It is self-explanatory and reasonable to speak with the bar. It is hard to be yourself.
Because the general cognition of this group is very low, the result of self-centered things is extremely selfish. They only consider their own feelings and devalue others as a way to elevate their sense of superiority.
After people are not afraid of being embarrassed in the public, they are even less afraid to reveal their ignorance in front of everyone.
In the end, it’s a lifting bar, is still outspoken
In a junior elementary school WeChat group, a mother talks about what her child is not willing to learn. It is the kind of self-deprecating black box. At that time, the atmosphere of chatting in the group was very happy, but unexpectedly, a parent who came to the bar said that learning was not good because the gene was not good.
Then she began to boast that she was a graduate of the Ivy League school. Her husband was graduated from Tsinghua University. Parents with good genes can educate outstanding children. Then he began to show off the wealth of food, clothes and quilts that he bought for his children.
There was a disruption of the chat atmosphere within the group, and no one continued to speak.
It must be said that some people do not entertain for a reason.
After the movement in the group, the parents of the bar will definitely come out to point out the country and judge from the perspective of God: “You can’t do this, what should you do, I am right!” >
As long as someone refutes her, or questions that she is lifting the bar, the bar will always refute that she is straight and speaks bluntly.
I can’t help but think of the online name: “You talk so straight, then I beat people so pain, or try to hit you.”
Yale University Professor Robin Stern at the “Gas Light Effect: Covering Your Life”, a book on the concept of gas light effects:
“The goal of the other party is to convince you that you have made a mistake, saying that you misunderstood, creating doubts for you and making you vulnerable. This is a way to make your consciousness unstable.”
This is not the real bar? Their common quotations are full of superiority and control:
“How can you do this? Too bad!”
“Is the color of these shoes very good? I find it hard to see.”
“Do you have any meaning on this topic?”
“How do you eat this kind of thing, this is not good.”
“You are so surprised, it really is someone who has never seen the world.”
The above various lines are actually intended to impose their own thoughts on others.
There is a saying in the “Grand Master”:
“People live in the world, some live as faces, some live as linings, and only linings can win real faces.”
How to use WeChat group, reflects a person’s level
In the movie “The Advent”, a concept was put forward, that is, the language environment will determine the way of thinking, which I agree with.
The common learning mode of studying abroad is to discuss and lighten the course.
In each class, the teacher will share, so that the students can brainstorm and discuss each other.
Everyone exchanges ideas and listens to different opinions, so that they can lay the foundation for the direction of knowledge they have learned. Learn and use, and transform other people’s theoretical knowledge into content that they have mastered through discussion and practice.
And returning to the WeChat group we are in now is actually the same principle.
If you get together for various reasons, you don’t have to fight right or wrong, and you don’t want to reveal who is so powerful. It is to gain valuable growth in the process of interaction and interaction.
In the Internet age, when you are still on the WeChat group, others are using the WeChat group to connect with people and consolidate the circle.
When you are still criticizing others in the WeChat group, others are doing business with WeChat group, and earning money to win the bonus.
Like the words of the movie “Sudden Hearts”: “Someone live in high-rise buildings, some people are in deep ditch, some people are bright, some people are rusted.”
So what role does the WeChat group have? It depends on how you use it. Many times it is not that the WeChat group is useless, but you are useless.
A person’s words, heralds the way she walks
In fact, for the development of each of us, we still need someone to tell some truth to ourselves, even if it is difficult to listen to, as long as it is loyal to the ears, it can be accepted.
But this scenario only applies to friends who have a stronger relationship with each other.
In today’s society, not everyone can accept advice, and not everyone is your friend. What’s more, when you can’t master communication skills, every sentence can be a trigger for offending others.
Zhou Guoping once said: “If you focus all your attention on one thing, no matter how small it is, it will be magnified as if it were a big thing.”
When you stare at something, the more you are entangled, then this thing will itself counteract you.
After gazing at the abyss, the abyss will return to gaze.
So before you say every sentence, you should consider what your starting point is. If you really want to make a suggestion, then pay attention to the occasion, pay attention to the communication method, and take into account the other party’s feelings.
It’s easy to talk, and the upper lip touches the lower lip.
Typing is also easy, and you can use your finger to tap the keyboard.
But behind the easy ones, they are all marked with expensive price codes. What kind of words have you said, the cumulative will determine what path you can take. Running the train with a mouth, lifting the bar and venting angerThe people are destined to become narrower and narrower.
And the attitude towards my face is: Bye bye.
*This article was originally created by LinkedIn, author Jin Liang, teacher name Jin, personal WeChat (id: a1219523276).