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Just listen to the name, and know how controversial “My Sister” will be.
Look at its official introduction. The film tells a family story about a sister who has lost her parents facing the issue of pursuing an independent life or raising her younger brother.
At the beginning of the film, An Ran (played by Zhang Zifeng)’s parents were killed in a car accident and suddenly thrown at her six-year-old brother. Ironically, the family photo in the car only had a photo of her brother and her parents. She needed to show her ID card to prove her relationship with the deceased. A small detail hinted at the relationship between her and her native family. She rummaged through the photos at home, but found no photo of herself, but found a yellowish certificate of disability. When she was a child, her parents always wanted to give birth to a boy and lied to the public that Enron had polio.
As soon as the camera turned, everyone asked her to continue raising her brother, who was called a “stranger”. On the other hand, in the workplace, we have seen professional discrimination against her because of her status as a nurse. Originally, she wanted to study medicine in college, but her parents forced her to change her choice and became a nurse. This is why she has always been obsessed with going to Beijing to study for postgraduates. If she raises her younger brother, it means that her dream will come to nothing again.
Picture: Official poster
This is the main story of the whole film. In the development process, director Yin Ruoxin has added different generational choices, traditions andModern conflicts, young people’s love and the collision of ideals and other elements, the two-hour movie is not monotonous. What caused the controversy was the end of the story. An Ran finally found an ideal adoptive family for An Ziheng, but when the other party asked to sign a “no longer meet” agreement, he took his brother away. The story comes to an abrupt end here, and we don’t know how the sister will choose.
After reading the comments from netizens, many people attributed this to “advocating that sisters sacrifice for younger brothers.” I don’t think so. Of course, “My Sister” is not advocating the sacrifice of my sister, it is talking about “letting go”.
People who are familiar with screenwriter You Xiaoying will feel the taste of her predecessor, “Love and Dating” in “My Sister”. In that story, the rural wife Yue Zeng finally decided to move the grave. Before moving the grave, she was crying and stroking her husband’s bones and saying, “I don’t want you anymore.” I waited for a lifetime, but now, after seeing so many photos of her husband and another woman, she let go of the obsession with love in her heart. On the other side, the wife’s daughter in the city also made concessions and decided to take her mother’s ashes back to the country. After the death of Yue Zeng, the three were buried together. The daughter let go of the obsession that “mother is the only legal wife”.
Picture: Official stills
Similarly, what the “sisters” need to let go is obsession. Another “elder sister” in “My Sister”-An Ran’s aunt, she dedicated her life to the family. At the beginning, she also hoped that An Ran could raise her younger brother like herself, and scolded An Ran to find an adoptive family for “shameless”. She finally put it down, and told An Ran that “the dolls don’t have to be put in the same sleeve.” On the surface, she was thinking back to the days when she went to Russia when she was young. In fact, the deeper reason may be the collapse of the belief in “elder sister selfless dedication”. My aunt always thought that her selfless dedication had resulted in a good childhood life for her niece, until An Ran lightly talked about how her uncle took a shower when she was a child, her expression was full of consternation and shock.
The “sister” Enron needs to let go is to the fatherMother’s obsession. There is a scene in the film. An Ran mutters to herself in front of her parents’ grave. She also wants to prove that she is excellent after entering the graduate school. We found that her dream was not so pure. To a large extent, she is indulged in the relationship with her native family, which tightly binds her, making her look like a hedgehog full of thorns no matter in career or in love.
Interestingly, in “My Sister”, we heard the familiar line “I don’t want you anymore” again. When the elder sister learned that the younger brother took the initiative to find the adopter, she slapped the younger brother and asked him “what do you mean”, the younger brother cried out “I don’t want you anymore”. I found out that it was not a one-way sacrifice of my sister, but my brother was also trying to make a sacrifice. Therefore, rather than saying that the end of the film is “advocating the sacrifice of sister”, it is better to say that the interaction between her younger brother and sister during the development of the story makes her feel the intimacy again and melts the thick self-protection shell on her back because of her parents.
Of course, many people think that this is too independent of women, but what I want to say is that this is also one of the real life situations. The relationship between people and life in real life is too complicated. Theoretically, we can ask Enron to leave lightly, ask her to find herself, pursue a career, and make money, but one thing that cannot be avoided is that there is indeed a natural blood relationship between sister and brother. Fetters, there is hostility and conflict between them, but they also have companionship and understanding, and “hostility” and “understanding” are often symbiotic. At this time, how should we ask sister? Does it require two people to have nothing to do with each other like cutting wood? Is this only possible?
Picture: Official stills
Obviously, “My Sister” wants to show this complexity. My sister can be very determined in graduate school, and she can think about leaving when her brother goes to the toilet at the subway station, but she also finds that she can’t be cruel to leave his brother behind. My elder sister wanted to find an adoptive family for her younger brother, but she did not completely forget her responsibility as an elder sister. When she was looking for an adoptive family, she interviewed many families and found that her uncle was not reliable.Mala took his brother home. She was stubborn about her parents wanting to give birth to a boy, but she also seemed to feel guilty about not knowing that her father had had heart surgery. That father’s leather jacket was proof of her sister’s desire for her father. And the picture of her mother’s warmth that she thinks of from time to time…
In my opinion, this is precisely because the director and screenwriter did not narrow feminism. They did not stand above and judge and examine the life of another woman.
However, “My Sister” also has obvious shortcomings. If the younger brother brought ginger water while the older sister was in the aunt period, and recognized that the older sister wanted to throw himself away at the subway station, saying that lying would turn into an elephant’s nose, and that he would eat less in the future, these might be true. He first communicated with his sister to confirm that her sister wanted to go to Beijing, and then took the initiative to call the adopter and ask to be adopted. It is unlikely that a 6-year-old child would do anything.
I think so intellectually, but when my brother said the adult-like words “I don’t want you anymore”, my tears still flowed out uncontrollably. The screenwriter is too smart, she knows where the audience’s itch is, and she scratches it precisely. And it is this sensational plot that is too illusory, which greatly reduces the originally complicated emotional line, hurts the characters, hurts the story, and is complained by the audience, not injustice.
It’s almost done. In the end, I’m still willing to give “My Sister” a score of 7. Because I like the real life texture so much. In “Love and Dating”, after the mother died, the daughter made chili sauce most of the night, choking to tears. The taste of chili sauce was left to her by her mother. In “My Sister”, food also serves as the function of this kind of thinking. An Ran recalled his mother, the most memorable thing was the meat bun wrapped in peppercorns. We also understand why when we don’t know where mom and dad are going, the younger brother willfully asks the older sister for meat buns.