The biggest difference between people is the difference in cognition, or the difference in the way they think.

You may not realize that what really affects your personal development is the environment you are in.

Of course, you will say that your personal development should be your own upward mentality. It should be your own character. This is a very subjective initiative.

Yes, but how did your character come about? It is because of the environment you are in.

Most people are the result of being shaped by people who are often in close contact with them.

Your leaders, teachers, parents, partners, friends, who in most cases are the main influencing factors that make you and your future.

Your self-confidence is not the result of your self-confidence, but the result of the above-mentioned people’s way of doing it to you. In the same way, you who are not confident enough are not born, but some of them suppress your results.

If you find yourself becoming better than the original, in addition to your own efforts, more likely because you have met someone who makes you better.

So, only when we understand that the environment has such a huge impact on our personal development can we influence our future development by deliberately changing the environment.

Everyone has four important environments. These four environments are the root cause of why everyone develops differently. Environmental impact cognition, cognition determines action, and action ultimately determines fate.

  • The first environment: the birth environment, it can also be said to be a native family, you have no choice in this environment

  • Second environment: Work environment, this environment you have to pick and change constantly

  • The third environment: companion, you have a choice in this environment

  • The fourth environment: friends, you still have to pick this environment

We don’t have to count, we also know that these four environments are almost all the environments in your life.

The first environment: the birth environment, it can also be said to be a native family, you have no choice in this environment

It should be said that every life is inequitable, material conditions, parents’ knowledge level, and educational resources, all of which vary from person to person. And you know that we can’t choose what kind of family we were born in.

So in the first step of life’s progress, at the beginning, the gap between people has been opened, and we have not changed the awareness of the environment, in fact, there is no way to change, we can not change parents, nor can we Choose your own teacher and school.

But fortunately, this is only the first leg.

Life must not only work hard, but also live long.

The Internet age is a very good eraFortunately, through the Internet, you have the opportunity to learn new knowledge, gain new insights, and get new perspectives on issues.

This is crucial. If the information is occluded, it means that your mind will be fixed in a small circle and will not change. You imagine that 50 years ago, was it possible for you to know the point of view of a great god in another city?

Second environment: working environment, this environment you have to pick and change constantly

When we start working, it means we are adults, and we are beginning to have the ability to choose our own work environment. Especially in the years before work, this is almost the most important choice of life, but most people are “folded” here.

Why do you say this because we have never studied personal thinking and personal career development in school, and most of us have scores before the college entrance examination, and we are fully stocked after the college entrance examination.

So most people are in a state of drifting when they enter the workplace. If you are lucky, you can continue to learn new knowledge and gain new knowledge if you enter the fast-growing industries and positions. This is a good situation.

If you are not lucky, you will enter the industry where the ceiling is very low, and the position is a screw job. Everyday work is similar. The colleagues around you are talking about short parents, which means you can’t learn new. knowledge.

Unconsciously, when you are twenty-seven or eight years old, you may have begun to consider getting married and having a mortgage or having to get married and have a mortgage. It’s not so easy to change now.

(PS: Your future partners, friends and your work experience are also directly or indirectly related.)

I started my business in 2015. In fact, it’s more about luck. It’s because I’ve made a mistake in advertising on the graduation day, I have the opportunity to get in touch with the plan, I have the opportunity to get in touch with the Internet, and I finally have the opportunity to start a business, but Not everyone is lucky, and the personal development of each of us should not rely on luck.

In 2015, entrepreneurship was done by Internet training. The content is to help everyone switch to the Internet. I always think that the advice on career development has social value, so I have already opened it to everyone for free. Don’t get me wrong, I am advertising here, everyone just listen to free content. Searching for “warm stone net” will do, and the entire curriculum on career development is free.

Return, the environment of your industry and company basically determines your future development, friends you can meet new, your partner may have a relationship with this environment, and whether you can make rapid progress. Look at the working environment. Now you know that if you want to make a change, you have to change the environment you are in.

I want to emphasize here, saying that changing the environment does not mean telling you to hurry to change your job. In fact, people’s progress is gradual, and change is not a shock.Weeping ghosts.

Want to go to a new environment to do new work, for example, if you want to do new media operations, then you better give your new job a result of your attempt and prove your ability, then you can start reading some books now. Do your own public number and be aware of some questions.

Start from a small place. When experience accumulates to the level of entry, then start your change and there will be no big risks and more confidence.

The third environment: companion, this environment has a choice

The partner is really important.

In my case, starting a business in 2015, I am busy like a dog. If my other half will be tempered with me every day and let both of us live in a kind of “resentment”, how can we do a good job?

As another example, our underlying values ​​are different. I think we should respect our parents well, but the other half doesn’t think so. It can’t be done that day.

After the second half of your family, you will spend most of your time with your partner. Whether your partner is united with your mind and whether you can grow together is important to your continued progress.

It’s important to grow together.

Assume that when you are together, your cognitive ability is 10 points. Your thoughts are the same, so you are very happy;

As the age grows and the knowledge grows, if one’s cognitive ability advances steadily from 10 points to 40 points, but the other half remains at 10 points, then there must be no “common language” between you. And the views on things will vary widely. In the process of running your own small family together, there will be many contradictions.

Of course, even if you don’t grow together, you can maintain a happy state by maintaining the same level of awareness.

The fourth environment: friends, you still have to pick this environment

The “Dumba Numbers” theory shows that brain cognitive ability limits the size of individual social networks of special species. The cognitive ability provided by the human brain can only maintain a stable interpersonal relationship with about 150 people. The number of friends people have a personal relationship with.

Everyone thinks about it, if you contact a friend every day, then a circle of 150 people will contact you for 5 months! So in fact, the number of contacts of more close friends will be much smaller than 150 people. And as your cognitive ability increases and resources accumulate, you will meet new friends. At this time, some friends will be “removed” or reduced.

Choose what kind of friends, just like choosing a work environment and a partner, choosing your own cognitive environment.

The simplest example, if you think about it, the A-type circle of friends will forward information about eating, drinking, and playing; the B-type circle of friends will forward information that has a significant impact on your cognitive upgrade. Does the circle of friends have a greater impact on you?

The B-friend circle here is actually an important entry point for you to do high-quality information sorting and collection. What kind of circle of friends do you choose, and what kind of cognitive information flow you choose.

The above we mentioned four important environments that affect you. These four types of environments have built your complete life and determined the different development curves of each person.

The biggest difference between people is the difference in cognition, or the difference in way of thinking.

Cognition is an anchor for a person to look at a problem or think. If the anchor position is eternal, then the world in this person’s eyes will always stay in the original world, only consciously change the environment in which they live. Change the anchor of self-awareness and see new changes.

Experience is the main component of a person’s anchor. In this era of rapid change, adherence to empiricism can never be synchronized with changes in the times.

I always believe that everyone should control their own lives and live a quality life.