Everyone has the meaning and value of his existence.

Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “A strike” (ID: zchxuexi ), the author attacked A Xiu.

I have been personally growing and working in the workplace for three years. I have summarized many of the life experiences in the past three years, including 45 recommendations in three aspects: self-realization, wealth management and accumulation, and interpersonal relationships.

These suggestions are either personal experience and practice, or a direct experience of friends around me. I believe that some of them will definitely help you.

This article recommends collection, I believe it is worth reading twice, please use it slowly.

About self-realization

01. Don’t underestimate the role of the times

An elder once said: A person’s life must of course rely on self-strengthening, but also on the historical process.

Individual efforts are of course the foundation of the destiny of life, but personal efforts are particularly pale in the wave of historical processes.

So focus on the process of the times, research industry changes are very important, and it is dangerous and painful to follow the trend.

02. Don’t underestimate the role of talent

Our traditional culture often emphasizes that people are determined to win, and habitually underestimates the significance of talent in personal achievement.

People often have blind self-confidence, but talent is an insurmountable ceiling in many areas, such as painting, singing, writing, sports, and go, some geniuses lead others too much at birth. These gaps are not compensated by diligence alone.

For example, in the field of Go, there is a saying that when you were 16 years old, you have not yet become a professional stage, which means that there is basically no great potential, and there is basically no possibility of generating a professional player.

Of course, this is not to deny the importance of diligence, but to say that you have to find the field that you are good at, and don’t die in an area where you can’t see hope in repeated attempts.

03. If you don’t take a chance, it means that this opportunity is not yours.

Don’t spend too much time cherishing the lost opportunities, but should practice hard and sum up experience to prepare for the next opportunity.

04. The bonus of life brought by excellent academics is unimaginable to most people.

The more the times develop, the more intense the competition in all aspects, and the higher the social requirements for job seekers may be, not the lower. Because the future economy demands more and more labor. Moreover, there will be more and more people in higher education, and the threshold will be higher and higher in the case of oversupply.

Not to mention the differences in vision, connections, and knowledge that good schools bring.

So if you still have the opportunity to take a test, just grab it. If you are already working, you can consider your in-service qualifications. But study it carefully and don’t be deceived.

05. What kind of achievements a person can achieve, the influencing factors are extremely diverse.

How much money a person can earn, how much achievement is achieved, the most important thing is to look at the results of the work, but still subject to very diverse factors, such as contacts, leadership appreciation, interpersonal relationships, workplace struggles, etc., and even many factors Will play the protagonist at different stages.

So don’t think that you can achieve a transition by doing just one thing. You may have to do 100 things, and your status will change radically.

06. Don’t set limits for yourself, but try it carefully.

You can lose to talent, you can lose to your competitors, or even you can lose to the times, but don’t lose to “I don’t think I can’t.”

But don’t follow any thoughts, but after careful study and judgment, give full play to the opportunity to grasp the scores of five or six points. For repeated attempts, you can’t give up the result, and give up decisively because you are likely to be out of talent. this.

07. People who study for life will go farther than those who know everything now, but only if your study is to improve your work and personality, and improve your situation. , vision, not what books are read, what knowledge is learned.

08. Keep thinking independently and don’t trust others’ opinions.

In the era of the big information explosion, many people out of variousThe purpose of disseminating all kinds of information, if you can not maintain the ability to think independently, it is easy to be led to a detour.

For example, a few days ago I saw a peer author saying that the cows around him are particularly fond of helping others, countless people have received their favors, and they are sending all-round help to the Western-style Buddha. Popularity.

A bunch of people in the comment area said that they were taught, but this is obviously not in line with common sense. Although it is not excluded that someone likes to help others, if one is responsive and likes to provide full service to others, it can only explain his Work may not be saturated.

The cattle are often not fraternal, and they don’t even sprinkle coins. They know that not everyone is worth helping.

This author must have hidden premise and not see it. For example, the cattle will only help the younger people who think they have potential, or in some areas by helping others find their own opportunities.

If you want to follow someone else’s point of view, you must carefully think, disprove, and think about whether you want to use it before you make a decision. Don’t follow it blindly.

09. Don’t be a sprayer and keep an open mind about things you don’t understand.

This article is next to the previous one. Many people love to go to extremes, either to follow others’ opinions without thinking, or to resist all incomprehensible new ideas.

In fact, we don’t know a lot about things. If one thing doesn’t fit our existing knowledge, then you should keep an open mind based on independent thinking, or think about other things. The possibility of being established, but not to kill with a stick, the total rejection means the basis of no understanding.

10. Don’t let others succeed and bring anxiety to yourself.

A lot of people who see millions of young people with an annual salary of 50,000 and an assistant with a monthly salary of 50,000 will feel very anxious and think that this will seem to be nothing.

In fact, you don’t have to, because there are real and false ones, and the success of others actually doesn’t have much to do with you. Accepting the true self and doing your own things well, you are already very good.

You may struggle for a lifetime, and the annual salary is no more than a young man in his twenties. But this does not mean that you are not good enough. There may be many factors that affect income, and money cannot evaluate your life.

And this area is too hydrated. I have even seen an assistant who has just graduated from a teacher for a year to tell others how to achieve an annual salary of one million. Many people have a million-year experience, and you have no envy for others.

In fact, the annual salary of 50w is already the level of the vice president of many medium-sized companies. The absolute value of the annual salary is not large, and there is no need to feel anxious.

And, Anxiety in this situation is a pity that neither allows you to be happy with what you already have, it only allows you to get pain from what others have.

11. Finding like-minded friends, mutual infection, support, can make you better.

12. If you are happy and rewarding, you will continue to do it;If you are not happy, you will not change, you will change places, there is no need to suffer a lot of hardships. After all, working in an adult’s life, it takes almost a third of the time. If you are not happy at work, life is not happy.

13. Don’t take your face too seriously, work now, face backwards.

14. Don’t think about reading when you talk about learning, and coffering learning is quicker.

While reading is valuable, it is actually not very efficient, and many books are not grounded by various reasons.

Besides reading, you should also find a mentor in your work and life. Through cofferling learning, observing his words and deeds, thinking patterns and being human, you will progress faster.

If there is an opportunity to communicate with people in different industries or in the same industry, many sparks of thinking are so bumped.

15. Time management is energy management, where you spend your energy and what you look like.

Time management is a kind of energy management. When you use your energy, it will naturally change your time usage strategy.

So don’t pay too much attention to entertainment gossip, short parents, office politics, these insignificant but consuming things. Find the thing you have to do right now and go all out to do it well.

16. The goal itself is empty, reasonable goals, plans that are broken down into place, and strong execution are reliable.

If you only say “I have to lose 20 pounds in three months,” I will say it when you saya joke.

But if you disassemble the target to the week, calculate the calories you need to reduce your daily intake, and then practice it, I will be very respectful to you.

17. It is normal to not recruit people, and people with good work performance are judged by others. Even if they are intentionally framed, it is normal. The former can ignore it, the latter finds opportunity KO.

18. Not every appointment, meeting has value, learn to say no.

I saw dozens or even hundreds of course partners last year. 99% have no commercial significance. Those who want to get in touch with each other will still have no feelings.

There are real relationships, deep connections, and a lot of cooperation. Those who have good platforms, hard products, and good character.

I learned to reject all kinds of worthless appointments, and after the meeting, I saved more time.

19. Don’t push in, don’t retire.

Before entering a new field and accepting a new project, you should carefully research, think, judge, and ask, and don’t enter easily.

After entering, learn to persist, be patient, learn, solve problems with wisdom and wisdom, and don’t think about giving up.

20. Abandonment is often not because it is too difficult to insist, but because giving up is too simple.

About wealth

01. Don’t pursue exquisiteness when you have no money, exquisite is to exchange money.

Rather than having no money to demand a low level of exquisiteness, it is better to save the money and strive to enjoy a high level of exquisite one day.

02. At a certain age, you will find that a large percentage of security, happiness, and family harmony come from your deposit balance.

You must save at least 30% of your income. No matter what you want to buy or where you want to go, don’t move. If you can do it, one day you will come to thank me.

03. The most ridiculous thing is to run a small amount of money with the mentality and energy to go all out. The most terrible thing is to use gambling, betting and mentality.Force, operating funds that are related to life.

Many people are very gambling, always thinking about the stock market, but in fact even the great gods such as Buffett and Soros, the average yield for so many years is only 20%. What’s more, most people who buy stocks only lose money.

If your investment amount does not reach your annual salary or 5~10 times of your annual family living expenses, I suggest you not to over-emphasize this matter, because a small amount of money is unlikely to bring huge returns. .

It’s better to put pressure on investment and financial management, so that the rate of return will be much higher. But many people are obsessed with it.

04. Some inconspicuous consumption will be terrible.

I have a business friend who has raised 100w to do the beauty category. In order to enhance the cohesiveness of employees, the five girls in the office are invited to drink afternoon tea every day.

This consumption does not seem to be much, but it is also very amazing. It is assumed that every afternoon, 250 teas will be spent 5 working days in 200 working days, which accounts for 5% of the financing… …

So although it’s important to say that making money is open source, throttling is also important.

05. If you think that money or making money is not important now, it is because you lack responsibility on your shoulders.

I have a classmate who works in my hometown. The salary of the husband and wife is only more than 6,000. I have found out that I have triplets.

After the joy is tangled, originally they are Moonlight, but since they found out that there are children, they began to work hard to save money, and fear that the triplets are boys, that is the beginning of a painful life.

06. Fortune’s 4321 program.

40% for daily expenses, 30% for hard savings, 20% for multiple investments, and 10% for insurance or emergency.

07. Quit credit card, ant flower bud, borrow 呗, Jingdong white strip, micro-credit…

Be sure not to develop the habit of borrowing money (except buying a house) because the interest is too high. Take the micro-loan example, the daily interest rate is 0.045%, and the 1w block is still $4.50 per day. It seems that it doesn’t seem much, but after multiplying by 365, the annual interest rate is as high as 16.425%.

Know the average return rate of Buffett stocks20%, you know how high the interest rate is.

08. Save a reserve of 6 months of living.

If you are laid off, or if you are unable to work because you are sick, and your income will drop sharply, you must save enough 6 months of living allowance to allow you to survive this difficult time.

Don’t think that this risk is far away from you, in fact close to each of us.

09. Spend 1 hour a day, in the event that you can directly generate economic income.

If you don’t have it for a while, this one hour is used to think about how to find it and prepare for study and practice.

10. Create a budget table, then keep track of it and track where every penny goes.You will be shocked that you have spent so much in the humble place. money.

11. Save money as much as possible, first pay off the debt;Save as much as possible, that is your ballast stone.

12. You can buy things that you can’t buy, don’t buy them.

13. If it’s a common thing, buy expensive ones;If it’s something you don’t use, don’t buy it.

14. In investing in this matter, recognizing your stupidity, your world will suddenly become more and more open.

Those who stare at the K line all day, analyze the market and short-term operations, and think that they know very well, often have a rate of return that is far less than the “stupid” fixed-point index fund.

It’s like Panjiayuan selling fake antiques. It’s not a holeSpecially understandable, but it’s not particularly difficult to understand. Those who know what they know and know everything. , the best pit.

15. Ordinary people invest as conservative as possible.

I have a friend who tried to recommend a stock to me. He said that after analysis, there is a 50% chance of making money.

When I said the risk is too