As your temper becomes better, you are already on the road to becoming a better entrepreneur.
Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “I still speak without raising my hand >” (ID: JustBB2), author Zhou Hang.
One of the topics that entrepreneurial friends often talk about together is “the CEO’s own emotions.” From time to time, I will hear such a voice, saying that I regret it today, I am angry with my employees, or I am worried at the meeting directly. Even in the communication with the outsiders and the media, emotional out of control is even worse and risky. In fact, after the event, CEOs often regret it. They also think that losing their emotions and losing their temper is not a good thing. It is just that these self-blame are “after the event,” and they will lose their temper next time.
Your catharsis does not make your emotions better, even worse because of the self-blame afterwards. Every vent will actually destroy your relationship with others, create barriers and distances from people, and even bury the seeds of resentment. More importantly, the criticism and accusation you think will give employees a better result under pressure, but this negative pressure will not only make employees more creative, but the opposite is exactly the opposite. Because of your criticism and negative evaluation, employees feel negative emotions, self-confidence will be frustrated, and their creativity will be affected by your accusations.
Over time, in such an environment, a person with more ability will become less confident, afraid to create, dare not express, afraid to make mistakes, and finally give up the right to think and creative things. What you may hear is: “The boss is going to make a decision. What do you say? We are definitely not as good as you think.”
To this end, as a CEO, you will feel more and more annoyed: Why are these people not thinking, only I think alone? Why are they so indifferent, all responsibility is mine? You become more and more lonely, and you have to face bad results on your own. You blame the team for not giving strength, but it is actually your own bad temper that kills their initiative and creativity.
Don’t the CEO be born with a bad temper?
We can try to explore the reasons. Is it true that CEOs are born with a bad temper? It doesn’t seem that many people are not so bad when they are studying or working.
Generally speaking, once he becomes a CEO and becomes a CEO, his temper will change badly. It seems that because of the role of the CEO, one’s temper is getting worse. Indeed, a CEO assumes the company’s greatest responsibility and maximum pressure, and he needs to be responsible for the company’s future and destiny.Opinion, but in fact these ideas are not necessarily right, and may even be wrong most of the time. A person’s success may be due to his own flash of light, his own creativity, or luck. But it does not mean that all ideas are correct, and even only a few times is right. If you realize this, you will be more humble about your ability and success. You know that the company’s development must not rely solely on your own wisdom, but on trying to get colleagues to work with you to become the source of the company’s creativity. engine.
And this change begins with “less talk, really listen, ask.”
First of all, reduce your chatter and say that the opportunity to say “speak” is more to your colleagues.
The Big Shorts|Start from less, listen more
The next thing to practice is “listening”. This kind of listening is not because you are holding it, watching the other person to make a sound, but in fact your brain is running fast, think about it next time. what. Really let go of your thinking brain, use your heart to really listen to each other’s voice, hear the other person’s wisdom, from expression, persuasion, debate to discussion into a state of mutual inspiration and common discovery.
As a CEO, you can tell more inspiring questions than you can say, more than your wisdom.
In fact, we will find that a person’s temper tends to get better in the process of a small CEO from a small CEO to a big company CEO. Those well-known entrepreneurs, well-known and well-known star entrepreneurs, often do not express their feelings of being more kind, and then their temper becomes better. They have more trust and love for others. The level of acceptance is also higher. So, I believe that when your temper becomes better and better, you are already on the way to becoming a better entrepreneur.
When I used this point of view to communicate with my friends, they gave me a famous example to refute me. He said, you look at Steve Jobs, the temper is notoriously bad, even to the point of arrogance, but his products and companies are great. I said, I don’t really know if Steve Jobs really has a bad temper, but I don’t want to reverse the causal relationship. I can’t think that Steve Job’s temper is bad, and at the same time it’s the best CEO in the world. Picky is a state that a CEO should have. He even specializes in making his temper very bad. He thinks it is a straightforward label.
I think this is a dangerous cognition, Steve Jobs alsoI paid a painful price for this kind of bad temper, and I was driven out of the company I founded. So I don’t know if Jobs is getting better when he returns to his apple for the second time. However, from the memories of other colleagues, I have reason to believe that Steve Jobs has grown from being an ordinary entrepreneur to being the best CEO in the world. His heart and temper are getting better.
As far as I am concerned, I have to admit that I have been a super bad-tempered entrepreneur for decades. This bad temper is at least well-known inside the company, even everyone. Are afraid. It’s very embarrassing to think about it now. Now I am not a CEO for two or three years. Frankly speaking, because I don’t do it, there is no such big responsibility and pressure, and my temper is much better. I can now clearly understand that the temper is getting better. It is not necessarily that I am a better person. I may only be a role change. I am no longer in the role of the CEO. So I still understand these CEOs very much, you are really not easy, because the role of the CEO is worse, and to some extent a sacrifice, which is the price of life for a CEO. .
Finally, I hope that all of our CEOs are getting better and better, and your temper is getting better and better. It is the process of growing up to be a better CEO, and this is not a person. The cultivation of life growth.