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“22 years old, graduate soon, nothing will happen, I don’t know what to do after graduation, so confused…”

“25 ​​years old, graduated for 3 years, mixed for 3 years, it seems that nothing has been learned, what to do, so confused…”

“I don’t know what I like, what I am suitable for, I don’t know what job I am looking for, my life is lost.”

Similarly like this, online is a lot of search. It seems that “confusing” is a nightmare that people in this era can’t get rid of.

What do you have to do to get out of the lost life?

“Life will not begin until you are ready; life has begun, you have run out of time in the process of experimentation, and deception is itself the norm in life.”

——Economist Xue Zhaofeng

This sentence is a sentence that Professor Xue said when he was interviewed by GQ.

I have always admired people who study economics, especially Xue Zhaofeng, who uses economics to explain things and things related to people, to do the truth, and to be indifferent and desperate.

This sentence is a close look, it is telling us three things: confused is the normal state of life; keep trying is the solution method; don’t be afraid The result of the failure.

Three things that look like chicken soup, but it seems to cover the problems that most people have: Some people are not confused? How to determine the career direction? What should I do if I fail? How can I not be confused?

These three things, putting together is actually like completing a puzzle game, only knowing the rules of the puzzle game, according to the limitedThe clues unlock one puzzle after another, and will continue to approach the intricate mystery.

Cognitive confusion is the normal state of life

Although this sentence looks like a nonsense, isn’t there anyone who is not confused?

Yes.

This thing seems to be the “illness” that has only begun to intensify in this era.

There is a middle-aged woman downstairs in my house. The body is thin and short, and I can’t see the expression on her face with any emotional color.

Every time I see her, I always have the same sky blue T-shirt, black pants, sitting next to the trash can at the bottom of the building. Whether it is to go to work in the morning, take a take-out at noon, or come back from work at night, she will always be in this state.

I was speculating that she had suffered from a painful illness, or did she give her intellectual defects, is she happy? Is she confused?

I regret that I haven’t talked to her now. Instead, sitting here to speculate on a person’s life is really rude. But I think if there is no mental internal friction, there is no need to worry about the future, and getting up, eating, and sleeping becomes the whole life instinct, she is not confused.

Cognition is the beginning of pain, because cognition wakes up thinking, and cranky thinking often leads to internal friction. Not aware, not confused.

You will say that your example is too extreme, is there still?

The generation of our parents is not very confused, that is, people born in the 1960s and 1970s. Because most of their life patterns are – with the flow.

Going to college, the university graduated from the school, the rice bowl, and the middle-aged people in the system. The people who went to the sea halfway, with the pace of reform and opening up, earned the first pot of gold in life; some said Foreign companies that have entered the top 500 have a way out, so if they have graduated, they will all enter foreign companies.

People who have never been to college are either working at home or working in a factory. At that time, there were not so many factories, so basically there was no concept of going to work.

The indicator of their actions is to earn money, live, and support their families. There seems to be nothing to be confused. The older generation is not all this way.

There is no confusion with the big flow, because they don’t need to make choices.

We also have this kind of experience. Those college students who graduated back to their hometowns are always married and have children, because they don’t need to make choices. This is the only choice. Are they confused?

The rest is the “most of us lost”. Why are we?

Because, the problem we are facing now has changed. We are now facing open propositions, not multiple choice questions.

If you condense the life history of the earthFor 24 hours, then about 23:59:40 in the day, only 20 seconds left before the end of the day, human beings were born on earth.

With the advent of the technological revolution, the acceleration of social development has also increased. It may take only three years for the technological revolution that was brought about in the past 30 years. Now this accelerated time is getting faster, and we are living like this. An era of high-speed changes.

So I thought that living with the big stream of the times would be very good, but now the speed of environmental change is greater than the speed of adapting to the environment.

Our mindset still stays in the student era, and thinks that “there is a standard answer to the problem,” and in fact, life itself has no answer.

Professor Xue used to ask students to write only one “standard answer” when they were in Peking University. Instead, they would like to analyze each other from the perspective of different answers. As long as the process of analysis is clear, you don’t have to get an exact answer, you can still score.

This is probably the reason why college students are confused. Graduation means that the proposition is open, and there is no way to follow the steps.

And you don’t know yourself or understand the environment. Finding a job is a matter of matching advantages (advantages and ability to match the advantage), and you are both unknown and naturally difficult to choose.

So go to the Internet to ask a question and want to get a definitive answer, but the answer to this determination can only be that there is no standard answer to life.

There are even many people who have graduated for many years and still have pains and confusions for not finding their own direction of life and career direction.

The root of professional confusion is that there is no goal in life, so you can’t act.

Action: Constantly trying to solve the problem

If you still don’t know what you love, then try to be young and try.

Having said that, the problem now is:

• You don’t know yourself:

I don’t know what I like to do, what to do, what advantages do I have, what can I do with my current qualifications?

• You don’t understand the environment:

Which industries are better developed? What do these industries do? What are the positions of a company, and what is the position of the position? What are the requirements for the position?

• matching advantages:

What kind of job is I suitable for?Bit work?

So, you have to know yourself and know the environment.

The author of Vision Brian Featherstone has divided his career into three phases:

Career time = retirement age – the age at graduation, divided into three, is the length of each stage of career.

For example: (60-22)/3=13 years or so, then every 13 years is a professional stage, each stage has the tasks and goals of this stage.

The first stage (22~34 years old) is to add fuel and start a strong start.

The second stage (35~47 years old) is to focus on the long version and reach the high point.

The third stage (48-60 years old) is tasked with: optimizing the long tail and continuing to exert influence.

The first stage here is often the most confused stage of confusion, because I don’t know how to try it.

American psychologist Rogers said: “When I accept what I was, I can change. If you find yourself, you can change yourself and use yourself.”

Although it sounds like a philosophical question that is unclear, it is achievable to know yourself in career development. Take a look at some of the key elements below to find out what value you have and help you understand yourself:

(1) Your own knowledge and skills:

• Qualification: Education, professional certificate.

• Skills:

Soft skills: logical thinking, structured thinking, data analysis, communication, teamwork, and more.

Hard skills: foreign language, programming, musical instruments, computer tools (PR, PS, AI, etc.).

(2) Your own values, personality and motivation:

What do you like to do? What can maximize the advantages. This can be learned by reference to some professional measurement tools. The following is the most common professional personality test in the urban area. You can choose 1-2 for reference, and there are free resources on the Internet.

• Holland Career Interest Test:

According to different interests, personality can be divided into research (I), art (A), social (S), enterprise (E), traditional (C), and realistic (R) six dimensions. .

• MBTI Professional Personality Test:

The most popular professional personality assessment tool in the world, as a kind of judgment and analysis of personality, is a theoretical model. In the personality characteristics, four key elements are extracted and summarized: motivation, information collection, decision-making methods, and lifestyle. , to analyze and judge, to distinguish people with different personalities

• DISC Personality Quiz:

D: Dominance (dominant)

I:Influence

S:Steadiness

C: Compliance

Of course, there are a lot of tests based on temperament and personality. Don’t ask me how I am so clear, because when I graduated, I was confused and turned to all the tests and books related to career planning that I looked at. Again.

There is to say that you should not be too obsessed with the test results.

Because it is very likely that you will find out that the test results come out, there may be some results. After the test, you still don’t know what to do next, so just as a reference for understanding yourself. (It’s not that your personality is suitable as a writer, you can be right, that’s the truth)

(3) Experience, experience

Overseas work experience; business management/professional experience; internship experience; community or volunteer activities; large-scale events, product launches or well-known projects that include your personal contributions;

Experience in public speaking, writing or acting; teaching, consulting or mentoring experience; enthusiasm for hobbies, leisure activities and work…

So, after you understand yourself, we need to understand the industry and the position.

Industry: It is recommended that in the early stage of the trial, we first anchor the three industries that we are most interested in to understand.

Understanding the industry is roughly divided into these dimensions: consumption upgrades, how the track, volatility, difficulty in entering the market, and whether it is a mixed bag.

Post: The way to understand the position is very simple. The positions in the enterprise can be roughly divided into three categories:

• Technology: Programmers (front, backstage development, operation and maintenance, testing), products – professional technical background requirements.

• Business: Market, operations, sales – the threshold is relatively low and the challenge is relatively large.

• Support posts: finance, human resources (recruitment, administration), legal affairs – stable, more repetitive, partial paper work.

Of course, companies of different natures have different specific divisions and positions, and this is only a rough division. Therefore, we need to select 1-2 positions, and then we can specifically understand the work content of specific posts.

For example, if the position I selected is an operation, then we search for the job on the recruitment website and search for different results: product operation, content operation, new media operation, user/community operation, channel operation, etc.

After having a general understanding of each position (see the content of the work), we need to match the results of the first step (the status quo), the results of the second step (target industry positions), and the target. Ok, start trying.

In the process of achieving this goal, we will encounter another problem, that is, our ability does not match the ability required by the position we want to try.

So, the next step is to find gaps and fill the gaps. Similar methods of finding gaps have been mentioned frequently in many of our previous articles, and are not reiterated here.

Feedback: Don’t be afraid of the result of failure

You may say, I can’t do it, my education is not high, my experience is not enough, and I don’t have any money. Can I do it?

There is an off-road vehicle advertisement saying: “Looking at the whole world, only 1% of the area on the earth is paved.” This sentence says that 99% of the area has no road.

Our world, not a racing track for a competition. A high-end car is not necessarily a winner. On a muddy ground, there are also many opportunities for low-players.

In fact, there is almost nothing to start when everything is ready.

For example, as an Internet company, few companies spend five years developing a product. They feel that they are polished to perfection. The actual situation is often small steps and quick iterations.

First push the product into the market, and according to the feedback from the user, it will be iteratively optimized and repeated.

There is no invincible rule in business, and experience can only accumulate in trial and error.

Life is the same. You want to design a perfect plan, everything is ready, and then step by step according to the plan can go to the peak of life, but the world is unpredictable, there is no such thing as a day.

So you can only try and try and start acting.

Based on the above steps, find the gap between your existing abilities and target positionsTo make up the gap, try one by one, and use one or two years to try out the industry and occupation that you want to engage in in the next 3-5 years. It is a good deal.

This time node is suitable for students who have just graduated, because the later you enter the society, the longer you leave the trial and error, the lower the cost.

When we have been in the community for a few years and want to re-plan, we need to shorten the trial and error cycle. The choice of industry and position in the early stage needs to be relatively detailed.

But we have some social workplace experience that will help us accelerate the process of understanding and learning.

Speaking so much, if you ask me, try it, what should I do? Then you should be thankful, because failure is the best feedback, because you know, what is not for you, you know, the next step should be how to act.

Steve Jobs once said that “the biggest difference between a person who works and a person who dreams is whether you can get started right away.”

Unfortunately most people can’t do this. They are afraid of losing face and fearing failure.

But the path to progress is this: set goals – action (try) – feedback (fail, success) – adjust strategy.

In the feedback of failure, no matter whether you finally find or find the optimal solution, this process of continuous trial and error is the result of your thoughts, your experience, your connections, your ability, you are this person. .

Summary

1. Confusion is a matter of taking up energy. If you think about one thing and you don’t understand it for more than an hour, then you can’t understand it. Don’t go on, get into the mental internal friction.

At this time we have to switch tasks, the most effective way to be verified by countless people is: reading, sports.

2. Some things need to be thought for a lifetime, such as the meaning of life; but some things, such as career planning, can be implemented immediately through action. We need to try as much as possible in the first phase of career development.

Know yourself – understand the industry / position – ability matching – trial and error (action)

3. Trying new things is a process of growing insights. If you have more knowledge, you will naturally know what you want.

4. One thing we need to know is that we have to accept that our career path is non-linear.

Nonlinear means that the curve of career development is not all the way up, or all the way down, or has been developing smoothly in a straight line. It is very likely that it is two steps, one step further, and three more steps. of.

5, everyone needs to learn in action. Because there is no feedback only by “thinking”, only “doing” can get feedback.

6. The negative impact of “fear of failure” is far greater than “the failure itself.””.” Because the former hinders us from acting, the latter gives us directions for action. In the face of every failure, we must believe that this is not the end, not the beginning of the end, but the beginning of the beginning.