It was this unfriendly experience. Those friendly things are all forgotten by you.
For another example, let ’s say you lost 10,000 yuan yesterday and today received a 20,000 yuan bonus. Can the happiness brought by the latter offset the pain brought by the former? The answer is no. Loss aversion is based on people’s negative preferences.
Franklin once said: “With a little pain, we can feel it, and we are healthy and lively, but we are unaware.”
This sentence accurately reflects the asymmetry in which negative and positive information affect us.
Why do we naturally pay more attention to negative information? Scientists believe that negative preference is an ancient survival mechanism. Because negative information is often about survival.
In ancient societies, the environment can be described by many crises, and the beasts will wait for opportunities. If a person does not have any alertness to the danger in the status quo, the person’s greatest probability is to be eaten by the beast. In the end, ancestors who were more sensitive to danger survived and their genes continue to be passed down to the present.
So why are positive messages so easy to ignore and forget? This is related to the adaptation mechanism of the brain. For positive information, we will also experience a joy initially. However, the brain quickly becomes immune to stimulation.
For example, the survey found that after a person won the lottery, but a few months later, the huge wealth that had fallen from the sky could no longer bring the same happiness.
Analyzing here, we understand why the mid-life crisis is getting worse. This seriousness is of course not only caused by objective trouble. The more reason is that negative events are far more lasting than positive events.
A certain promotion failed, and we may be cherishing for years. In these years of unforgettable memories, we will suffer once we think of it. Continue to think and continue to suffer. Pain is constantly strengthened in the aftertaste. Then this incident became an unforgettable memory of this life.
We can imagine, but all the bad things are stored in the brain firmly, and if there is nothing, come out and chew. When will this pain rest?
If a person always pays more attention to negative events and ignores positive ones, his life will surely be overwhelmed by pain.
Excessively optimistic expectations lead to the accumulation of disappointments little by little until they reach their peak in middle age. This is the beginning of the midlife crisis.
When we fall into a middle-aged crisis, we will be more inclined to focus on negative events and ignore positive events, and the sense of crisis will become more and more serious.
Life fell into the lowest point. Happiness becomes out of reach.
04 Exercise reduces stress and anxiety
Whether it is an expectation trap or a negative preference, it ultimately gives us a senseFluttering “. ■
Reference:
1. “Motion Remodeling the Brain”, author John Reddy / Eric Hagman, Zhejiang People’s Publishing House
2. “Brain Gym”, author Anders Hansen, China Friendship Publishing Company
3. “Your Happiness Curve”, Jonathan Lauch, Zhejiang Education Press
4. “Harvard Happiness Class”, author Daniel Gilbert, CITIC Press