Recently, the “two sessions” are being held fiercely. In response to various economic and people’s livelihood issues that the public is most concerned about, there are some corresponding policies and responses, which have won “pragmatic” and “timely” praise.

At the same time, all the “representatives” and “committees” also actively took out “proposals” and “proposals” and received fierce attention.


Parents need an exam? Scarce children

A few days ago, the media reported that Xu Hongling, a member of the National Committee of the Chinese People ’s Political Consultative Conference and vice chairman of the CPPCC of Nankai District, suggested holding parent classes in the community. Establish a “Parental Education Guidance Studio”, carry out relevant curriculum education, and issue “qualified parents” employment certificates to enroll with the student files. Incorporate funds for family education into the financial budget and increase financial input and publicity.

This is of course a closely related economic issue.

Although the starting point may be some social events and social phenomena, such as the “child abuse case” that has repeatedly broke out in recent years, all of them make people sad and angry. Some parents who cannot perform their duties questioned: “Being born” and being a parent, is this correct?

However, it must be said that with the increase of social affluence and the deepening of modernization, on the whole, the current may be the strongest parents ’sense of responsibility, self-reflection, etc. era. And because of this, more people will question the “naturalness” and “inevitability” of “parenting”, not the other way around.

If you look back, on the whole, parental behavior and family education must be rougher or even more rude than now.

I have a middle-aged friend who once sighed: We were all running around when we were kids, and we are not afraid of losing it. We will always find it back. It’s like a child nowadays, a lot of people are watching every day, but they are still afraid to disappear.

I replied half-jokingly: When you were a kid, there were many children at home, and the income was not high. Every family thinks about how to feed their children all day long, and some wish to give their children to others, where can they still think about other children’s children. So you run outside, it’s safe, nobody wants.

One of the most basic economic principles is scarce.

The value of scarce goods is higher and the market will chase scarcity.

Parents stuck in scarcity transformation

In the past, a pair of parents Facing a bunch of children, parents’ energy, time, resources and even love are scarce. Children want the love of their parents, they must fight for themselves. The child’s own affairs must be considered by himself. Therefore, parental discipline, strict or loose, is relatively “monotonous”, and in any case, “feedback” and “filial piety” should be emphasized. Parents can do whatever they want to their children. Children must be kind to their parents. The so-called Nezha father said “the parents of all the world.”

Now, a bunch of parents are facing a child, and the child is scarce. Parents who want their children’s love must fight for it. For the child’s affairs, parents have to get on horses and send them upstairs to chase and wipe sweat. What the child is thinking about is the mountain of “native family”. Life is not smooth, career is not smooth, and learning is not smooth. In short, there is nothing unsatisfactory. The “bad influence” of the “native family” is very smooth.

So, it is now popular to say that children feel that their parents owe themselves a “sorry”, and parents feel that their children owe themselves a “thank you.”

Actually, parents are not only grieved, but they may also be very circumscribed: when I was a child, I was self-reliant, and the time and energy my parents spent on me was not as good as my parents One-tenth of the children, but I respect them. When I was a parent, I was always vigilant. The time and energy spent on children was more than ten times that my parents invested in me. The respect I received was less than one-tenth of my parents. what can I do? I am also very difficult.

There is no way, an era has scarce substances of one era, if you happen to be in the transition of two different scarce substance eras, it is easy to get stuck. Ups and downs are not comfortable, right and left are not human.


Who will take the exam? What to take? How to take the test? How to pass?

This is not to deny that there are still many problems of parental responsibilities and dereliction of duty in society. Moreover, I also strongly agree with these issues. We should increase disciplinary efforts and try to improve them.

However, as mentioned above, no matter what era you look at, parenting is not an easy “standardLet ’s talk about “quantification”.

The Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka once said that it ’s too scary to think of a parent who does n’t need an exam.

But, think about it, would it be too scary if parents use the test?

< / div> First of all, who is going to take the exam? Everyone is born to be a mother, living this life, being a child for half a life, and being a parent for half a life, and accumulating the experience, it is already the old age, everyone is proud, everyone has remorse , Who is qualified to take a test in this matter of life?

Secondly, what content to take? Many of the “satisfied” and “disappointed” in life may also be branded too heavy Personal traces. A mother wrote “How to let a child go to Harvard at the age of fifteen”, is this the mother’s standard or goal? Happy families may not be similar, not to mention that unfortunate families vary greatly, and they may be what we call most needed Individuals with “work permits”.

Third, how to take the test? Is it a written test or a practical test? We see that during the epidemic, some children have to go online The class has no network or equipment, and it is already embarrassing. If it is a computer test, their parents should be difficult to do it. If it is a written test and practical operation, it should also be very different. If the child ’s “comprehensive quality” is Chinese mathematics Foreign language sports art music travels all over the country, and the quality of the parents should be full of poems, books, books, books, books, books, books, books, etc. But how do their parents take the exam?

Finally, how to pass the test? No matter how difficult the exam is, it is one-off. And life is continuous. How good is the exam? Some people are the dwarves of the giants of the exam. What should I do? Can I become a qualified parent?


In-depth reasons, unfair distribution of educational resources and insufficient protection of minors

This shows that the current concern about parental qualifications is progress, It’s also a good thing, giving parents some training is help and support. However, it must be clearly understood that the main problems and contradictions are not here, and it is impossible to solve the corresponding social problems with the so-called “work permit” method.

When we talk about parents, we are actually talking about children.

The deep-seated cause of the current problem is one of unfair distribution of educational resources, and the second is insufficient protection of minors.

The unfair distribution of educational resources exists The resource distribution of education itself also has the problem of wealth distribution of the whole society. New China has made tremendous improvements in poverty reduction, literacy (literacy) and compulsory education along the way. However, with economic development and social progress, The problems of class differentiation and class solidification are also becoming increasingly prominent in the context of globalization. Especially the “dual track system” of household registration and land makes it difficult for many migrant workers who were originally “rural” to take into account their children’s education and parenting responsibilities “Elderly people” and “left-behind children.” As the world’s second largest economy and developing country, education is often torn between the “elite education” and “shortage of educational resources.” There are individual reasons, as well as social background reasons, and some young parents themselves have lived in almost the same state of life as children today. It can be seen that this kind of intergenerational negligence may continue without changing the environment.

The protection of minors in the past was relatively lacking in China, or not valued very much. This seems to be contrary to the Chinese concept of “filial sons under the stick”. Children are not regarded as independent Individuals also do not seek “respect”, so they cannot talk about protecting their “rights.” At present, the emphasis on protecting the rights of minors is caring for children and a manifestation of social progress. But for some family child abuse incidents, it still seems to be still It is difficult to get a better solution. Some cases of child molestation are even more shocking, and should be paid more attention to by society and the judiciary. Not long ago, Bao Mouming’s case of rape of a 14-year-old girl was delayed and difficult to resolve. The protection law itself may still have large loopholes.


Be kind and have more sincerity

When we talk about children, we are talking about ourselves.

Therefore, the relevant members come up with this proposal, which is commendable.

But I always feel that being a representative of anxious public opinion requires more sincerity, finds the deep root of the problem, and works for the well-being of the people.

It ’s like the question of parents ’“ work permit ”.

China ’s population structure is constantly changing, and so are the social trends of thought. Those blame the “native family” led toThose who have frustrated have grown up, and the idea they face is: do not want to live. In addition to social and economic pressures, they have also become a generation that is more introspective about getting married and raising children. Since 2014, China’s marriage rate has been declining year by year. The divorce rate has risen for 15 consecutive years. Even if the “second child” is released, the fertility rate continues to decline.

So obviously, the vast majority of young parents need help and support, very few people need legal punishment, not all The “post certificate” after passing the exam.

In addition, everything seeks financial outsourcing, which probably does not meet the requirements of social progress or marketization. China ’s kindergartens themselves do not have financial “contracts”. Is it feasible to propose that kindergarten family education allow the finances to pay?

Some of the proposals that have been hotly discussed on behalf of the members of the proposal, some of them seek to “learn”, such as Yili Group executives proposed the protection of domestic dairy industry, adding drinking milk National strategy, the chairman of Lenovo, who has always claimed to be a transnational global group, proposed that computers should be included in national strategic materials, etc., which not only is inconsistent with the opinions on the market promotion mechanism issued recently, but also makes the public worry that as a representative of public opinion, there is a chance The motion proposal, but the content mentioned nakedly represents its own interests, will it violate the most basic “conflict of interest” ethics?

Someone mentioned the most urgent problem of “emergency”. How do students study abroad if they return to China? It was sprayed into a sieve on the Internet. This problem is hard to avoid being scolded, because it involves education equity, and it is one of the most precious resources that the public can control.

But a good motion proposal should be free from challenges, if it is through in-depth research, thought, and thought. No viewpoint can please everyone, but it must stand the test of facts, logic and time.

When the global order tends to be out of order, the pressure of China ’s reform is not small, and it needs more public opinion, conscience, and attention. The deep-seated problem is here, why not ask for it earnestly.


Postscript

Will parents take the exam?

What about motion proposals?

(Author Wan Zhe is an economist, surging newWen Special Commentator)