This article is from WeChat official account:One-way Street Bookstore (ID: onewaystreet2013), author: heym, head Figure from: “the beginning of the 55-year-old Hello Life”
Inventory of recent hot topics, twenty is not confused, thirty is only, sisters ride the wind and waves…the anxiety and predicament divided by age firmly occupy people’s sight. The one-way editorial department has also discussed why people use age thresholds to divide people.
Think about the “Stay at 30, not confused at 40, and know the destiny at 50” in “The Analects of Confucius: For Politics.” Maybe Different age groups do have some common contradictions and feelings.
Here, the ending of “Thirty Only” is still hotly debated, and some netizens over there are already wondering who should play the Forty Story. After the handsome face of Yishui, some age groups were ignored as if they had never existed, and only became the back of the elders in the TV series.
Young people ridicule their “premature aging” and wish they could enter retirement tomorrow. But what is the real middle-aged life? Is it as beautiful as we thought?
“Never Say You Are Old”| by Ryu Murakami
In Murakami’s “Never Say You Are Old”, a group of 5The 5-year-old middle-aged and elderly people not only did not start the so-called old age, but have ushered in the turning point and challenges of their lives.
The book was later adapted into a TV series, starring Nakagawa Masaya, Kazebuki Jun, Harada Mieko, Kobayashi Kaoru, Ogata Kazusei. I prefer the name of the TV series to the title of the book: “Hello Life since 55.”
▲ The stills are all from the Japanese drama “Hello Life from 55 years old”
He always felt that something important was shattered, but he took a deep breath, trying to calm his mood.
I don’t know if young readers now understand the “early leaving”, not the “early leaving” we leave work early, but the early retirement within the prescribed scope. This sounds very desirable, but the story is not.
Fu Yu Taro’s retired caravan plan did not get the support he imagined. On the contrary, due to economic reasons, he gradually suffered the pressure of reemployment. However, affected by the economic situation, Fu Yu Taro received direct or euphemistic rejections of job applications from his friends. He could only look for opportunities in the talent market.
“When the consultant asked me to rewrite my personal history, I was so unwilling to tears.” Talent CityThe field was full of middle-aged and elderly job seekers like Fu Taro. They used to serve as senior executives in companies and were used to being leaders, but they lacked basic skills such as English and typing. Even questions like “What do you want to do?” “What can you do?” embarrassed him .
“How can an unemployed fifty-year-old man know what he wants to do and what he can do now. So far, he has tried his best to rewrite his personal history a dozen times, and the consultant finally accepted. Then tell me that the job that I might want to do is the caretaker or security of a building or parking lot. Do I need to write a personal history to become a caretaker of a parking lot? I don’t want to be a person who can tell my dreams, I just want to do It’s nothing more than working with the experience I have so far. Am I too naive? What do I want to do? I want to contribute to society. Isn’t that OK?”
Fuyu Taro felt that under such an assessment, he seemed to be stripped naked, and became an ordinary “58-year-old uncle who once served as a business director” on the street like a crucian carp.
Fuyu Taro went to see a psychiatrist. He was unwell and did not have any illness after the examination, so he suspected that he had depression.
“You are not melancholic.” The doctor said with certainty. The crux of Fu Yu Taro’s discomfort was not the repeated job-hunting failures, but the sentence when his wife refused to travel in a motorhome, “I don’t hate driving a campervan, but I am troubled without my own time.” Fu Taro realized for the first time. The wife has her own time.
Doctors have received many such cases. Many middle-aged and elderly men who live with the company as the center are used to the affiliation within the company, ignoring the reciprocal personality. When they lose their dominant position of power, they will suddenly realize Until both the wife and children have their own time and living habits, others cannot change it at will.
Fuyu Taro followed the doctor’s advice and began to re-establish the relationship between people, although it was slow, but full of courage.
Choose her own life, she felt that that kind of thing was impossible from the beginning…
At the age of 54, Nakame Shitsuko decided not to endure the retired husband who would only complain about doing nothing at home, and stepped into the marriage agency to find a marriage partner who could die together. But she actually didn’t know what kind of object she wanted. Do you want to look too much like your husband? That’s definitely not acceptable. Is that completely different from the husband? It may not be appropriate.
With the help of counselors, she began dating her blind date. But these men gave Nakame Shitsuko more shock than surprise.
As soon as I meet, I discuss sex life, talk about AA, in fact want to take advantage, express my feelings, and want to find a wife who can work in the shop at home… Shizuko Nakame is increasingly desperate, she doesn’t I knew what was going on with these men, and I didn’t know how to refuse, or whether to compromise.
In the past 54 years of life, Shizuko Nakayone seems to have been in such a vague state. Even the fact that she is a beautiful woman has to be told by her colleagues before she knows.
“Zhizuko thought: Once we start another life, we will become another person. She feels that after divorcing her ex-husband, she becomes another person. It is not that she changed her appearance, name or personality, but like Like insects, they got rid of something, and other things are engraved in their hearts.”
Her blind date is actually not to find a life-long partner, she just wants to change, change her life without self in the past 54 years and live a new life.
Nakayone Shitsuko’s awakening time may not come too late, after all, she is only 55 years old.
He didn’t do it for Fukuda, but felt that if he didn’t do something, he would never be able to cheer up for the rest of his life.
Because Fuji Shigeo’s life is placed on each of us, it will cause a chill. When he was 54 years old, he was laid off by the small publishing house where he worked, and his pension was pitifully small; his son went to high school because of his late marriage; his wife used to be his colleague and now works in a supermarket; although he did not have any high-consumption behavior, he still Basically no deposit…
About four or five years after being laid off, Fuji Shigeo was very afraid of seeing the homeless people on the street, and he worried that he would become one of them.
So Shigeo Fuji didn’t dare to ask for leave and rest even if he had a back disease, even though that job was just a traffic guide for road construction. So he seems to have forgotten his childhood literary dreams. The book says “You must completely guard your work, family, and health. Keep money. Never borrow money.”
His life was compressed to only the needs of survival, but he was still worried all day.
Until he met Fukuda, an old classmate who had become a nomad.
Because Fuji Shigeo wanted to send Fukuda home, who was dying, they recalled the story on campus along the way, experienced Fukuda’s vomiting and incontinence, and saw the other side of homeless life. When he was about to get home, Fukuda fainted, and Into called an ambulance. A week later, Futian passed away peacefully.
This short journey gave Indo a great shock. “During this journey, I learned many things. In fact, I was also full of anxiety, honestly, or painful. However, I at least have family members, I am still alive, and can drink pure water. As long as I live, maybe the future One day, I can see the dream of flying in the sky. Fukuda, it is me who is rescued.”
In the original book, Shigeo Into’s story ranks second, but it is the last episode in the TV series. We seem to understand the purpose of this arrangement. Into Shigeo’s story is closer to every moment of our life that is crushed, and it tells the hope of ordinary people more powerfully.
55 years old, More than half of their life, in the matter of “starting again”, they belong to the elderly, and they are extremely ordinary people. Murakami said in the postscript of “Never Say You Are Old”, “The physical strength is gradually weakening, the economy is not without worries, and sometimes you must be aware of old age. How can such people survive this difficult life How about the age of the game? This question is the core of this work.”
For the young and middle-aged, although old age has not yet arrived, how to survive in this difficult era is still a problem for each of us.
This article is from WeChat official account:One-way Street Bookstore (ID: onewaystreet2013), author: heym