This article is from WeChat official account:Grid Thirteen (ID: GSSW13) , author: thirteen sister, from the head of FIG: “eyebrows” stills
Recently, I read a post with a unique sense of joy, about “Scientific Puppy Love”.
Said that in a very famous middle school in Haidian, a teacher complained: the parents of the two children who fell in love with each other were very pleasing to the eye, and the two families simply dated like in-laws, and said to the teacher, “Don’t interfere.” At most, some rewards and punishments will be adopted, such as placing their seats at both ends of the classroom when the exam ranking drops…
In fact, the mentality of parents is quite understandable! Think about it, The marriage and love market is actually very sluggish right now, and it’s really hard to find someone after entering the society. Wouldn’t it be a good thing if the two families knew the roots from an early age?
For forward-looking parents, this is a lot of joy:
First, the child is actually willing to fall in love.
Secondly, the object of love is the opposite sex.
Third, the vision is not bad.
Fourth, being able to fall in love in such a place and time period with such a great academic pressure indicates that you have enough energy to learn, and at least there is no depression.
But we must note that there are several prerequisite keywords that are very important: “Haidian”, “very famous middle school”.
We all know that China’s education sees Haidian and Haidian Niu Schools are connected together.
The two children of Haidian Cattle School are in love. What does this mean? Isn’t this the top of the chain of contempt in the puppy love world-win-win hedge.
If I were the parent of this child, I would not stop him. Why, the reason is very simpleSeeing the cultivated one with your own eyes, and when the child grows up, you don’t know where to get it back. Can it be the same? This wave of investment is not a loss.
Someone wants to question: If the children break up in the future, won’t they lose?
Then your pattern is not enough. Think about it, this wave of investment will allow children to experience what is meant by “love at the right time” from now on, experience “the hardships of working together to make progress together”, and experience the feeling of suffering together for the couple. In the future, they have become the best. If they fail and break up, the next time they find a partner, they won’t lose their eyesight. Find one that is not as good as the current one, right? That means they will find someone with a better education background, better family cultivation, better education and abilities.
In this way, the risk of the next relationship is reduced.
The more critical point is that the “quasi-in-law” can set the growth goals of the future daughter-in-law/son-in-law, more or less participate in the growth of their children’s future spouses, and cultivate calmly in the direction they like.
For example, I often advise my prospective relatives: “Let your daughter learn to dance! How cute are girls who can dance!”
In addition, I would also persuade them to send their daughters to learn painting and painting, music, recitation, and writing…because I feel that my son, a straight man, will be a piece of cake in these fields. Stinky and hard stone.
You must find a girl with a literary talent to hedge.
Looking back now, my prospective relatives seem to have this kind of thought. For example, once I heard that my son learned baseball, they were very happy, and even wanted to pay my son tuition in order to persevere.
Love is pure, especially early love. People who fall in love go shopping and watch movies to buy clothes and bags, and the relatives who fall in love can bring their children to learn sports and buy the “Three Years College Entrance Examination and Five Years Simulation”, which is fun.
Really, a foresight parent, not only invests in his own baby, but also invests in the baby of the future in-laws. Thinking about it now, this is great wisdom.
The risk becomes uncontrollable when looking for someone after entering the society. Only when the children are still in school and the circle is relatively small and stable, can it be easy to see whether their families are evenly matched.
Marriage is an economic combination, the strategic reorganization of two companies, each marriage is essentially an investment.
Let me give you a detailed analysis of the technology of “Marriage Investment”.
Marriage is a venture capital for the party with relatively good conditions. For the party with slightly lower conditions, it is risk hedging.
When two people with poor conditions are together, it is called joint operation, which is to dilute the cost and eat together.
When two people with good conditions are together, it is called asset acquisition and reorganization, which is conducive to becoming bigger and stronger. Of course, it may also turn profits into losses when they fall apart.
Things like the premature love of students from a famous Haidian school are equivalent to binding two high-net-worth individuals.
Once married, it is equivalent to going public, and the financial report must be made public. At present, most of the financial reports of listed companies have to make two copies. Keep one copy for yourself, and you know how warm and cold you are; one copy for the circle of friends is a big red flower every day.
After giving birth to a baby, I opened a subsidiary.
If the subsidiary operates well, it can still add icing on the cake. But there are also many parent companies that are pretty good, but their subsidiaries are losing money all the year round.
If you invest too high a cost in a subsidiary, and you are unable to recover, you must invest carefully and stop the loss in time, but you must find a way to find an investor to share the cost. There are such parents around me. Seeing that the child is not for learning, I immediately turned around and went outside the system. I participated in various high school activities. Through the child, I met the parents of the classmates and got to know a lot of people who are either rich or expensive. As long as you improve your emotional intelligence and find someone from your classmates, the return on investment will be very impressive.
Of course, we don’t support this way of cutting investors’ leeks. We still advocate self-investment.
A friend of mine has to send her child to a famous children’s choir. She has two reasons:
Make up for the regret of not joining the choir when I was young;
Meet the children in the choir.
I asked her why she wanted to meet so muchThe kids in the choir? She said: It’s difficult to explain clearly to you. The general idea is that they are willing to send their children to the choir instead of sending them to some more utilitarian classes. Most of them are parents who are a little emotional, or rather, they are willing to put their children in the choir. The children are trained in literature and art, not in the arms race. The family background and tutoring are quite good.
She didn’t expect to find someone for her children in this group. In her words: Let the children get in touch with this kind of people, and gather people in groups. In the future, she won’t have a low vision, and she will gradually learn more about her life. High-quality people may be more open-minded.
Just like the situation mentioned in the “Scientific Puppy Love” post, I used to be afraid that my early love would delay my study, but now I am afraid that love and marriage will turn into poverty alleviation.
So everyone pays much attention to sorting out the circle of marriage partners earlier.This is essentially “another effort by the middle class to preserve their class status.”
This article is from WeChat official account:Grid Thirteen (ID: GSSW13) , author: thirteen sister