If a child fails to pass the general high school entrance examination, he can only go to the vocational high school. Will you be “crazy”? If your child’s college entrance examination scores are unable to enter a bachelor’s degree, you can only go to a junior college or higher vocational college, will you collapse? This article is from the WeChat official account:Mother Chuban Mama (ID: tongshuchubanmama), author: Yan Yan, editing: mountain wipe micro cloud, the original title:” the average probability in the examination admission rate of only 50%, chicken baby failure how much? “, the head picture comes from: Visual China
Children’s mother writes in front:
What kind of “ideal” do you have for your child’s academic work (or “fantasy”)< /span>?
I believe that many readers think that they don’t have high expectations for their children. They have never thought about Qingbei, nor have they failed to go to 985, but secretly imagined them in their hearts. It’s fine to pass the 211, which is usually the lower one. If you don’t have any money, you can have a copy. It’s really not good. Undergraduates will have it!
However, the general high school enrollment rate in all provinces and cities across the country is only around 50%, even Beijing and Shanghai. Shenzhen, which is also a first-tier city, is even only 43%.
Even if you have successfully landed ashore, take the college entrance examination normally. In most provinces of the country, the number of general undergraduate admissions is far smaller than that of colleges and vocational colleges. If it is a “dream” or “fantasy” to expect your children to be able to read 985 and 211 in the future, then according to actual data, ordinary undergraduate colleges can also be called “ideal”.
Most children can’t complete the expectation system that we have long felt that they deserve to go from general high school to undergraduate. However, this is the reality and most people want to go. People.
Ordinary parents, we may have no idea about the admission batches after the general undergraduate degree. What is a junior college? What is a higher vocational school? After the college entrance examination, enter a higher vocational school? Can the child have a way out?
Changsha Shuyou, a mother of children’s book reading club, is a teacher in a vocational college, and she graduated from a 211 college. The contrast between her years of study experience and the reality of her post-work teaching school caused her to question her soul:
In the future, my child will go to the vocational school where I teach, can I accept it?
Ask yourself: My child is in a higher vocational school, yes or no?
I work for W in a higher vocational college. During this year’s orientation, as a professional teacher, we are responsible for taking turns at the enrollment reception consultation point for some parents and students to answer questions. While chatting, a colleague suddenly asked me, if your child comes to our school in the future, can you accept it?
My heart shook. She then asked, your couple should also be regarded as “students” in the eyes of others. After graduating from 985 and 211 universities, they received elite education all the way. If your children cannot even get a bachelor degree in the future, can they bear it?
Hey, my subconscious reaction was “I can’t”.
▲The higher vocational college where I work.
Actually, my little baby is only 4 years old. She is in kindergarten and her old mother is in the stage of just being liberated from her feces and taking a breath. Naturally, she didn’t consider the long term. But after asking this question, I discovered that I still have high expectations for the education of my children.
It’s not just me, but also the surrounding parent groups. The colleague who asked the question, the family has a second baby, a boy, the eldest is going to elementary school, and the second is going to take a transitional class from a young age, and he often gets into trouble because of his homework.
Her trouble is that she has been learning consciously since she was a child, IQ is online, and her grades are excellent. How can she think that the child she gave birth seems to be “other people’s family”, she has not inherited good genes at all, and she is always unaware of learning. Sorrow and sorrow, at the end of the conversation, she still said categorically that I will do my best to get my son into high school.
Well, I nodded silently and finished high school,The top universities in China dare not think about it, should we go to an ordinary undergraduate college anyway? Such an old mother is considered very Buddhist, right?
The Buddhism I thought was already high expectations
Why is this expectation “high”? Let us look at a set of data. According to statistics, the number of applicants for the national college entrance examination in 2020 is 10.71 million. The number of college entrance examinations returned to tens of millions, providing more students with the opportunity to participate in the college entrance examination. Among these tens of millions of candidates, how many can successfully enter the undergraduate colleges?
Take Hunan Province as an example. In 2020, there will be a total of 536,000 candidates for the college entrance examination in the province. The three batches of undergraduates enrolled a total of 152,835 undergraduate freshmen. The batch plan for higher vocational colleges enrolled 193,261 students in Hunan, which obviously accounted for the majority.(Data information comes from the website of Hunan Provincial Department of Education).
From a high probability point of view, is our child very likely to be one of them? Have no elitist higher education, in fact, it has always been the way most people want to go, we just ignore it.
I myself have had arrogance and prejudice towards higher vocational colleges
A dozen years ago, after graduating from my graduate school, I gave up the offer of a well-known IT company in the coastal city and returned to a higher vocational college in the capital city of my hometown to become a teacher.
In the first few years of work, there was no lack of depression and confusion. There are strong contrasts and gaps in the developed special economic zones and the backward western regions, vibrant enterprises and quiet and boring schools.
Most of my graduate students have joined undergraduate colleges and universities, engaged in professional teaching in this subject. I have always believed in “life is like sailing against the current, if you don’t advance, you will retreat”, and I feel that higher vocational colleges seem to be inferior.
Yes, even as a teacher of higher vocational colleges, I was arrogant and prejudiced at the beginning. The knot is unresolved, and various problems of “education” followed. The elite education I have received over the years and the academic research thinking have caused me to repeatedly frustrate my work such as preparing lessons, attending classes, and opening classes.
My heart often roars: “God, how can they not learn such a simple theory? Why don’t they like to listen to such an interesting case? I am so indifferent, why are they indifferent?”
Thousands of people who have also experienced the college entrance examination also carry the ardent hopes of their families
I tried to “squat down” to understand these groups of students in front of me: They have also experienced the college entrance examination of thousands of soldiers. Although the scores are not ideal, they all carry the ardent hope of a family.
Most of them come from ordinary origins, and many come from towns and villages. Higher vocational students are a very individual group. They have different learning foundations, learning attitudes and professional interests. Their strengths are that most of their thoughts are more active, their interests are also very broad, and their interpersonal skills and social practical skills are relatively strong.
▲In the peak recruitment season, the college invited business experts to hold a double innovation salon for graduates.
In general, they lack the initiative or willpower in learning, and they are not focused enough on theoretical learning. Especially in the mobile Internet era, with the popularization of the Internet and smart phones, various temptations faced by students have increased.
Some people are tired of studying. Easily affected by the environment, such as the overall learning atmosphere of the dormitory and the class, etc., there will often be a situation of “everything is prosperous, and everything is damaged”. So I entered a vocational collegeFor children, “self-discipline” and “learning drive” are still important.
Although they are not so interested in theoretical knowledge, they are willing to participate in various practices and are eager to master a skill; they have their own hobbies, have their own dreams, and even the best have their own company and Project…
In the past ten years or so, I have taken more than 5,000 students to class. I have served as a class teacher and guided two to three thousand people who had more contact during the graduation internship. After graduation, I can still keep in touch on QQ and WeChat. There are probably dozens of people who can be named. The three students mentioned below impressed me the most.
▲Students participate in the “Sales Practice” practical training and entrepreneurial interaction, passionate and creative.
My three students, their success and sigh
Xiao Meng is a 2008 international economics and trade student from a city in Hunan.
At the September Freshman Admissions Conference, he was invited as a representative of outstanding alumni to set up an education fund named after the company, with an annual education fund of 200,000 yuan to encourage outstanding teachers and students with excellent academic performance.
Looking at him talking on the stage, thinking about his youthful and childish face when he enrolled in school, I was really moved. No one of Xiaomeng’s family, relatives or friends is engaged in the foreign trade industry. Most of his choice of major when he enrolled was based on a yearning and longing for the foreign trade industry. Although he was ignorant, he was full of enthusiasm. The customs declaration practice and other courses are extra attentive. After class, I always like to chat with the teacher and ask questions in depth.
When Xiao Meng graduated, he coincided with our outstanding alumni(At the time, he was the boss of a foreign trade company in Yiwu) Back to school to recruit, he successfully applied for the job. After entering the job, because of his diligence and learning, he trained with the boss to have a solid suit Foreign trade business capabilities. A few years later, he went to Shenzhen and set up his own foreign trade company. The business development is quite large.
Today, Xiao Meng is still very humble and low-key. He is full of gratitude to the mentors of schools and companies. At this entrance conference, he shared his employment, entrepreneurial experience and personal ideas with the juniors and sisters. Sincerely uttered the six-character maxim of success: learning, self-discipline, and change.
Xiaoqian is the one who makes me the most uncomfortable among many students.
She is a 2020 marketing student, from a rural village in Hunan, and she has younger siblings at home. This girl from an ordinary family in the countryside was selected by her classmates as the class leader during the freshman military training. She has a cheerful personality, hardworking, and has the rare advantages of her peers. She is practical and willing to endure hardships.
In class management, there are always all kinds of chores. When everyone is lazy and unwilling to do, Xiaoqian always smiles, and I see it. In the junior year of internship, the employer asked to recommend outstanding graduates. I thought of Xiaoqian. When I asked about her in the class group, no one knew where she was going.
In a few months, I will return to school to apply for a graduation certificate, only to hear that she has already returned to her hometown to get married and plan to have a baby. We lost contact with this, and there was no message from QQ. I still feel sorry for her.
Xiao Liang, a 2007 hotel management student, comes from Hechishan District, Guangxi.
From the perspective of birth, appearance, etc., he is really an ordinary and unremarkable child.
▲The notebook that students gave me 15 years ago is still in the collection.
He appeared in my sight again, due to a WeChat sent by a colleague, asking Xiaoliang this student, do you remember? It turned out that a colleague and his party happened to meet him on a business trip. He is already a senior tour guide and settled in Hangzhou. Xiao Liang was very grateful to the university teachers back then. He had to pick him up all the way and was enthusiastic and thoughtful. He also asked the head teacher (me) why he didn’t come.
After hearing about this incident, I was surprised. As a child in a poor mountainous area, without any social resources, why could Xiao Liang jump out of the farm? How do you think of looking for a job in a big city when you graduate? This kind of vision is hard to come by. After further understanding, he took the tour guide certificate when he was in college and internship at a local travel agency in 2010. When the World Expo was short of people, he was transferred to the Shanghai headquarters. After the internship, he felt that he was good and asked him to stay and formally lead the group.
It looks like an opportunity, but in fact, opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared.
I remember that Xiao Liang was aggressive when he was in college. He was a pragmatist. He saw that there was a delicious pancake on the street, so he told others that he wanted to learn. He spent 3,000 yuan, then rented a house by himself and set up a small stall. Selling pancakes, pushing them out every day, and having to deal with the city management, just earned tuition fees.
After work, he also paid great attention to improving his business ability, such as the explanations of tourist guides, every poetry dictionary and historical celebrities on the West Lake, he knew everything at his fingertips.
Affected by the 2020 epidemic, the tourism industry has been hit hard. Xiao Liang had to switch to the real estate industry. Starting from stepping into the store and handing in his resume to find a job, he started completely from scratch, all on his own. Looking at his circle of friends, it is really not easy to keep two transactions every month recently. Every time I mention Xiaoliang, I feel relieved-I believe that he can live a good life even if he is ordinary.
▲Small notes written by students; vocational students have many children who know how to be grateful, but they may feel confused when they first enter school and need guidance and help.
Our children will eventually become ordinary people
These cases may reflect the conditions of ordinary young people in China and some of the most common growth paths. They also made me reflect: Why do they have different lives with the same vocational school graduates and the same resources? What is really opening the gap? What are the characteristics of higher vocational students who go smoothly in life?
Is this gap not related to our family education? Can the “family and school co-education” stop abruptly when a child goes to college?
Lifelong learning, the 18-year-old college entrance examination result should not be the highest achievement of a person, nor is it the lowest point where a person can work hard and cannot stand up. Entering the university must only be the starting point.
However, after the college entrance examination every year, why do social news about the climax of divorce appear? This at least reflects the mentality of many parents. It seems that the child has completed the task after going to college. In fact, at this stage, children need more guidance from their parents to form a correct outlook on life, marriage and love, career planning, etc.
As Gu Jia’s father said in the hit drama “Only Thirty”, “Children are the debts of our previous lives. If we don’t have the ability, we will be the ferry boat. We will deliver wherever we can before we close our eyes. Ah. They are the big cruise ship themselves, so we have to be the lifeboats up there. If something happens, we are the ones who send them to the shore in the end.”
▲ I am speaking at the Children’s Book Mother’s Book Club.
If parents do a good job as a “ferryman”, how can their children’s life be eclipsed even if they are in a vocational college?
As long as you walk with the light, you and I are also stars. I never deny that undergraduate colleges and universities have high-quality resources and a good platform, and higher vocational education also has many inherent shortcomings, but we must always face it with a positive attitude and find where the “light” is?
Under the situation where the country vigorously develops vocational education and cultivates craftsmen from big countries, higher vocational education will have more abundant resources and diversified ways to become talents. Can strive to become a highly-skilled talent that is in short supply, try to start a business, or choose to continue to improve academic qualifications, etc. (The Ministry of Education proposes to expand the scale of college upgrades for ordinary colleges and universities in 2020, which will increase year-on-year 322,000 people).
I can accept that my child’s education is low, not as good as myself
My husband and I both graduated from 211 and 985 colleges and universities, and we have had a comfortable learning path since childhood. The experience of teaching in higher vocational colleges for so many years has made me continue to reflect. The two of us have also exchanged many times and have reached a consensus-calm our minds, and prepare our children for their future academic qualifications. In the future, I may be mentally prepared for general undergraduate, college, or higher vocational education.
Our generation as parents has become the winner of the examination system and elite education. It has ran ahead on the road to education, deviating from the average value stated in statistics.
Why can’t the next generation of “above average” “return” to the middle?
What’s more, it’s just that a child may have a lower education level than ours. It doesn’t mean that his life is not wonderful and he cannot achieve the success he expects.