No one cares about your failure, you just need to practice constantly.
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Editor’s note: We are thinking about change every day, but few people can immediately take action. There are many reasons, for example, you may lose confidence because you didn’t do well at first. But once you can’t do it twice, you can do it twice. If you do it a hundred times, you will do better and better, because the failures in the past are all laying a solid foundation for success. The article is translated from medium, the author Ayodeji Awosika, original titleEmbrace the Suck: How to Develop the Skills You Need to Succeed (Even If You’re Not Very Good).
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I want to tell you a sad fact that applies to 95% of people.
That is, what you want to do, the way you want to go, the career you want to start, the new business you want to pursue, you will not only do it now, but you will probably never do it.
Why?
Because you don’t have any confidence in yourself, you don’t think you can do it. All your behavior shows that you are not doing what you want to achieve.
You just stay in your comfort zone, thinking non-stop but never acting.
But you are less likely to see your dreams and have to suffer more.
You will want to know what will happen. I have to say that you can really bury your dreams in the depths of your heart, but every once in a while, those dreams that are suppressed by you will whisper in your ear and beg you to chase and realize them.
But you won’t.
What’s even more tragic is that this loop will repeat throughout your life, over and over again.
Keep this sentence in mind:
I will tell you what hell is: that is, on your last day in the world, you have come back and forth and you have met the people you wanted and could have become.
——Anonymous
This is the last moment of your life. Maybe in “Hell,” you will want to know what you have done in your life, why you should back down, why not take the courage to pursue your dreams.
Can this fate be avoided?
Of course.
Is it really ok?
Of course, avoiding this fate is not only possible, but you can be the one you want to be.
So, since you are reading this article, you are at least hopeful, at least willing to give it a try. This is a good start.
Of course, even if this is a good start, nothing will happen until you actually take action.
You are bad, you are rotten
Aspirational writers often send their work to me, well, their work is simply rotten.
Sorry, I am just telling the truth.
For whatever reason, people just don’t like to admit that they are rotten. Maybe it’s because your self-awareness wants to protect your fragile heart. Maybe it’s because of your laziness and lack of patience. Maybe it is because this is the truth.
When you fail, you can feel the distance between your current location and the place you want to reach. This obvious gap is really frustrating. But that doesn’t mean you feel like you can’t get there, but you feel that trying to make sense to you doesn’t seem too far from your goal.
You have been in a system that has failed to hinder growth through decades, and it doesn’t help you. The way the school is educated determines whether you think about the right or wrong of the problem, you are competing with your peers, and then the teachers assign values based on your performance. You are tagged and scolded for “failure.”
When you write the wrong steps in the answer sheet, the teacher is not encouraging you. Your method is also very clever. You can try something else, but simply use a red pen to make a big fork, then you only Knowing that your answer is wrong, but why is it wrong, how to correct it, you are completely ignorant.
So when people start from 5 years old to 22 years old and have been repeating such experiences, they no longer want to learn. They have crossed the barriers and got a diploma that they have been fighting for for many years, and now they want to be safe and steady rather than frightened for a lifetime.
But after a while, you will find that Anan is not able to spend his life steadily. Everything is terrible in the workplace or somewhere else.
I don’t have any inspiring words to tell you here. If youTo break this system, you need to learn new skills. And at the beginning, you will definitely feel that you are rotten, yes, it will be rotten when you are rotten, you can accept it.
How much comfort you give yourself is not useful, you need to act, understand? There is no insurmountable gap between thought and action, and you need to put yourself into action. Only after a period of action can you find some great new things in your life.
And, in the process, you will learn some important experiences.
No one cares about your failure
Earning through luck in the early years is the worst way to succeed, because the bad habits it intensifies can bring immeasurable losses to your entire life.
——Naval Ravikant
I use writing to illustrate this, but this kind of thinking applies to any skill, not just writing.
There is a writer who almost always fails. They are the ones who want to write some blockbuster books that are popular all over the world.
However, behind every writer like Kristen Roupenian, there are thousands of writers who fail to succeed immediately.
There are thousands of writers who fall into the trap of perfectionism and the result is nothing.
Easy success is not something you should pursue, because then you can’t learn from failure.
Compare Roupenian with one of my favorite authors, James Altucher.
James Altucher’s 17th book, Choose Yourself, is a classic that sells more than 1 million copies and is published at your own expense!
If you visit his Amazon homepage, you will see some of his other very bad books, especially if some books are ugly and can’t be seen. But when people buy “Choose Yourself” on Amazon and browse the nearly 2,000 comments below, they will search for books that he has written in the past before deciding to buy to determine if his writing is consistently good?
The answer is no.
People don’t care about your struggles. They just want to see the finished product and see the glamorous side after you win. On the one hand, this is annoying because some people think you are lucky, even if you work hard. But on the other hand, your past “failure” will not have any adverse effect on you.
Everyone who sees your success only knows that you are a cool, great, and skilled person.
People will look at you in awe. People always ask me: “How do you write so well and write?So much?
My answer is “Relentless practice for many years.”
Obviously this is not the answer they want, they want to hear more legendary stories.
Only you will know how painful it is to go to this day. You will also realize how much you love what you have achieved.
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How to reshape your way of thinking through practice?
If you have achieved some success through perseverance, you will naturally look back at all the lessons. However, if you can learn and accept them in advance in some way, then when most people just start to act, you are already far ahead.
These lessons are about how to reshape your way of thinking. The way of thinking is an important concept. Although they may not seem to be a name, and sometimes they feel awkward, you can use these ways of thinking to change your perspective.
The following are some of the experiences I have learned through practice, practice, and then progressive improvement:
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Frustration=Growth: When you are depressed or in a state of frustration, you will realize that frustration is the only way to growth. Overcoming frustration lays the foundation for your existence and allows you to continue to grow for the rest of your life.
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Quantity=Experience: I will let my students practice the title, not to make it difficult for them. After all, no one wants to write a bad title. But what I want to emphasize is that when you do a bad thing, although you don’t think it is “meaningful,” the opposite is true. Even today, every time I write 10 titles, 9 are terrible. But the remaining title is usually quite exciting. So I said, the more the number, the greater the chance of quality.
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Failure = Truth: You need to fail because it gives you feedback on what to do and what not to do. Failure will make you closer to success. Similarly, failure will make you no longer daydreaming, and will let you learn to face reality. It is not excluded that some people do not want to face reality. But you have to know that if you don’t face reality, you can’t get what you want. Every time you fail, you are one step closer to your goal – this is the so-called addition by subtraction.
Usually, people ask me how long it takes them to get better. They asked this because they were lucky. But there are indeed a few people who really want to know how to succeed.
So, how long does it take to master a new skill?
No one can say this.
“100 rule”
Most of your top 100 blog posts are bad.
Most of your top 100 podcasts are also bad.
Your first 100 speeches are not perfect.
Your top 100 videos simply can’t be seen.
——Cammi Pham
I think this rule is quite common. Marketing expert Josh Spector wrote an article called “Only Do it if You’re Willing to do it 100 Times.” Mark Manson, a blogger and bestselling author, says you need to write 100 blogs to know if you want to write, let alone find your own style. The same is true in the sales industry. Maybe you can make 100 calls and only have 10 responses. Then 3 agree to the interview and finally make a business.
In general, you don’t have to succeed often to be successful. You can write 100 bad songs, but if the 101st song is popular, you have a path to future success. The same is true for writing, taking videos, or doing anything that requires a repetitive process.
And without surprise, you will perform quite well in your 95th, 96th, 97th, 98th, 99th and 100th times, gradually on the right track of creative growth and then succeed.
There is also a possibility that you are not prepared for the road ahead, and this is also possible. Seth Godin talked about this in Dip. But in any case, you still have to work hard and see if the road you are in is worth pursuing. Maybe not worth it, but at least you know it’s not worth it.
Achieve a leap
Stabilizing and fulfilling your duties, step by step, you don’t have to go forward. But you can prepare for the forward rush…you can go one inch and one inch, you can go forward day by day, every day – if you live long enough – most People will get what they deserve.
——Charlie Munger
At some point, your skills will advance by leaps and bounds, and you will achieve the same results. The number of people who viewed my articles this year alone exceeded the total of the first three to four years. now,I can quickly write a good blog post, basically doing the same thing as “there is a god”.
Of course, things are not always like this. The things I wrote in the past are also rotten. I sometimes read what I wrote before, purely to remember what it was like at the time. Oh, those articles are really no different from garbage, and it’s awful. However, after I wrote hundreds of such garbage, I reached the height I wanted. I prefer these articles in the past, because they have laid the foundation for my current article.
It feels great!
Nothing is easy at first. As the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning. You will find that you not only need to learn some of the main skills, but also need to learn some other skills. Still, in terms of writing, you have to type at least, at least you can edit it?
Now, when I do these things, I am in one go, I don’t need to think at all.
When you achieve a “flying”, your skills will become your second nature. First of all, it’s great, because you have the skills to make a living. Second, once you have mastered other skills (such as “second day sex”), you will not be scared by new skills that you may want to learn in the future.
Why? Because you know that you will eventually use these new skills in a fire. Once you have acquired these skills, they will always belong to you – this is the truth.
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Continuous progress, pain and happiness
If you want to achieve new achievements, you only need to constantly learn new skills that you don’t know until you are over.
At least I plan to do this. I now have a habit of suffering. I want to try new things and relive the pain. Of course, suffering is still very difficult to experience.
But you will fall in love with the feeling of failure. You will like to be a beginner again. The painful process is also the process of creation.
You want to be stronger.
This society will never praise the virtues of weakness and helplessness.
You will want to know how powerful you can be.
Do you think you are bad?
Nothing, your path to change has only just begun.
Translator: Xitang