Indulgence of a little vanity is a necessary feedback for life.
Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “Spenser” (ID:spenserandhk), author Uncle S.
I found a very interesting phenomenon:
Before, at the end of the month, everyone will be a little tight, looking forward to paying back to the blood quickly;
And now many people are mourning on the day of paying, or that the heart is not so big–
Because, want, still, money.
The flower buds are still 2000, the white bars are 800, the credit card is 3000, and the necessary rent, water and electricity costs and meals are deducted. The salary of an urban white-collar worker is basically divided. If you have bought a house, you have to Add a mortgage…
There are more and more debt-constrained households, and deposits of zero are nothing.
Yesterday, I saw that the new intern in the office changed a new Apple mobile phone. She said that you have not yet officially worked. The level of consumption is quite high. Mom and Dad usually give a lot of money.
She responded with a smile to me: “The boss you misunderstood, I am the person who wants to work, and I am so embarrassed to ask the family for money, it is not a trick, a white brush to make it out, and slowly “.”
She is certainly not an example.
I am another older colleague with a higher qualification. When I was young, my family’s financial situation was very bad. From the time I went to college, I was very cautious in spending money;
Afterwards, she brought a handbag of a luxury brand to work, saying that she bought it with a credit card, and suddenly she wanted to open it. She felt that the days were so hard, I bought a expensive one, and satisfied my own vanity. Heart, very good.
Although many people now criticize the behavior of “advance consumption”, it is irrational to borrow money to buy expensive things, but it is vain, but I will think about it recently. Is our previous understanding of “vanity” some? Narrow?
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Thinking vain,
Because you underestimated the lethality of poverty
Sometimes netizens leave a message in the Weibo comment area saying that “poverty limits my imagination.”
This sentence can of course reflect certain realities, but more of it is more of a joke, because it is not really poor to be able to take care of poverty at will;
Only wealthy people will say that they are poor;
The really poor people are afraid that others know that they are poor.
Because of the real experience of poverty, it is disabilityTolerant, painful and unspeakable;
So ordinary people are really not limited by the imagination of poverty, but by life limits the imagination of poverty.
Still my colleague, she said that because the family had no money before, from the middle school, they had to pay for tuition by applying for bursaries and holiday workers;
At that time, don’t talk about the dolls that girls like, and she doesn’t even dare to buy a hello kitty card; on the other hand, she is afraid of wasting money. On the other hand, she will have a feeling of guilty feelings. Worried that people see her buying such “ornaments” would say she is vanity.
I understand her entanglement at the time, because fundamentally, only when we think that a person can’t match a thing, we will feel that this behavior is “vanious.”
This judgment may be objective, but it is definitely biased,
Because it does not go deep into the background of human nature;
I believe that if you give everyone the right to choose, then everyone will want to be the one who can help others, not the one who is helped.
Poverty makes one feel that they don’t deserve good things,
It will also make others feel that this person should not have good things.
For example, some people have saved money for a long time, and finally bought the first pair of Nike shoes in life, but still feel that they will have no confidence when they wear them. They are afraid that they will be false, and they will not dare to rebut themselves;
This is the hat of vanity, which is really terrible.
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You are very embarrassed, only to say that others are vanity
I don’t want vanity to be demonized.
The most direct reason is that I believe that everyone has vanity and I can hardly imagine it;
A person who dare not face up to his vanity can have any motivation to move forward.
Some people, there are promises and hopes in the heart, I hope that I will be praised by the people around me, but I pretend to be a kind of pure-minded look. I can’t watch other people’s friends show up and show off. Buy an Apple phone and LV, think that those are vanity vulgar;
It seems that the Buddha’s peace of mind is actually just not showing his desire.
I know a boss’s son, a junior, and usually go to school with a black Nike backpack, which he bought on the first day. Now the surface is cracked, but people are calm. Free, no scruples;
It’s becauseFor him to be born, do not care about appearance, do not pay attention to eating and dressing properly?
No, it’s because he knows very well that his family is very rich. These things can be found, so his free and easy care and unrestrained nature is from the heart.
The reality is that only those who have made a name for themselves can truly be indifferent to fame and fortune;
Only financially affluent people can truly see money as something outside their body;
For most of our ordinary children, working hard and making money is the life itself.
We just want higher incomes, make bigger achievements, and use better and more expensive things for ourselves and our families.
This is nothing to avoid, and people who are jealous always say that others are vanity.
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Indulge a little vanity,
Responsive for life
I am not trying to advocate vanity, but I really suggest that you may indulge your own vanity, because this is the incentive that anyone needs.
Why is the game so addictive and hard to learn?
Because everything in the game, how many passes, how many levels, and how much money you earned, can be intuitively and timely feedback in front of you, you can feel the harvest, and naturally have the motivation to keep playing.
So whether you are paying for an Apple mobile phone or spending a credit card to buy a luxury item, if you buy something you like and make you feel happy, then buy it, no matter what others How to say.
Xiao Wei once shared his story of buying a package in the fourth season of “Qi Yu said”:
He took out a month’s salary, and the sister took out the first time to pay for the microfilm. The two men joined forces to buy a big bag.
He still feels that the money is overly meaningful, because every time he sees the bag, he can feel his ordinary life, it seems to be lighted a little, it seems to be a little better. .
Not noble enough, but we are such people.
Sincerely, everyone may be said to be a “vanious person” because they pursue things that seem to be unattainable, but they are given to us because of the distance between those things and the present. Yearning for, to chase them.
Everyone is the protagonist of their own life;
So please believe that we can all be the ones we want to be in our efforts to keep up on our toes.