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Today’s topic:

“After my illness, my family has strict control over what I eat and spend money.” How do I view my family’s intervention and control over patients’ “eating, drinking, and having fun”?

When I discussed the family’s control over eating after being sick in the group of patients yesterday, I felt that many patients were too pitiful.

The fear of infection, fragility of the stomach and intestines, side effects of digestive tract, etc. during the treatment period is understandable, but patients who are recovering or even returning to normal life are still strictly forbidden, no food is allowed, hot pot meat cannot be eaten and spicy I really feel pitiful for heavy taste, no hair, no ice cream, no clear soup and no water.

“You are a patient and cannot eat these”

“You are sick and you still eat this kind of stuff”

“You forgot how you got sick, you can’t keep your mouth out of memory”

“Sickness comes from the mouth, cancer is eaten, and you should regulate the diet.”

“From the moment you get sick, you will never be eligible for milk tea”

“Just die, no one will care about you in the future”

These words blurted out, not because the patient chooses to eat things that are not good for health for a long time, high frequency, and regardless of physical conditions. It is likely that they just occasionally “mouthed” and ate a little after eating. “Excuse me”.

But the words that the family blurted out were really hurting, completely offsetting the satisfaction of eating a heartful food.

Eating a bite of what you want to eat is associated with the default taboo, such as “You are a patient, so what should you do”, and rises to the point that “a little desire” is “the original sin of not caring for life”. It seems that even a little happiness is suppressed. The simple things of eating have become the deprivation of rights that you cannot enjoy, are not worth fighting for, and you are always disqualified.

The picture shows the diet during treatment, and there is no excessive taboo

What’s even worse is why even eating something should be linked with the label of “illness”, and the red letter three times a day reminds the person that he is a patient.

In everyday matters, everything is linked to “you are a patient.” It is an alternative to treating patients at home in a different way than is actually necessary. It is also a secondary injury to draw a line to separate the other person’s desires as ordinary people.

It ’s because of illness that it ’s more wronged than unnecessary coercion.People spend money to treat diseases, so all other unnecessary and pleasing consumption is “spending money”. Buying books, buying flowers, and buying clothes are all accused of “spending money.”

“Dare to love yourself without worrying about making money, and spend the effort of others”

“The money will be spent on the blade, and these useless ones can be eaten as meals”

“Buy these garbled things, see a doctor and no money to wait for death”

I believe that many patients are not a big deal as long as they are within their spending power and do not affect their treatment and life. However, the words “dragging” by family members are very hurting, and they may destroy the endogenous survival and joy of the patients themselves.

A flower-loving girl, seeing flowers is in a good mood, buying a bunch of flowers may save her a boring ward life for a week;

The picture shows the order during the treatment

A beautiful girl who occasionally buys a piece of clothing and sees that she can still dress well and look good, and blessing herself for survival may have supported countless painful nights;

The picture shows “a pillar brother clinging to color system during treatment””Matching Series

A patient who loves to do things, love games, or have any hobbies, can regain his control of life and the inertia of pleasure by keeping his original hobbies. It is also an important step to return to normal life and get rid of the patient. .

In the final analysis, we are not fighting cancer, not to be anti-cancer heroes or to be patients in our lives, not to be deprived of all normal healthy people for the rest of our lives, not to lose our appetite after losing many And “my heart” are not worth having.

It’s not that hard to fight for life, but to wait until there are more possibilities, eat more meals, wear more clothes, and look at the world.

If it doesn’t, “the world is really not worth it.”

Of course we understand the family’s good intentions and care about the disease, but the matter of “Jiaokou” does not really need to go beyond medical advice and nutrition, and the matter of “thrift and thrift” really does not need to sacrifice the patient’s innocuous pleasure.

After all, for some patients who have lost all their disease, this little desire is the fulcrum of survival desire. Why bother the beloved family member with secondary injuries and “overkill” or “dead gain” while fighting him / her against cancer?

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