When he was in a traffic jam while riding, he didn’t know when he could pass the next intersection. The child did not listen to discipline and asked him to go east to west. Subordinates submitted the report, but it was completely different from what I had imagined. Going home after a tiring day, my wife keeps nagging about trivial things…In these situations, do you often feel angry on the top of your head?
Recently, a cover article in “New Weekly” magazine “Chinese people have become the most anxious and impatient people on earth” has set off a big discussion on the Internet about the “irritability” of Chinese people. In real life, “anger” has indeed become the norm in more and more people’s lives.
In a survey of the patience time for people from all over the world to wait for a red light, it was 60 seconds for Germans, 45 seconds for British people, 40 seconds for Americans, and 15 seconds for Chinese people. According to statistics, 60% of motorists will feel angry because of waiting for red lights, stoppages and other things, and 10% of them can even be diagnosed as “road rage.” Not only the Chinese, “can’t suppress the fire” has actually become a problem for people all over the world. In the United States, more than 1 million people need to receive “anger management” courses every year. In the peak shopping season, foreign shopping malls even have to use anger management experts to appease those violent customers.
Modern people are getting more and more unable to control the fire
Mr. Zhang’s distress is that he has a violent boss. If the subordinates are slightly at fault, the boss will be outraged, often stabbing words, especially hurting self-esteem. Mr. Zhang had the idea of resigning several times: “Sometimes, he loses his temper before I finish speaking, and he even uses the words’incompetence’ and’waste’; even if the client changes his mind temporarily, he will take the account. Count it to me.”
For Miss Zhu, who works for an advertising company, buying a car did not bring her much happiness, but instead made her temper more and more irritable. She said: “I usually see pedestrians crossing the road. I gritted my teeth and wanted to show them the “color”. When I encountered a taxi forcibly overtaking, I even dragged the car and scolded him.”
Anger is indeed an emotion that ordinary people are the least good at handling. Dr. Doyle Gentry, director of the Anger Resolution Institute in Lynchburg, Virginia, USA, once counted that each person gets angry twice a week, and the intensity of men’s anger is stronger, and women’s anger each time is longer. some. American physiologist Professor Irma’s research found that a person’s energy consumed for 10 minutes is no less than that of participating in a 3000-meter race.
“The Chinese, who have always been known for forbearance, are increasingly unable to suppress fire.” said Wang Guorong, supervisor of Suzhou Jung Psychological Counseling Center. The reasons for this are mainly as follows: First, the pressure of survival has become the source of people’s irritability; second, the fragmentation of values makes people feel that the future is uncontrollable, and the traditional culture that once taught people to “be gentle and tolerant” also faces Die; third, the lack of natural environment and the surrounding of steel and concrete make people more and more uneasy; fourth, the lack of friends and lack of communication, letBad temper can only be vented through abuse.
Anger can “poison” the whole body
“The word’angry’ of anger, when taken apart, is a’slave’ on the top and a’heart’ on the bottom. It means that when you are angry, your heart has become a slave to your emotions.” Wang Guorong said, many people are “deadly angry” At that time, it felt like a fist was beating my chest. In fact, when you feel angry, the muscles of your whole body, the hair behind your neck, your blood pressure, your blood sugar level, your heart rate, your breathing rate, your intestines, and even the temperature of your fingers …Will react. Zhang Tianbu, chief physician of the Department of Psychiatry at Shaanxi Provincial People’s Hospital, also said: “When a person is angry, the secretion of hormones such as adrenaline and angiotensin will increase, which will seriously affect the health of the cardiovascular system.”
The physiological reaction when getting angry is very intense, and the secretions are toxic. Therefore, it is difficult for an angry person to be healthy and to live a long life. As a result, Irma even issued a warning that “anger equals suicide”. He believes that although anger and long-distance running will also cause a person’s blood pressure and heartbeat to rise, long-distance running is a process in which blood pressure rises slowly and heartbeat speeds up, and the process of falling back is also slow. Anger is an instant rise. People with poor health or elderly people are very Prone to cerebral hemorrhage, heart disease, myocardial infarction, dizziness, dreaminess, insomnia, and upset mood. If these abnormal psychological and physiological factors influence each other, it will bring a vicious circle and induce diseases.