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People with these three kinds of thinking are not too bad in any field.

Editor’s note: This article comes from the WeChat public account “Glass Language Professional Beauty” (ID: crystal_words) : Zhao Xiaoli.

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A few days ago, there was a piece of news about Chen Jian, a post-90s boy who was originally doing an enviable job. As a film and art designer, his monthly salary was as high as 40,000 to 50,000 yuan, but he continued The intensity of his work and the psychological gap that his work is hard to be recognized made him feel less and less like himself.

So last year, Chen Jian resigned his job resolutely and switched to a take-away brother. He admitted that he could make time for himself. Although the wind and rain went, “Fatty liver is gone, I have Changed to myself. “

Perhaps some people think that Chen Jian ’s move is too impulsive, but a detailed analysis contains three rare thoughts.

These three kinds of thinking are not available to many visitors in the consultation cases we deal with. Therefore, when encountering confusion similar to Chen Jian, many people are easy to entangle or even move forward to the important root cause.

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Visitor Zhang Lei (pseudonym), like Chen Jian in the news, is doing a designer job.

What is similar to Chen Jian is that Zhang Lei is also troubled by such things as frequent overtime in this job and tortured by his father’s father. He has been hesitant, should he switch to another industry?

The externally messy voice always makes Zhang Lei hesitant, making it difficult for him to make a decision, let alone an action.

Sometimes, when he is vomiting late at night, news like the sudden death of XX will always jump into his eyes from time to time, and will always make Zhang Lei feel agitated, and feel himself no longer in minutes I can’t do this job anymore. This is simply a rhythm.

“Well, this is the decision, and I will resign early in the morning …” Zhang Lei made up his mind.

The next day, when Zhang Lei stepped into the office and turned on the computer, he was thinking about how to write a resignation application. The designer group exploded again. It turned out that it was the news that one of their fellow designers won the award, which spurred Zhang Lei. He feels that if he quits too much nowWell, after all, I have worked for many years. If I insist on accumulating and accumulating, what prizes can I get in the future?

“It seems that now is not the time to resign, you still have to make some achievements and then say …” Zhang Lei dismissed the idea of ​​leaving.

It did n’t take long for his design draft to be returned to Party A ’s father again and again. He could n’t stand it anymore, so he shouted from the crowd at home: “This job is n’t really done by humans!

Soon, Zhang Lei ’s father shared several news links in the group about the delivery of a car accident during the meal delivery. Zhang Lei has seen it and thinks that there is a risk in everything. Forget it, wait for the resignation. …..

• That ’s it. According to Zhang Lei, he is constantly being pulled by two forces every day. One force is his strong feeling of being tired of his job, and the other force is a voice from the outside, which makes He was undecided, and he couldn’t work at ease.
  

  Zhang Lei feels that he ca n’t figure it out by himself, so it ’s better to ask a professional for analysis, so he found us.

  From the countless cases we have handled, many visitors will fall into a similar dilemma as Zhang Lei.

  Also a designer. Why did Chen Jian in the news decide to act quickly, but Zhang Lei always hesitated and stagnated?

  In my opinion, in the face of similar difficulties, Chen Jianneng can act decisively and decisively and quickly, compared with Zhang Lei ’s hesitation. There are three kinds of thinking behind him.

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  The first kind of thinking is called the “first principle”.

  • The so-called “primary principle” refers to the ranking of our values. Are there any items that we particularly value when choosing a job? And at the moment of important choice, can it further become the principle of our analysis and judgment?
    

    For example, here is Chen Jian in the news. It is not difficult to find that this boy ’s first-principle principle is called “health”.

    With this principle, he seems much more decisive in his career choices: if a job exceeds his physical limit, in the face of health, regardless of income or social status, he can all stand by.

    This principle gives us the greatest inspiration: when you choose to work, you may wish to think about what is the most important thing you care about? This is precisely your principle or bottom line.

    Unable to meet this principle or work on the bottom lineChoose, if you can not be satisfied at the beginning, you can choose to leave.

    According to this thinking, it is not difficult for us to make a decisive decision.

    For an example.

    When visitor Susan (pseudonym) came to consult, she was a teacher of a training institution. She was very entangled in whether she wanted to quit or not. Although there are various unsatisfactory places in her current job, there are always its benefits.

    At this time, what our consultants have to do is to take Susan to find her values ​​called “principles” based on the first principle.

    After systematic review, our consultant found that in Susan ’s heart, the most important thing is “relatively free time.”

    After discovering this principle, Susan has a basis for judging whether or not to resign, that is:

    • If this institution does not require teachers to take classes, then she can continue this job and develop hobbies in her spare time;
       

    • If the institution really requires teachers to take classes as rumours later, then she would consider changing to a part-time mode, or changing to an institution that does not require teachers to take classes.
      

      For Zhang Lei in the case, through the combing and investigation of the consultant, he found that there were conflicts and contradictions in the several values ​​he liked, which is the root cause of his hesitation for many years. one.

      03

      The second kind of thinking, called the “knowledge curse” of breaking through oneself, sees the essence of the problem.

      Many people are always unable to let go of their psychological burden when considering whether to switch careers. They are often limited by their academic background, professional background and past experience, and they dare not let go of their efforts.

      If we analyze the surface of the dilemma in depth, it is not difficult to find:

      • The root cause of many people ’s dilemma lies in their inability to do well in their own work, and at the same time they are reluctant, and often “do not succeed in highs and lows”, and cannot see through the essence of things before hesitating to wander.
        

        In the context of the workplace, in fact, you can only talk about more options if you have a certain right to speak.

        And if you want to obtain the so-called right to speak, you must do one thing, that is, you need to be at least 80% of the peers in your industry or field to become a minority in order to obtain others Respect, and a certain degree of freedom.

        In other words, the vast majority of foundation postsIn essence, all work is “struggling”.

        That means that if you and I have been engaged in grass-roots work and cannot advance or improve in the workplace, we are still essentially unable to get rid of the fate of “manual workers”, but only “migrant workers in office buildings”.

        If you think about it carefully, whether it is a farmer or a general designer, there is no essential difference in what you do every day. It is nothing more than repetition and hard work over and over, who is fighting for good health, Who lives faster.

        How easy is it to get something like “the right to speak”?

        Take the profession of designer.

        1. The designer’s right to speak depends largely on the company’s strength and leadership attitude;

        If the company itself does not have any core competitiveness, in order to survive, it has to “kneel and lick customers”, and the company leaders also believe that as long as the father of Party A is satisfied, it is easy to say …

        If so, what professional dignity does the designer have?

        2. The designer ’s voice is closely related to the projects and works he participates in;

        It means that if you can participate in a good project, have a certain work to speak, and gain industry recognition, you can gradually accumulate industry influence, so that others can show respect to you.

        3. The essence of the right to speak is professional influence;

        Make an inappropriate analogy, why do people tend to hang out in specialist clinics when conditions permit, even if the cost is several times higher? And when people see the expert outpatient clinic, they are even more obedient to the expert’s words. Do they dare not refute?

        And if you are just a doctor who has just entered the industry and has no industry influence, the patient may not listen to what you say, and sometimes it will even bump up with you-to put it bluntly, this is “people are light words”.

        The cruel truth is that if there is no influence, no matter what industry you change, the situation is essentially the same.

        • I have received many visitors who are designing. Their general distress is that, in their eyes, sometimes the client ’s aesthetic is not in line with their professional knowledge, but because they do not have professional Influence, you can only open one eye and close one eye, and make some designs that make you feel very uncomfortable.
          

          If you think that this situation is just another environment, you can only say that you think the problem is too simple!

          04

          The third kind of thinking is called “replace meaningless speculation and reverie with experiential attempts”.

          This point is often a pit that many visitors tend to step on.

          Visitor Xiaojie (pseudonym) is like this. Before consulting, she felt that the profession of psychological counselor was good, but she was not sure whether she liked this profession? She worried that once she chose, what if she regretted it later?

          During the consultation process, we found that Xiaojie ’s biggest problem was:

          • She always speculates and imagines in her mind, but she has never had a real experience or attempt.
            

            However, as the saying goes: “The best way to know the true taste of Apple is to taste it yourself.”

            For Xiao Jie, she needs to give up speculation and imagination, but to find related psychological counseling agencies to see if she can become a volunteer, close to practitioners in this industry, after a period of time After the experience, decide whether to pursue this occupation.

            For Chen Jian in the news, he feels that the designer has forced to choose a delivery person, which is not a life experience.

            Even if he later found out that the takeaway was more hard-working than the designer, it would be much better to come back and do the design with peace of mind than to fall into endless dreams, work that is both unconscious and unwilling.

            Finally, I would like to say one thing, that is, we need to look at people and things with a developmental perspective, including ourselves.

            • Know that people are alive and things are dead. Once an individual really feels great happiness and value in things, then it is very likely that a humble job can be done by him. The raw water will eventually reach a height that others cannot reach.
              

              Take the job of a takeaway.

              • If you think that the takeaway is a errand job, then you may be destined to be an ordinary takeaway all your life;
                 

              • But if you can pay attention to the needs of customers and stores in the process of delivering food, take the initiative to find problems and think of ways to improve from the company ’s perspective, you have the opportunity to make reasonable suggestions to the leader-so As a result, you may be an ordinary takeaway today, and in the future it is likely to become a manager or even an excellent director of operations.
                

                All in all, in the face of an uncertain future, what we need to do is to be brave to break through self-limitation, learn to think diversified and flexible, use the three kinds of thinking mentioned in the article, and do not use precious time and energy in meaningless In the tangled and consumed, it is to start self-planning, change and improvement.Can be invincible in the future workplace.

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                -About the Author-

                Zhao Xiaoli, senior career planner, national psychological consultant, workplace writer. Author of the best-selling booklet “Stop Blind Efforts: Your Life Needs Redesign”, which is based on career counseling case studies, has become one of the few practical books on practical consulting and personal development in career planning. In 2018, the new book on career planning and working methods in the dry goods category, “From Minimalist to Extreme: Be a Powerful Person in the Field of Expertise,” was selected as the top ten best books in the economics and management category in 2018. WeChat public account “Glass Language Professional Beauty” (crystal_words), Sina Weibo @ 赵晓 璃, vibrating @vocational career planner Zhao Xiaoli.