When you shoot, you will be shot, and let go when you let go.
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Editor’s note: We tend to fall into a certain period of emotions and work in a certain job. It is obvious that we are still struggling to maintain a painful environment. In fact, it is not necessary. Learning to let go is also a technique, and letting go is much easier than sticking. After letting go, you will find that your mood is more enjoyable, your mood is more open, your life is getting better, and the future seems to be more promising. So, if you face these 10 signs in the text, don’t hesitate to let go. This article is translated from medium, article author Anton Chevalier, original title 10 Signs It’s Time to Let Go and Move on with Your Life.
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The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the status quo, unless you realize that the status quo is over, you will not be able to move forward.
No need to deny, I am really good at making things in a bad environment.
The current relationship does not bring me any benefit, or I have paid more than my partner. I have no interest in the work I have been doing. When I need friendship, I look around and find that no one can help me, and no one can comfort me.
Do you also face such a dilemma?
Have you ever been in a job, a relationship or a friendship for a long time and can’t extricate yourself?
Unbelievably, in order to be paid, in order not to be so lonely, God knows how much we are willing to let ourselves endure much grievances. But in this case, the only person who suffers is yourself.
Persistence may seem more like habit, but it takes courage to let go, and moving forward often makes us stronger and happier.
Whether you are facing a friend, lover or partner, the following 10 signs indicate that you should let go and move on.
They want you to be anotherOne person outside
It’s never a good sign to stop doing yourself in order to please others. For someone or a group of people, like new friends, you can give them a little bit of it. Generally speaking, through courtesy and restraint, we learn to exchange and enjoy something new. This is called growth and compromise.
But you should not grieve yourself in order to meet the needs of others, which leads to deviations in your identity.
It’s more sensible to lose someone than to be yourself and to keep it. Because repairing a broken heart is easier than repairing a broken identity, filling in what you have occupied in your life is easier than filling the place you occupied in your own life.
Their words and deeds
Everyone has the right to think about tomorrow, or think about tomorrow with the help of others.
But if someone has a negative impact on you, because they are always inconsistent and have different words and deeds, then it is time to leave them.
It’s better to go alone than to go to a group of bad friends. A true friendship is a commitment from the heart—innocent, unspeakable, unable to be broken by distance, unable to be changed by time. Don’t listen to what others say, but what others do. As time goes by, your true friends will slowly reveal their true side.
You want others to love you
You can’t force others to love you.
If someone wants to leave your life, let them leave, remember to bless them and give them freedom. This is all of love – freedom. Love is sometimes let go.
However, the end of love is not the end of life. This should be the beginning of understanding: love has a reason at the beginning, and will leave you a lesson when you leave.
If someone really loves you, they will never give you reason to doubt. Anyone can walk into your life and tell you how much they love you, but you only need a special person to stay in your life to prove how much you love you. Sometimes it takes a while to find the right person, but the right person is always worth waiting for.
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Your relationship is based on the “good-looking skin”
How beautiful you are, not just how many people stare intentlyYou or someone else’s first impression of you to decide.
The real beauty is about who you are and what you represent and reflection.
You have to understand the meaning of beauty correctly, you have to understand what makes you unique. Beauty requires you to be true to yourself, to live honestly, and to be beautiful, habits, and behaviors that make you unique.
Those who are only attracted to the outside will not stay long. But those who can see your true beauty will never leave you.
Disappoints your trust
Love means giving others the opportunity to hurt you, but you have to believe that they won’t do it.
When you trust a person completely, there is no doubt that you will get one of the following two results – a lifetime friend or a lifetime lesson. Regardless of the outcome, I think it is all good.
Because you either confirm that this person really cares about you, or that you have the opportunity to get rid of them from your life and make room for those who care about you. Finally, you will find out who is a hypocritical person, who is a real and noble person, who will take risks for you.
Unable to be respected or valued
First, if you don’t know your value, then others won’t cherish your value. So, first take a moment to discover how important you are to everyone in your life.
When you are with someone who doesn’t respect you, you give your value to them.
Things change when you let go. If someone really can’t live without you in life, they will find ways to leave you behind.
Sometimes you need to let go and accept the fact that not everyone cares about you as much as you care about them. If this is the case, then without these people your life will be better. So the best way is to let these people disappear from your life.
Let’s go is easier than sticking, and after you let go, your value will thank you.
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You never have the opportunity to express your opinions and share your feelings and opinions
If you can’t express yourself to others, and there is no way to let your voice be heard by others, why are you being ignored like an air?
A person who cares about you and loves you will let you share your thoughts. You can’t always receive feedback you want to hear, but it’s important that you can talk openly.
Sometimes quarrels can save a relationship, but silence can destroy it. Say your voice so you don’t regret it. Life is not to make others happy. Life is to be true and share yourself with others.
You sacrificed your own happiness
If you allow people to take more than what you want in your life, you will end up emotionally bankrupt.
You need to know when to say “no” to someone else’s request. It is better to be alone in a dignity than to obtain a relationship that requires you to sacrifice happiness and self-esteem.
You really don’t like your current situation
Failure on things you like is better than success on things you hate.
Don’t let those who give up their dreams convince you to give up on your dreams.
The best thing you can do in life is to follow your inner thoughts. Be brave enough to take risks and don’t make safe and reliable choices for fear of what might happen. If you always do this, no miracles will happen.
The beauty of life is that you can change your situation at any time. Even if the first step is the hardest, the rewards are endless.
You find yourself indulging in the past
You can control only the current moment. The only way to solve any situation is to look ahead. Always looking back, it will only make you forget today. No matter what happened in the past, good or bad, let it pass in the past, and you can’t do anything anyway.
In the end, you will realize that the secret of happiness and freedom is not to control or retaliate, but to let things go with the flow, and to learn from these experiences and grow your experience.
After all, it is the last chapter of your life, not the first chapter of your life, because the last chapter reveals how wonderful your life story is. So, let go of the past, expand your thinking, and accept the infinite possibilities of new experiences.
Write at the end
Leaving everything in life has two ways to go: forgive and let go.
In contrast to what people generally believe, forgiveness is not a sign of weakness, but a symbol of a strong connection with oneself. This means that you are respectful enough to be able to stand up, it means you have enough confidence to say “There is nothing to put down.”
Let’s not mean that you don’t love, but your protection and love for the other half. If you are strong enough to let others go, then you are strong enough to love someone. Letting go can rejuvenate your soul and increase your awareness of yourself.
Translator: Xi Tang