This article is from WeChat official account:There is a university (ID: youjian-university), author: Zhao Jingyi, from the head of FIG: movie “to our eventually lost youth”
“If you talk about these experiences in Tieba, people will not give advice about your experience, but will show a gloating or ridiculous attitude. Others have a hard time empathy and cannot understand, they will think that 985 graduates should It’s mixed well.”
This summer, Li Meng accidentally discovered the “985 Waste Introduction Project Team” on Douban.com.
There are nearly 110,000 members in this group. They all graduated from 985 colleges and universities, but they laughed at themselves as “waste.” They shared their frustrations in the workplace and repeated bumps in finding a job in the group.
The popular term “small town to be a tester” comes from here. It describes a group of people who can only handle exams, are from a mediocre background and have average abilities.
Some people think that the group is more like a mutual aid association. Although they have encountered some setbacks, they still want to work hard to live better.
After graduating from university, Li Meng once kept a distance from his classmates, especially those with good jobs. She will block the other’s circle of friends and even remove her from her friends. “If you want to learn to protect yourself, everyone is not in the same circle anymore, and there is no need to contact them again.”
“After graduating from 985 colleges and universities, it is impossible for everyone to succeed in their careers. Many people admit that they have failed, but the public opinion of the society makes them feel that they do not mix well and do not match their academic qualifications. In fact, this is not the case.” Said.
She believes that social concepts should be changed, and academic qualifications should no longer be the only criterion for evaluating ability, nor should it become a shackle for college graduates. After all, everyone has a different life.
1. Jump out of stability and do something you like
Li Meng was born in a small town in Jiangsu Province. His parents were both civil servants. When she was a child, she had always been a good student of standards. After the college entrance examination, she went to a 985 college in the province and applied for nuclear related majors. “At that time, the family felt that the profession was very popular, and made the best choice based on the score, without considering future employment.”
In the eyes of parents, civil servants are the best jobs. Since his senior year, Li Meng has taken the national, provincial, and local exams, but he has never passed.
In the end, she found her current job through a talent introduction program in a county in a northern province. The content of the job has nothing to do with the past major.
Li Meng, who has studied nuclear for four years, became a clerk and wrote various materials for the Urban Management Bureau, the Health Bureau, and the Landscape Bureau.
More than a year later, Li Meng still doesn’t adapt to the local life, so he spends his rest days in a rented house. “Here mainly eats pasta, and I am not used to eating. I use a kettle to boil hot water. In less than a month, there will be scale and the environment is not used to it.”
In the office, there are two circles invisible, local people, one is more than 20 college students and graduate students. Li Meng said that the requirements for undergraduates are 211 and 985 college graduates. “Several of them graduated from Zhejiang University and Fudan University. The locals are a little older and generally have low academic qualifications. Many of them have high school diplomas.”
In fact, Li Meng has a better choice. Most of her classmates went to a Fortune 500 medical company in Nanjing. The monthly income with subsidies is 10,000 yuan, and the year-end bonus is around 200,000 yuan.
And her current job is only 5,000 yuan a month, but her parents value the establishment of public institutions.
In the office, Li Meng found that these colleagues who had been introduced through talents had many similarities with the experiences of team members.
“Some people are like the small towns that are often mentioned nowadays, and their reaction and expression skills at work are biased. There are also many people who feel that the society is very competitive and want to be stable before they come here.
I have a colleague who is very smart and can speak many foreign languages, but he is not very good at dealing with people, and his socialization level is relatively low. There are a lot of such people, but they can only get together in that group and stay together online to keep warm. “
Li Meng was not reconciled to such a life. After work, she began to prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination, with the goal of majoring in classical literature at Peking University. She said that the majors she chose in the past were all based on practicality, and this time she wanted to listen to her interests.
This decision also takes into consideration the parents, and wants to achieve a balance.
She said: “If I get admitted, I will be able to teach at a university or work in a research institute in the future. For my parents, this is also a stable job, which is also of interest to me.”
A stable life means to a large extent a stable job. /unsplash
On weekdays, Li Meng likes to play games, and even the QQ profile picture uses the second element. She is not known by her parents or teachers. For example, in games, she is not as good as she is in life, but a powerful player.
In addition to reviewing the postgraduate entrance examination, she sometimes uses her mobile phone to play games to relax. Many friends also met while playing games.
In the network signature, Li Meng used a haiku from his favorite Japanese poet Matsuo Basho: “Water bird’s beak is covered with plum petals.”
Now, she looks forward to reading Chinese as soon as possible and re-entering campus. At that time, life will be able to open a new chapter and live a life that you really like.
Second, “They said, I seem to have become an adult”
Although more than 7 years have passed, Chen Li still remembers this sentence: “You are not like a student at Fudan University.”
This sentence made her feel ashamed, but fortunately, she has come out. It was the summer vacation of the sophomore year. She participated in an intern interview for a magazine but was rejected, while other students went to a large company for internship very smoothly.
In this regard, Chen Li often attributed her weakness to her growth experience.
Chen Li is from Shanghai. Before entering junior high school, she lived in a self-built house covering an area of more than 40 square meters on North Sichuan Road in Shanghai.
Speaking of this, she was a little embarrassed: “On the first floor is a grocery store opened by grandpa and grandma. There is a small room separated from it. Our family of three lives in it. We need to use spittoons to go to the toilet.”
Chen Li talked about her father, who has been doing finance all his life and has experienced several business closures, so the family’s financial situation is very tense. Parents are not good at dealing with people, never eat out, and never invite friends to come home.
“Dad would not be able to adapt to the environment of the work unit. He couldn’t understand what others said, and the interpersonal relationship was very poor. At home, he always devalued me.” Chen Li said.
As a small employee in the company, parents put more attention on their daughter, but they made her feel more negative and depressed emotions.
After graduating from an ordinary elementary school, Chen Li was admitted to ShanghaiA prestigious middle school. The sudden changes in the environment made it difficult for Chen Li to adapt, and she was sensitive to the differences in the crowd.
Chen Li said: “The classmates are in a very good family situation. I can clearly feel that other people are more active than you, their voices are louder than you, and their expressions are clearer and smoother. I couldn’t even follow the rhythm of the teacher in class. Go. I was also subjected to cold violence in the class. This incident almost paralyzed my future life.”
This state continued until the university. At Fudan University, Chen Li chose a small language major. She felt that the new language would help her break through her limitations.
But she found that the gap between herself and her classmates is difficult to bridge: “There is a classmate who speaks Italian very well. She has never studied French, but she can spell it after listening to the pronunciation. More importantly, I It was also very late to realize that the way of learning in university is different from that in middle school, and you need to learn more actively.”
Chen Li said that a prestigious school is more like a small vanity fair. Smart peers are better at obtaining resources through teachers and clubs, paving the way for graduation early.
“At that time, I felt like I was covered by something, very delayed. Emotions will change your language, insight, and learning style.” After graduation, Chen Li chose to study abroad for graduate school. Her major was Comparative literature.
In 2015, after returning to China, she found it difficult to find a suitable job. Within half a year, she did 3 jobs. In addition to low salary, she was also repeatedly dismissed. This experience became a shadow in her heart.
In the end, she entered the media as she wished, first working in the local newspaper, and then to a more influential art and life magazine. She believes that this job has brought a lot of changes to herself. By learning to deal with different people, she has become more confident.
My friends also saw this transformation of her, “They said that I seem to have grown up and become an adult”.
Yellow Lantern’s “My Two Students” inspired Chen Li a lot, and learned another life from itExperience. I wrote such a paragraph in the book——
“How can students gain real power? I always believe that whether you can face your own life experience, whether you can face yourself, and whether you can connect with the real life experience determines whether young people can generate power. The key.”
When studying at Fudan University, Chen Li took and audited many courses in literature, history and philosophy, but she didn’t care about the credits at the time. Chen Li felt that this experience was very precious, even though she was somewhat hit by a wall.
“The greatest benefit of studying at this university is that whether you are pursuing grades, work, or any other aspect, you can be on your own. It took several years before I started to face the power of that period of time.”< /p>
Three, in the future, we still have to rely on ourselves
The philosopher Han Bingzhe said in his book Burnout Society that he believes that the disciplined society proposed by Foucault has gone, and the contemporary society is becoming a performance-led and competitive society. While advocating an efficient life, people tend to get used to self-exploitation, often fall into anxiety, and lose the ability to contemplate.
Chen Fei quit his job as a college counselor. But when searching for college jobs online, he found that his requirements for academic qualifications are getting higher and higher.
Previously, Chen Fei was majoring in social engineering in a general second, and his graduate student was admitted to a 985 university in Beijing to study sociology. After graduation, he returned to his hometown of Yunnan and worked as a counselor in a college.
Whether it is 985, double first-class, general undergraduate and junior college, always graduate and always leave. /unsplash
“Recently, looking at recruitment, I found that teachers recruited by vocational colleges and collegesChen Fei, who was two years old, also faced the same difficulties. Obviously, while academic qualifications are becoming more and more essential, they are also rapidly depreciating.
A friend complained to him that his university majored in biopharmaceuticals, and he could find R&D work in a pharmaceutical factory. But after graduating, he found that he could only start with ordinary grassroots workers, and the work itself was a bit harmful to the body.
Now, Chen Fei thinks more clearly. He believes that the members of the “985 Waste Introduction Project Team”, “didn’t recognize the academic background and the future, the two correlations are no longer so important, it may be that they have stayed in the ivory tower for a long time, and it is time to go out.”
“In the future, we still have to rely on ourselves.”
Chen Fei intends to find a new media or planning job in Kunming. The few months without a job are regarded as a long vacation. “It doesn’t matter if you learn from the beginning, there is still a long way to go.”
This article is from WeChat official account:There is a university (ID: youjian-university), author: Zhao Jingyi