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Look at the following two people again, which one do you think is more like you:
A: Smiling on the surface, stabbing a knife in the back, planning a conspiracy every day, all the stakes are clear, and I will never suffer.
B: I gritted my teeth with hate a few hours ago, and after a few hours I started to comfort myself. A day later, it is not easy to think about others. A week later, I found that they were still very enthusiastic, but I was always thinking about the mess. It’s boring…
Same sentence again, “A” is just the perfect self in the imagination, and “B” is the real self in reality.
So, from another point of view, since you are “B”, it is unlikely that the people around you are all wizards of court fighting, and you are not the emperor. So what do so many people deliberately want to harm you? The possibility of what you encounter is “B” is higher, and the possibility of unintentional is far more than malicious.
As for many people’s reasons for judgment, “How coincidental, I refused to lend him a car, and his attitude changed?”, This is a perspective from one’s own perspective, thinking Everyone is revolving around themselves, either being good for you or bad for you.
Students who have just graduated and entered the workplace feel insecure. It is forgivable to think so, but if they still think so after working for a few years, they can only be described as “immature”.
The above analysis is from a probabilistic point of view, but what happens if someone has to entangle and figure out if the other party did it intentionally?
3 Principle of Occam’s Razor
Probability does not mean that it actually happened. Malice is of course possible, but unless you have clear evidence, it is still regarded as “unintentional”, which is more beneficial to you.
This is not a chicken soup for the soul, but the “Occam’s Razor Principle”, a theory widely used in science, philosophy, management and other fields. It contains two levels of meaning:
Basic meaning: The explanation that requires the least hypothesis is often the explanation that is closer to the truth.
For example, the leader has repeatedly dissatisfied with your plan. Here are two explanations:
Explanation A: Assume that your plans these few times are really bad (in fact, some have been approved by leaders, but your attention is completely occupied by the more terrible explanation B below)
Explanation B: Suppose the leader heard the argument behind your back;
Assuming he holds a grudge;
Suppose he deliberately puts your plan that you did well out of nothing;
Suppose he has to use a poorly written plan.
Explaining A only needs one hypothesis, and B needs to have four hypotheses at the same time, so A is closer to the real explanation.
Many people who are just entering the workplace choose to believe in explanation B because they do not understand the work of leadership. 80% of the leader’s work time is allocated to his leader. Unless you hinder his important work, the possibility of accusing him of deliberately harming you with four hypotheses is really very small.
The “Occam’s Razor Principle” also has a corollary: if there is a condition that we cannot perceive and detect, then this condition does not exist.
If you really want to know the answer, you might as well ask him face to face (provided you dare). If he gives a negative answer, obviously, you will never know the truth, and your suspicion is no. exist.
If you feel uncomfortable, change a place, but if you change a place, you still find that leaders and colleagues are “making you embarrassing everywhere”. See the first explanation of “Occam’s Razor”.
In life, this mentality of “I would rather believe in the unintentional than malicious” can be understood as an attitude to life, and when you face some very complex phenomena, this attitude in life can give You bring tangible improvements in abilities.
For example, investment.
4 The imaginary big boss
The risk of investment lies not only in losing money, but also in that you do not know how you lost money because luck, ability, and personality have certain factors. This feature of inability to be attributable correctly has led many investors to believe that there is a big Boss who can control the market omnipotent, rather than believe that stock prices are due to multiple factors.The comprehensive result of the element.
The most common big boss imagination is the “bookmaker”.
China’s stock market can be described as “no stocks but no stocks” 20 years ago, but after so many years of strong supervision, and the entire investor structure has also undergone great changes. Being a stock market is not only risky but also extremely prone to losses, so the stock market has already It is an extremely isolated phenomenon, and dealers have almost disappeared.
But many stockholders are still deep in the “bookmaker’s thinking”. A decline in stocks means that the banker suppresses the liquidation, and a rise means that the banker pulls up. If you make money, you are a good bank, and if you lose money, you are a “dog bank.”
Another common big boss imagines the country. He believes that the “country” has the motive and ability to push up the stock market, suppress the stock price, and lose money on its own, but it just doesn’t correctly understand the country’s intentions.
The third type of big boss imagines that it is a large institution headed by a public offering fund. With its capital strength, it can only hold a group. Anyway, it is the money of the basic people that the group breaks down and loses.
It is my own ability to make money, and it is the malice of others to lose money. Considering the problem in this way is the fundamental reason why investment capacity cannot be improved.
A-shares are no longer the pocket markets of 20 years ago. They are too big to be manipulated by any forces. The state is an abstract concept. Each department that implements it has its own interests. Many institutional investors are just better than retail investors. More information advantages, more division of labor support from professional teams.
The operation of the stock market has its own laws. It is not for the Yao to survive, not for perishing, only unintentional harm, no malicious grabbing. As an investor, if you make a profit, you have to thank the “egg lottery” of this era. If you lose, you must also work hard to improve your investment level, bear the risks you can bear, and earn profits within your ability.
5 Like causality, dislike randomness
I believe in malice rather than unintentional, and there is another reason, “malicious” stands for causality, and “unintentional” stands for randomism. We always like “cause and effect” and hate “random”.
For example, when driving on the street, you believe that the opposite car will not rush to you. This is because you know that most people will not make fun of their lives. This is causality. But if it is random theory, you should believe that the car on the opposite side may rush towards you for no reason (this is the world in the eyes of many schizophrenics), so most people are more willing to believe in causality from the bottom of their hearts.
But in fact, apart from driving on the street, which is highly constrained by social rules, most of our behaviors are random and lack strict causality.
There is a rule in screenwriting theory. If a close-up of a gun appears at the beginning of the film, then it must be shot at some point, because a film is a completely closed world of cause and effect.
butThis rule does not exist in reality. Compared with “malicious”, carelessness, emotionality, forgetfulness, and desire to do whatever one wants are the more essential characteristics of human beings.
If we devote most of our energy to pondering these meaningless random events and delusional to find the “truth” behind them, then most of our lives will be spent in meaningless suspicions.
Of course, “Believe in unintentional rather than malicious”, including “Occam’s Razor Principle”, is not a scientific truth, but a way of thinking and survival. It can’t help you be smarter, but it can Make you more successful and happier.