Born to be a sister, am I wrong?
Editor’s note: This article is from the micro-channel public number “microscopic Story” (ID: xianweigushi), Author: Wang, editor: Zoran.
Some time ago, the movie “My Sister” was hit, and the younger brother in the film said a word to his sister,
“Dad said that everything in the house is mine, you must listen to me!”
In just 2 hours, the movie threw four bombs, namely “patriarchy”, “female reproductive rights”, “women’s awakening”, and “meaning of life”. The four bombs hit the hearts of the audience. Can let her explode, leaving a scar-called “sister”.
This issue of microscopic stories tells a group of sisters struggling with responsibility, affection and self. Among them:
Some people eat frugally and save a small sum of money, but in the end they are “squeezed out” by their parents and younger brother, and even the bridegroom for the younger brother’s marriage must be offered by themselves;
Some people feel sorry for their younger brother’s serious illness, and they don’t hesitate to marry someone with a high-priced gift in exchange for life-saving money, but in the end they are “vampires” by their in-laws and go out of the house;
Some people, after getting married and having children, accidentally got a younger brother as old as their own son, feeling that they are not a sister but more like a mother.
Here is the true story about them:
My brother is a blood-sucking worm
“I want to pay for online loans and wedding gifts.”
Zhao Ruirui 33 years old
I am the “older leftover girl” in everyone’s eyes.
I was born in a remote rural area in Sichuan, and worked hard in Shenzhen after finishing my postgraduate studies in Beijing.
At first I worked in a foreign company. In the minds of the old family, this means flying on a branch to turn into a phoenix. Compared with them working on the ground, I can get my salary as long as I sit in the office.
But what they don’t know is how high the cost of living in Shenzhen is.
My monthly salary is just over 10,000 yuan, 30% of which is used to pay the rent, and it’s just a small studio in a village in the city.
I usually eat food at the supermarket and go back to prepare it, and take it to my unit the next day. I don’t dare to go out on weekends, because I don’t know how much money I will spend on dressing, socializing and eating when I go out.
In order to save money, I get up at 5:20 every day and take the bus three times to go to work at the company. Once I worked overtime to go home and missed the last bus. In order to save the fare, I walked a full 40 minutes in the winter night.
The daily life goes back and forth so brightly in the office during the day, but at night it is suddenly beaten back to its original shape, like two parallel worlds.
The gap between day and night is also reflected in my real life.
I have a younger brother who dropped out of junior high school. A few years ago, he entered the police station because of fighting with people in society. After coming out of the bureau, he has not had a permanent jobIt’s not about asking parents for money. Seeing that his parents didn’t want to care about him, he followed in my footsteps all the way to different cities to hang out.
“Sister, give me some money to buy cigarettes”, “I’m going to work in Henan, and reimburse me for some travel expenses”, such requests are endless.
The thing that broke me the most was that some time ago, he borrowed a large amount of loans from the Internet loan, and owed hundreds of thousands of yuan and didn’t pay it back. In the end, the debt collector directly called my parents to ask for money.
My mom couldn’t help it, so she called me again and asked me to help pay back the money together.
My head buzzed when I received the call. Money, money, money, I have taken care of him from childhood, and I have never given him less money, but he really makes me feel like a “bottomless pit”.
Every time I think about the result of my frugality, which is to pay for his idleness, I feel aggrieved.
Under the double pressure of my parents, I took out my savings from working in Shenzhen for 2 years, pooled what my parents gave, and helped him change his debts together.
In order to find a higher-paying job, I even quit my position in a foreign company in Shenzhen and switched to real estate sales.
But it’s not over yet, my dad called me again these days. I am most afraid of answering my parents’ phone calls. Basically, I don’t care about me personally. I just ask for money for my brother or ask for help. Sure enough, on the phone this time, my dad said that his younger brother was going to get married, and the family couldn’t make up the betrothal gift, so he asked me to help solve it.
When I heard that I had no money, my dad was anxious,
“At the beginning, my family used so much money to study for you, now you don’t help with the big matter of your brother’s marriage?”
Be aware that the loans I received when I was studying were repaid by my own work afterwards. In addition, the tuition fee was waived for the scholarship during the postgraduate period. I earn living expenses part-time. It can be said that after graduating from high school, I basically did not spend much money at home.
“Why can my brother ask me for money as soon as something happens, but I can only solve it by myself?”
“Your brother is not easy to find a wife. If you don’t help, our Zhao family will be cut off.” No need to guess, I knew my dad was going to use this sentence to force me.
I thought to myself that I will only help one last time in this matter. This year I also talked about my boyfriend, and I was about to talk about marriage and marriage, but I didn’t dare to ask my family for a cent. I know that in their hearts, their daughters marrying is the water poured out. It should be a matter of taking money back. How can they expect them to help or bless?
But after repeated questioning by my boyfriend, he still learned about my money to supplement my brother. When the boyfriend’s mother heard about this situation, she strongly prevented her son from marrying me. The reason she gave was “I don’t want my son to have a brother-in-law in the future.”
In the end, I took the initiative to end this relationship, and continued to float in Shenzhen alone.
My brother is as old as my son
“My mother and I are pregnant, I have realized that the eldest sister is like a mother”
Zhong Qinling is 47 years old
I am an out-and-out “helping brother demon”.
I was originally an only child. After my parents raised me until they got married and had children, maybe because of fear of loneliness, my mother was pregnant with another child.
More coincidentally, my mother and I were pregnant, and my brother was one and a half months older than my son.
Why do you say that I am the demon of helping brother? After my mother became pregnant, I was like an extra twin son.
Before giving birth, I bought baby products in duplicate. After the baby was born, I bought insurance for the baby and my brother also got a copy. At first, I didn’t think it was too much. It was easy anyway, but as the child grew up, when I gradually returned to work, the problem came-no one can take the child.
My mother volunteered that she brought her own children and brought them to me. It’s not as good as living with two families, and the children can grow up together, so I can go to work with peace of mind.
When the children went to kindergarten, my husband and I gradually felt financially overwhelmed. In kindergarten, art, music and other tutoring classes, everything is the same for my uncles and nephews. My husband and I cannot make ends meet every month.
My husband expressed the hope that my parents can take on the responsibility of raising children and share some of my brother’s educational expenses, but my dad disagrees.
He believes that my mother has brought us a baby, so we should pay for the education of the younger brother.
In the end, we had no choice but to write down all the accounts and talk to my dad one by one. He realized that he was a bit too much and was willing to bear part of the tuition and tuition fees.
But it was not over yet, and later, the two children entered junior high school and entered puberty. My son was fairly obedient and didn’t cause much trouble, but his younger brother was more rebellious, smoking, drinking, and even playing cards, which caused me to receive calls from my teacher every three days, asking me to go to school to talk.
When I got home, I didn’t dare to criticize directly when I saw my younger brother.
When I am old, I am mostly spoiling and pampering, and his parents are still no exception.
In order to be optimistic about his mistakes, I sent my brother to the school gate every day and picked him up at school on time at night.
Finally, at least I didn’t do disciplinary violations, but my grades were messed up and I only went to an ordinary high school. My son went to a key middle school. My mother felt unbalanced and blamed me for not educating my brother well.
Now, my younger brother has a junior college, and he has a girlfriend in it. He calls to ask for money every other time, and he complains about me:
“Sister, other students have love funds, why don’t I?”
I don’t know when such a day will be the head. After all, I am just his sister, not his mother, but why does the whole world think that I should take the responsibility of raising him?
I “sold” myself for my brother
“After leaving the house after two years, my husband does not want to be sucked blood by me and my family”
Zhang Jiayi is 25 years old
I was born in a small mountain village in Guizhou. There are three sisters in my family. I am the second child. There is an older sister on the top and a younger brother on the bottom.
My parents have always preferred my younger brother since he was a child, and all the red eggs he brought back from eating out are also reserved for him. When we were young, we all felt that our parents were partial, but the blood was in harmony, I still love this brother in my heart, after all, it is my family.
But I didn’t expect that this family would ultimately affect my life’s happiness.
When I was 16, I dropped out of school and went to work. At that time, I was a waiter in a restaurant in Shenzhen and I met Xiao Yuan, another waiter. Just when I was about to discuss marriage, I received a call from my mother from my hometown.
On the phone, my mother cried out of breath and said that my brother had uremia, which was very serious and could not be replaced.
In other words, his brother’s life will need to be maintained by dialysis three times a week in the future.
I was so distressed at the time. After I hung up the phone, I started to check how much balance I had in my bank card. But I have only been working for 2 years, and I still work as a waiter. Taking some savings is a drop in the money for my brother’s illness.
In the end, we rented a small house next to the hospital. My mother took care of my brother’s diet and daily life. My father worked odd jobs in the county to earn money. My brother’s medical expenses and their living expenses could not be paid every month.
Finally, I gritted my teeth and said to my parents, “I’ll marry someone, and give money to my brother for treatment.”
I discussed marriage with Xiao Yuan, but their family is not rich, and they can’t give out many gifts. I am very conflicted. On one side, I have a deep-rooted lover, and on the other side, my brother who has no money to treat the disease, who lay there in pain, finally gritted his teeth and ended our relationship.
I knew my ex-husband under the introduction of local people. Their family runs a brick factory and the economy is good, but they are dark and short and have some problems with their eyes, so they did not marry a wife when they were in their 30s.
When the matchmaker found me, she specifically emphasized that the other party didn’t mind my family situation, and she was willing to give 100,000 gifts to get married.
In this way, I married a man who didn’t love each other so much and was 13 years older than me, and it eased the financial problems in my own family for a while.
After three years of marriage, I have had a son and a daughter. With the two children in the house, the economic pressure has increased, and the brick factory’s business has also been sluggish. For my natal family, we are getting less and less money.
One time, my dad called again to say that my brother’s condition was getting worse and he was in urgent need of a large amount of money. I immediately consulted with my husband to discuss countermeasures. Unexpectedly, he said indifferently, “Your brother has not been ill for a day or two. Have we helped him less in these years? Your family is a bottomless pit.”
“I did everything I should do as a brother-in-law,Do we need money for raising children? “
“You can no longer help, and you can’t help.”
A few words in a row made me speechless, but that’s my own brother, how can I keep my arms around? In the end, I secretly moved 50,000 yuan of deposits between me and the old public to my parents.
Fortunately, my brother finally got over, but my marriage is also over.
Under the catalysis of this incident, we continued to quarrel, parents-in-law and mother-in-law also joined in, and I begged them again and again that the child was still young and needed a mother.
As a result, my mother-in-law said viciously, “You are a prodigal son. My son has married you for eight lifetimes. Your brother and parents only know how to suck your blood. We don’t want to raise your brother anymore.” /p>
Two years ago, I divorced, and my two children followed the man, and I went out of the house.
I am not a qualified mother, not a qualified wife, am I qualified as a sister?