A low-quality marriage is far less than a high-quality single.
Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “Attacking Axiu” (ID :zchxuexi).
Recently, an Alibaba P8 programmer (P8 is Ali’s rank) has been smashed on Weibo, causing group ridicule.
I looked at the user comments carefully, oh, yeah, it’s so wonderful, there’s everything.
But looking back and carefully, I found that although everyone said everything, the full screen is full of four characters: The door is right.
Although the programmer’s income and career are excellent, many people are still jealous of him and say “you are not worthy”.
Although you have a good income, you are a Phoenix man; although you have a car and a house, you are short; you are 86 years old, why do you want to find 90…
In a word, “You are a cockroach, you want to taste the swan meat with a little money?”
A lot of times even give me the illusion that a blind date is like a job search. Everyone is answering three questions, “What do you have?”, “What do you want” and “What do you want?”
Of course, I don’t really love to marry most of them, but at least in the eyes of blind people, it’s a process of matching conditions. As long as you have a short board, you will be completely negated unless you have a long board. The brilliance can grow to cover all the short boards.
But the purpose of marriage should not be to make two people happy, why do you need such a utilitarian calculation?
After actually seeing a lot of marriage cases, I found that modern people’s utilitarianism and calculations for marriage may be more serious than most people think.
–01–Ali programmers with an annual salary of over 200W,Why is the marriage ridiculed?
The cause of the incident is this. There is an Ali programmer who claims to have a 170 W annual income (estimated pre-tax income exceeds 200 W), and a marriage v is issued through a large V. It triggered a public opinion debate.
In order to show you the ins and outs of the matter, I posted the little brother’s marriage sticker in the original text (for readability, I edit it slightly, but it does not affect the original intention):
I am a male, born in 1986, from Anhui ProvinceUndergraduate Nanjing 211+ Master Beijing 985, Beijing Hukou, has transferred a number of Internet companies, currently in Ali, P8, the total amount of stocks in the year is about 170w, there is room for further growth in the future.
I have a room in Beiyuan (Axiu Note: outside Beijing Wuhuan), 120 square meters three-bedroom, 200w loan, just mentioned Tesla model3 travel, height 170cm, weight 65kg.
My parents are farming, now Nanjing is about to retire, and my sister is married in Hefei. My sister and brother-in-law are counted in the system. It is not easy for parents to cultivate our sisters. I am barely a phoenix. Male.
I was a little inferior in my heart a few years ago. I missed a lot of good girls. I felt that I was not worthy of others. Now I am more than enough. Now I have some achievements in my career, especially among my peers. My parents always recite me. Personal problems, so come and try.
I want to find such a girl: the best southern city family, the best in Jiangsu and Zhejiang, the Anhui is also OK, the character is gentle and virtuous, the knowledge of the book understands the human world, the appearance is human, the body is online, the height is not less than 162cm, will dress At least 211 undergraduate, monthly income is not less than 1w, born 90 years later, the family has no burden, it is best to be an only child.
In that case, I am willing to take out 200w of cash and purchase a small-scale property together with the woman. In addition, my work is very busy, often working overtime, and the woman needs more care for the family. I can pay for the aunt, but It is certain that the woman’s investment will be even greater.
Especially after having a child, if I buy a property, I am willing to live with the woman’s parents. My parents will support my sister in Hefei in the future. In the end, I like children very much. I hope that there will be 2 children in the future. Of course, this is a good thing, I can’t ask for it, I just hope that the woman does not reject the birth of two. The above is the real demand of my spouse. Do you see any drama?
The above is the full text of the marriage proposal.
The voice on the Internet is very bipolar, there are many people who support him, and more people laugh at him. I have studied it carefully. The people who laugh at him mainly have such views:
1.This person has a sense of superiority, has been emphasizing Ali P8, a successful career, a house and a car, a Beijing hukou, in fact, it is just a second-class man, but also looking for a First class female.
2.Materialized women, thinking that money means everything, requiring girls to enter more than 10,000 per month; age discrimination, after 80 is only 90, geographical discrimination, not northern girls, only Jiangsu and Zhejiang Girl; straight male cancer, let the girl take care of the family, just want to marry a free babysitter; do not let their parents see the child, let the female parents help him see the child…
3.Laughtering his “hard”: Height 170, even if you have a baby, it’s hard to find when you grow up.Women; rural Phoenix men, no matter how hard they can’t become old Beijing…
One person has to leave a message with the most heart: A girl with this condition can’t look at him like this.
I rub, I just want to ask what the conditions are. The condition of this brother is still very good. His request is really not high.
For example, if you enter 1W per month, it will be an average salary in Beijing, and it is required to be similar to no requirement;
Requires an only child, and most of them are only one-child after 90;
The height and family background are not something that he can change. He has worked very hard on his own intelligence to achieve a counter-attack on wealth;
Not to mention the soft standards of girl personality and sweetness, you can see similar words in almost every marriage notice, just like almost every resume will write strong resistance and positive optimism. Is there a difference?
If you have the opportunity to go to the corner, you will know that the conditions of this brother are definitely low, not high.
I used to go to Beijing Zhongshan Park to see the protagonist’s grand occasion because of the need to write a manuscript. Those aunts who replaced the children to marry will look at you very carefully and cruelly, hukou, age, height, education, Car, house, system inside and outside, genus, constellation, job rank, parental work and economic situation…
These are hard indicators, but if you have one, the blind date will be “sorry” and you will not bother to look at it. They are too lazy to spend a little effort to understand. You…
This is why, many people who are close relatives will support this programmer, because blind date, marriage, is not to say what you have and what you want, not to mention his many requirements. They are also symbolic, not to mention that they are fake.
–02– Modern people’s savvy calculations about marriage:Do you want to help the poor, or win-win, thigh?
Do you think this is cruel? The real cruelty is far more than that.
Many age-appropriate netizens said, We hate marriage because the person who provoked the marriage pointed out the urgency of the problem, but did not give a solution to the problem.
Jig marriageThe solution that people can give is nothing more than a blind date, but blind date is much more cruel than free love. Because the blind parties have no emotional foundation at all, unless they fall in love at first sight, the two can only talk about “conditions” first.
In the highly competitive blind date market, everyone can be clearly priced, even before the online explosion of a picture of the blind line.
Don’t say whether this figure is reasonable, but at least from this contempt chain, the Ali programmer is a good match. He wants to find a standard spouse (no room is required), you can’t at least say that he is too much.
Before everyone has a counterattack method by default, that is, the marriage counterattack, you can find a son/daughter of a rich family, as long as you are good enough or beautiful, then you have a chance.
But it’s getting harder and harder to rely on marriage, because everyone in the blind date market is very smart, they all bring their own small abacus, they are thinking very realistically: I am with this person. Is the future poverty alleviation, or a win-win situation, or a thigh?
I have seen two emotional big V. When arguing that girls are looking for the other half, it depends on the future potential, or depends on the current strength.
A says: “For most girls, the only feasible and reliable way is to look down.“
The explanation he gave was:
“In this patriarchal society, the older you are, the more valuable a man is than the woman. When the girl is still young, go find a potential stock that is not as good as yours, so that your gap will gradually narrow. You have to be patient.
You are looking for a boy who is stronger than you in all aspects. You are likely to have a bigger gap in the future. You are not stronger than him when you are young. When his career develops, your gap is even greater. Marriage is less stable.
B Retorted: Oh, really, now girls don’t understand anything?
Marriage is for a win-win situation, not for poverty alleviation?
A boy who has not developed well in his youth may not succeed after he is old.
An angel round has 99% chances of failing. How can you ensure that potential stocks will succeed?
With this vision, why not invest in yourself?
Look, everyone is counting “I am with you.”