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Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “Notesman” (ID :Notesman), author Photon | Ph.D. in Neurobiology, Columbia University.
Content Source: September 28, 2019, at the “Flash.deep Technology” lecture hall hosted by talks in a moment, the author of “The Secret of the World’s Edge”, Dr. Photon of the Department of Neurobiology of Columbia University, entitled “From The wonderful sharing of the essence of life in the quantum world. As a partner, Note Man is reviewed and authorized by the organizer and speaker.
Before you invite me to read, think about it:
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Why are we busy every day, but our hearts are empty and empty?
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Why didn’t we share a world?
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How do you make the right choice?
There are many things in the world, and they are constantly changing. At the crossroads of life or career, are you often confused? Degree, promotion, you work hard on the career track, and faster and faster under competitive pressure, but do you often feel lost and empty?
You should stop and think about it: Where does this road lead? At the end of the competition runway, is it really what you want to be fulfilled and satisfied?
In the past 20 years, science has made great progress, and the country has become more and more prosperous, but confusion, loss and emptiness are spreading in the crowd like the plague.
China has nearly 100 million people with depression and is the country with the largest number of depressions in the world. Suicide has become the leading cause of death among Chinese people aged 15 to 34, with 60-70% of people with depression.
Approximately 1 million Chinese people commit suicide each year due to depression, thisThe number is about 15 times the number of deaths in a car accident. About 30 seconds, one Chinese committed suicide.
The reason is closely related to the outlook on life. The outlook on life is based on the world view.
First, the destruction of the traditional world view
The traditional worldview tells us that people live in a vast universe. The birth of a person is like a big round stone falling on a hillside. It naturally rolls down, not by choosing to fall there.
And, the universe is huge, we are extremely small, it seems to have nothing to do with us, it was already there before we came, and it is still there after we leave. Whether we exist or not, it does not care. We are just a bunch of cells that have died in a huge, labyrinthine place for a while.
This sounds very reasonable, but this traditional worldview has been wrongly proven by the last one or two hundred years of science.
1. Science finds everything is empty
We have a common impression that the universe is very, very large, how big? Let’s count it. It is known that there are two things in the universe: matter and energy, and Einstein discovered about 100 years ago that matter can be converted into energy.
If you compare material to ice and energy to water, the whole universe is like an ice bucket. You can melt the ice and measure the total amount of water, that is, convert all the energy into energy. What is the total energy?
Scientists knew the answer more than 50 years ago: the total energy of the entire universe is added together to be equal to zero. This is because there is something called negative energy, which is an energy contained in the gravitational field.
The reason why we can sit here and not float in the air is precisely because the earth has a gravitational field.
Why does the earth have a gravitational field? Because it has quality. The higher the quality, the larger the gravitational field and the greater the negative energy.
Positive energy and negative energy, the sum of the sum is 0. Just like someone digs a hole in a flat land, we only see the pileThe higher the soil, the less the pit that was dug deeper. When we returned the soil to the pit, it was still the original flat.
We know that matter is made up of molecules, and molecules are made up of atoms. About 100 years ago, humans discovered that atoms are hollow, how long is it? If you enlarge the atom into a ball as big as a 30-story building, only the nucleus with large sesame seeds is solid.
2. Wave-particle duality
This “sesame” is made up of protons and neutrons, which can also be divided into smaller elementary particles. Humans have discovered that elementary particles have two characteristics at the same time:
When observed, it is a particle, a one-piece, concrete, real thing; but when it is not observed, it is a probability wave.
As you know, chances are the possibility, for example, there is a 10% chance that it will rain today. The probability wave means that the probability changes with time. For example, the probability of rain today is 10%, tomorrow is 30%, the day after tomorrow is 20%, and the day after tomorrow is 100%.
The probability wave is a changing number, not a specific “thing”.
For light or waves, top scientists, including Newton, argued for more than 300 years, and the end result is that light is both a wave and a particle. This is a very important discovery.
Before this, humans did not expect that the same thing can be both waves and particles. This is called wave-particle duality. About 90 years ago, the French physicist Louis-Victorde Broglie discovered that the basic particles that make up all matter have wave-particle duality.
For example, when you look at the moon, it is always a big one hanging in the air, because there is a moon hanging in your mind. When unobserved, the elementary particles that make up the moon are a bunch of numbers that jump up and down.
Second, quantum world view
The basic particles are a bunch of possibilities when they are not observed. What is the real world discovered by quantum mechanics today?
When the world is unobserved, you can think of it as a big “fire of numbers” – numbers are leaping around the world.
When you look at it, your mind is like a mirror. The “flame of the numbers” will form a picture of the flame in your mind, the world we see.
The particles we observe are concrete and objective, the so-called real world that we believe.
The whole world seems to be reversed by quantum physics: “outside” has a world, but it is a lot of numbers; there is a feeling in our mind that it is a real world, but it is just an image.
Two worlds! How novel and revolutionary this concept is!
But it is not new. Many philosophers, religious leaders, and scientists have thought of these two worlds in the past, just using different nouns to describe them, and today’s scientific findings are exactly the same.
The Buddha called the world of color, which means particle state; the invisible world is empty, that is, the wave state.
The Taoist called the world that can be seen, this is the particle state; calling the invisible world, this is the wave state.
The ancient Indian Brahmanism has now developed into Hinduism. They call the things that can be seen as illusion, the invisible but ubiquitous, all-encompassing world called Brahman.
Why do the concepts of science, philosophy, and religion have similarities? If there is a mountain of wisdom, it has several slopes, one called the slope of science, one called the slope of philosophy, one called the slope of religion, some people climb up along different slopes, and the last place they come to is the top of the mountain. It is the same place, and the “top wisdom” they find should of course be the same.
Now, let’s go back and check out the “maze” we saw at the start. We think that everyone is sharing a fixed “maze” and looking for a fixed exit, but because they don’t know where the exit is and which way is right, they will imitate others.
Today, this labyrinth has completely changed: the place we are in is concrete and real. The passage next door we are not in, because it has not been observed, is only a possibility; only if you go to the next channel, it is “Curing” becomes a reality.
A person’s life is a process of constantly experiencing his own exploration and creation.
This new worldview is completely different from the past. The world is full of possibilities. If you want one of these possibilities to become a reality, you must work in that direction.
I want to tell a little story about my personal experience: About 31 years ago, I was 20 years old and my family was very poor. I wanted to go to the United States to study, but I was worried that the TOEFL should pay the registration fee in US dollars. At that time, the currency control was much stricter than it is now, and the dollar could not be exchanged everywhere.
When the deadline for the application was only two days, I couldn’t sit at home and went out to the streets. But how can the street find the dollar? ! Until the afternoon, I was tired and thirsty and hungry. When I was desperate, I looked up and saw a sign in front of me, saying: “BeautifulYuan goes here!!
I was stunned, with curiosity, along with the brand to find a bank window, I learned that I can change to the US dollar with the unit introduction letter. In this way, with a letter of introduction, I changed to the US dollar, took the TOEFL test, and went abroad.
After more than 30 years, I can still remember the kind of shock at the time, just as I used ideas to turn a brand into reality. If there are not more than 20 dollars, I will probably not stand here today to tell you this story.
Is that brand “change” with my mind? Absolutely not. But conversely, if I have been sitting at home, if I am not out of great desire, or even desperate, I will not go out to find the dollar.
Some people don’t like their work, feel that they are repeating every day, expecting a miracle to happen, and they will start to like this job. This is impossible.
You have to go to the “channel” you want to make that “channel” a reality.
Three, we did not share a world
1. The world you experience is centered on you
This world is so amazing, we can actually turn a lot of possibilities into reality, but where are we going to go? Most people are asking for higher wisdom, such as checking on the Internet, reading books, asking people who are looking for wisdom, or learning from successful people, how do people do it, and how do I do it.
These methods are not wrong in their own right, but we have forgotten one of the most fundamental things:
Step 0 must go before everything starts, that is, you must answer what you want.
Steve Jobs used a famous method, staring at the mirror every day and saying to himself, “If today is the last day of my life, will I do what I want to do today? If I have said many days in a row ‘No’, then I won’t do it.”
This sounds simple, but there is a very big problem. He didn’t say how many days to say “no” to change behavior. Some people say “no” to themselves every day, say that they have been dead for decades, and they have not changed. This is notIs it OK? Will they regret it?
The easiest way to know the answer to this question is to ask someone who is about to die.
Australian Bonnie Weir wants to know what people are ultimately regretting before they die, so they choose to be palliative care, to take care of those who are dying, and to understand what they are ultimately regretting.
She collected the learned situation and wrote a best-selling book, “The Five Things I Ended Before I Finished.”
The book says that the last thing that people regret before they die is: “If I have the courage to live a life of my own, not what others think I should live.”
This sentence reminds me of another sentence, which was said by Mr. Yang Lan on his 100th birthday. “We have been looking forward to the recognition of the outside world. At the end, we know that the world is its own and has nothing to do with others. .”
Everyone should taste this sentence. It is talking about “one person, one world” – everyone has a world of their own.
This sounds like anti-science, and it’s clear that we all share a world. When we think about the world, we are thinking about a stage with many people. “I” is a very common member of many actors; if you are modest, you will not think that you are the middle one, but the side. The foil.
Once this thought, I made a big mistake – we ran outside the stage and described ourselves on the stage. But you must always look at the world through your own pupils. You can’t run outside the stage to see yourself.
The stage of life, like a huge plain, you are always in the most central position. This stage will always be centered on you until the day you die.
So, our perception of the world is completely wrong. We will point to the starry sky and say, “I” is an ordinary one of the 7 billion stars. But if you are really a star, you can never run outside the starry sky. When you look around, you will see other stars, and you will always look around.
In your life stage, you are like in the middle of the solar system, where you are in the position of the sun, there is no way to escapefrom.
A person is famous, rich, and powerful. He wants to interact with you or get your center. If he never appears on your stage, he has nothing to do with you.
Yes, you are so powerful, and you can never leave the center of this stage. This is extremely important.
2. Why don’t we share a world?
After listening to this, many people may still not accept the phrase “we don’t share a world”, even if we can imagine it. Next, I will give you some scientific evidence.
First of all, the world we experience is entirely the world we feel.
You can guess, you can believe, but you can’t directly know the world outside of your feelings; but everyone’s feelings are different.
The simplest example: We look at the flower on the far left of the screen. Do you agree that it is red? But how do you know that the red feeling we feel is the same?
If you see the red feeling is the same as I see the yellow, you will still call it red, because from small to large, people around us call it red, although you feel it is yellow, but Still call it red.
At least one of the people in the room saw that the flower was yellow, because there were 5% to 10% color blindness in humans, and some of them looked red and yellow. Moreover, there are many kinds of color blindness. Everyone sees the same flower. Even if they see red, the degree of vividness is likely to be different.
Secondly, the time and space that each person experiences is different.
Einstein used it hundreds of years agoA humorous and humorous approach points this out. He said: “You and the beauty are together for an hour, just like sitting on the stove for a minute.”
Einstein has discovered that speed can affect the speed of time flowing, which has been confirmed by science. Some scientists took the extremely precise atomic clock (a timing device with an accuracy of 1 second per 20 million years) and took the plane in different directions. After flying a circle, they compared these clocks and found that the time was indeed Different.
We are in different time and space, but we can’t detect this because the “seam” is too narrow and the difference is too small. But the difference is small, we are still two worlds, the difference is equal to zero, we are the same world.
Another factor that affects the speed of time rogue is the gravitational field. The earth is a huge gravitational field. The closer it is to the earth’s center, the stronger the gravitational field, and the time flowing in that place is slower.
For example, we are on the second floor. There is a cleaning aunt on the first floor. We went downstairs after an hour on the second floor. She is getting slower than us.
The speed of two people in the world, the gravity field is always the same, so people’s time space has very subtle differences, but we can’t find it, we can’t feel it.
The difference in time and space between relativism is not on paper, but closely related to us. We often use GPS in our lives. GPS is positioned by multiple satellites flying around the earth at different altitudes. Therefore, the speed and gravity field of these satellites are different, so their time and space are not. same.
If we ignore this difference, the accumulated error of GPS on a global scale will be about 10 kilometers per day, and GPS will not work.
We always feel that everyone shares a world. When the sky falls down, there are others who support it. This is not the case. You don’t need to understand relativity to understand one person and one world. People who are close to you can’t stay with you forever! Even if you stay with you every moment, you can’t feel the same feeling every moment; even if you look at it The same thing is different from how you feel. He can’t say it, and you won’t know it.
Everyone’s consciousness is like a mirror. There is an image inside. Although the images are very similar, each one has its own image in the mirror. We did not share a mirror and did not share a consciousness.
One person, one world, science has found a familiar idea from another angle.
Four, follow your inner love
Everyone has their own unique world. This world is tailor-made for you; you have your world, the world you feel, you didn’t have it before you came, and you didn’t have it after you left.
In your world, you are the only driver of your own destiny car. Where are you going, where are the cars? Don’t wait for someone to tell you where to go, because others don’t know. What others are telling you is just a consideration from his own point of view. He does not know the deep desire in your heart.
You have to make this decision yourself. You must look inward, you must know your inner desires, and follow this desire to find.
I want to tell a story that is directly related to the above passage. My brother and sister’s previous life trajectory has developed quite smoothly. Her undergraduate degree is a bachelor’s degree. After graduation, she worked as a doctor for 14 years in the top three hospitals in China, and then worked as a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Tennessee for three years.
One day, she called me and said that the postdoc will not continue because her tutor is old enough to retire.
So I consulted and asked my opinion. She said that there are several possibilities now. One is to continue to be a postdoctoral fellow in a laboratory; the second is to go back to be a doctor; the third is to go to the pharmaceutical factory for scientific research… nothing more than the logical things we imagined.
When she talked about these things, she hesitated and gave me the feeling that her interest was not high.
I suggest that she put her hand on the side and think about it: If you don’t work for money, but work for what you want to do, what you will do, such as love for something, inner desire What is it?
She hesitated and said, “I want to write a novel.” She said that she has tried all kinds of things. The only thing that does not sleep for a long time and is not tired for a long time is to write novels.
I think that if she continues on the original track, she will be half-hearted in her life, and she always wants to do another thing. She is doing things that others think she should do, and it is impossible to excel.
There are too many mediocre researchers and doctors in the world, and there is no need for one more; but there are few excellent writers, especially in contemporary China.
So I said to her: “We all support you, you do your current job, don’t do research, don’t be a doctor, you write a novel full time.”
She hesitated and repeated, and finally began to write novels because of her inner desire. It was quite difficult at first, and the first publication fee was a lot of twists and turns, but later it became more and more smooth.
Twelve years have passed, and she has published a novel online or offline every year. More than a dozen books have been published. Her writing is very good, and it is getting better and better. As long as I persist, I believe that it is very possible to be an outstanding novelist. I am happy for her.
Say, even if she didn’t become a great novelist, I have at least one happier younger sibling, and her children will learn her hunger for her innermost feelings, and our big family is therefore happier.
So I suggest that you look inside, know what you want, and followyourheart (follow your heart).
A lot of times, there is a sharp conflict between what you think in your heart and what you want to do in your head. I am a very pragmatic person. I was born very poor. Later, I walked all the way, and the conflict between my brain and my heart has experienced many times.
When I got an MBA from Stanford in 1998, my personal net worth was $20,000 (because I owe $20,000 in student loans), which is 100 times worse than when I first went to the US because I was only owing two people. One hundred dollars. I got the offer from McKinsey & Company management consulting firm, and the various incomes were added together for $143,000 a year.
This offer is very tempting, I should sign it right away, but I can’t help myself to sign this offer, why? Because I have done management consulting, I understand that management consulting is a little bit tickle for me, but addiction.
For me, there is a fun thing to do VC (wind). Doing VC can help startups grow and turn knowledge into products that fit my dreams.
At that time, a VC company called Walden gave me an offer. Walden was an old VC and led Sina.It was already huge at the time and it was operated in 12 Asian countries. But they gave me an offer that was about 40% lower than McKinsey.
I was short of money at the time, and a 40% reduction was a big amount for me. I am extremely entangled, trying to analyze and compare the two offers, how to see is to win the McKinsey. My brain has repeatedly told me: If you don’t sign McKinsey, you are crazy!
However, my heart is desperate to do VC. In the end, my heart won. Although the first few years are also very rough, because this is a very challenging job, but because of my love, I have been persevering. Once you love one thing, you will always get through some obstacles encountered in the process of doing this. I am a 21 year.
In the last 12 years, I have been a partner in the world’s largest investment company in the biomedical industry. Our company manages about $13 billion and my job is to create the entire Asian Department.
The Asian Department did not exist 12 years ago. No one, no investment. But today, Aobo manages about $2 billion in Asia, and pre-IPO companies have invested more than 50.
I think I have chosen a path that suits me. If I do management consulting for money, I still feel that it is very boring, it will be very boring, I will definitely be half-hearted and unable to last. If I encounter obstacles, I will definitely turn. It is very painful to think about another road as you move forward.
If you have this feeling, don’t continue, be sure to followyourheart.
I will still followmyheart in the future, and I have to point out to everyone:
Don’t think that you will solve it once forever, life is full of forks, and everything is yin and yang, not so clear, you will always have a tangled.
I have been retiring from the position of the partner after 12 years in this company, and I am going to do something I love more.
This is also a great entanglement. Like McKinsey, the brain analyzes it: if you continue to be a partner,It’s comfortable and makes more money; but I have another craving in my heart – building a brand new company and platform from zero to one, my heart wins again.
Finally, I want to end my speech with a piece of Steve Jobs:
The only way to do great work is to lovewhat you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters ofthe heart, you’ll know when you find it.< /p>
The only way to achieve great things is to do the work you love. If you don’t know what you love, keep looking, don’t. Like other things related to the heart, once you find it, you will naturally know to find it.