One day you will understand how important it is to be a person who can enter people’s vision.

Editor’s note: This article is from the WeChat public account “Liyu Professional Beauty” (ID: crystal_words) author: Zhao glass.

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The “Sister Riding the Wind and Waves” is over. Each sister also showed the audience a different self, and everyone has their own characteristics-and Zhang Yuqi in it is probably also an impressive sister. Up.

In this show, Zhang Yuqi broke the previous personality, and her bright and straightforward personality also won a lot of audiences; in many people’s eyes, Zhang Yuqi is silly, but this “han” is more transparent. With a sense of transparency and wisdom.

There is such a detail that impressed me.

One time, Zhang Yuqi and Li Sidani had such a conversation.

  • Zhang Yuqi: “What do you want most?”

  • Li Sidney: “Concert.”

  • Zhang Yuqi: “Then tell the company.”

  • Li Sidney: “But I will consider a lot. What if I can’t sell the tickets?”

  • Zhang Yuqi: “The company will solve it. If it dares to take this order, it will take the responsibility. If it doesn’t lose money, that’s what a company has to do. If a company has never dared to try this As far as things are concerned, this company may not know you thoroughly yet.”

Zhang Yuqi also said: “For your talents, if you take the initiative to ask for a lot of things…I think you will go better than today.”

Li Sidani said that many people in the workplace are unconfident. Before doing a thing, they always worry too much, causing them to miss many opportunities again and again. Before starting to do it, they reject success through self-denial. Outside the door.

And Zhang Yuqi’s “actively striving for” is exactly what many professionals lack. Because many people do not know how to actively fight for, their development is not smooth, and the career path is quite bumpy.Under circumstances, many parents will tell their children: “It’s good to be an obedient child, do it according to the teacher’s requirements…”

But once you get to work, this way of thinking is obviously not applicable.

In the workplace, the boss’s attention and energy are limited-if you don’t take the initiative to express yourself, or don’t get some job plans or resources from the boss, it is generally difficult for the boss to take the initiative to pay attention to everyone of.

  • It’s not difficult to understand, because others’ knowledge of you is limited—they can learn about your education, professional background, certificates and other information, but as for what you like Or inclinations, whether you have a clear plan for your career, and what abilities you are good at and what you are not good at are all messages you need to convey to others.

Generally speaking, in many cases, it’s not that the boss deliberately ignores you or has an opinion on you, but that he can’t remember you at all, and he doesn’t even know your situation-so in my opinion, show yourself proactively Even actively communicating with the leader can eliminate this “information asymmetry” situation, let the leader know more about you, and give you some considerations in future work, and give you some opportunities and resources.

2. What you hate is probably what you lack;

During the consultation, Xiaoyu talked about one of her colleague Xiao Yang (pseudonym).

Xiaoyu said that she actually hates Xiao Yang.

When Xiao Yang first arrived at the company a year ago, he was just a front desk, but from the beginning, Xiao Yang seemed to have more ideas than other colleagues, and he also had his own plan for his career development.

  • After staying at the front desk for three months, Xiao Yang became acquainted with the people up and down in the company. He had a certain understanding of the work content of many departments in the company. Xiao Yang hoped that he Being able to enter the company’s Ministry of Commerce, he also expressed his needs to the leaders of the Ministry of Commerce. When the front desk work was not so busy, he even took the initiative to help the Ministry of Commerce to do some work. As a result, within a year, Xiao Yang entered his favorite. Department of Commerce.

In Xiaoyu’s view, this girl, Xiao Yang, is “too utilitarian”, and as long as she sees Xiao Yang, she feels uncomfortable.

I and Xiaoyu analyzed that in her “hateful” mood, it was precisely because Xiao Yang had something she envied and lacked.

From the analysis of Xiaoyu’s current situation, Xiaoyu needs to be improved in terms of positiveness, self-confidence, and communication. At the same time, Xiaoyu still has a “pleasant” personality.

3. What’s more terrifying than the active type to please is the “passive type to please.”

Over the years, “discussConfession of language.

I further guided Xiaoyu, from the perspective of a leader, if an employee expresses to himself that he wants to make an internal transfer, what will he worry about?

Xiaoyu is really ice and smart. She told me that if she is the leader, she is very worried about whether this person will be a whim of the “three-minute heat”, and she has to measure whether the other party has the corresponding ability.

  • “So, how do you measure this employee’s popularity in three minutes?” I inspired Xiaoyu.

  • “I think it still depends on his usual words and deeds. If the person is really interested in a certain job content, at least he needs to actively learn and communicate.” Xiaoyu said.

As the consultation progressed, Xiaoyu gradually understood what she should do.

Almost a year after the consultation, Xiaoyu sent us feedback. According to the consultation suggestions at the time, she created children’s illustrations in her spare time to share the circle of friends, and on the other hand, she also went to learn about children’s illustration colleagues ——After a more comprehensive understanding, Xiaoyu has strengthened her determination to engage in children’s illustration.

And Xiaoyu’s leadership and colleagues also saw her positive changes. It happened that there was a shortage of children’s illustrations, so the leader came to solicit Xiaoyu’s opinion and asked her if she would be transferred to the children’s illustration group…< /p>

“Teacher Xiaoli, there was a time when I thought that as long as I did my job silently, the leader would be able to see…Now that I finally understand that instead of waiting passively for others to discover myself, it’s better. Make some changes by myself and actively strive for…If it weren’t for that consultation, I really can’t imagine what impulsive decisions I would make.” Xiaoyu said.

So far, I want to say–

  • One day you will understand how important it is to be a person who can enter people’s field of vision;

  • Rather than waiting for others to find you in the corner with a lantern, it is better to learn to go out by yourself and let more people know you.

Cooperate with you!

Author introduction

Zhao Xiaoli, seniorCareer planner, national psychologist, workplace writer, founder of Liyu career.