” and “Brother Dog” all day was finally able to make fun of it Others exulted.

After all, as long as you are not embarrassed, embarrassment belongs to others.

When someone took this heavy idea and accepted the form of chanting in the workplace, they were puzzled by the behavior of some people who were overly afraid of workplace rules–

Aside from the power barriers that cannot be broken, why even if they have the right not to call “general”, some newcomers in the workplace still have such a heavy burden on how to call people?

In fact, this caution is not difficult to understand.

On the one hand, young people who have just entered the workplace themselves are full of unknowns and fantasies about the workplace.

Various so-called experience posts and teaching posts on the Internet are sparing no effort to create a cruel and harsh reality in the workplace.

For young people who want to gain a foothold in a new environment, the best way is to put away their sharp edges and be cleverly integrated, not dare to extravade the so-called equality.

A deadly netizen who tried to hook up with seniors in the office on the first day said: “It’s a long, long time since I learned that my overly familiar behavior made other people in the company mistakenly think I’m a relative. Also discussing how to isolate me.”

Therefore, newcomers in the workplace can not help but say that it is a kind of helpless self-protection for how to call people.

On the other hand, excessive tension is actually due to the new people’s unfamiliarity with the new identity of “workplace man”.

During the interview, I silently consider the working atmosphere and environment of a company, and subconsciously pour bitterness and comfort from the colleagues I just met when in trouble.

I’m used to the way of interpersonal communication between my classmates, so it is naturally difficult to distinguish work and personal relationships calmly when I enter the workplace.

Therefore, even the trivial questions in the workplace ability sequence such as “how to call seniors” will be mixed with personal emotional considerations such as “will she be dissatisfied” and “will I jump too much”.

I thought it was impeccable to call a teacher, but it turns out that some people don’t like it/from “I Know Your Secret”

Indeed, the experience of shouting the wrong person in the workplace is unpleasant no matter how you look at it. Obviously there are so many useful titles in the world, but my colleagues don’t like any of them, and they feel helpless.

So far, people have experienced countless lessons in the same pit, and it seems that they have not found any universal experience.

Looking back, the embarrassment caused by calling the wrong person is really serious enough to affect your career.Step?

At least from the experience of most people on the Internet, the answer is “no.”

In the final analysis, this unspoken workplace rule that has been overemphasized is not only because of the rookie’s demonization of workplace pressure, but also because of the unrealistic imagination and beautification of workplace relationships.

When they finally realize that work is the essence of survival, they probably won’t have such a big fear about how to call people in the workplace.

This article is from WeChat official account: Vista see the world (ID: vistaweek) , author: Feng Meili