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Recently, a Weibo V with 460w fans sent a Weibo in the middle of the night, causing 400w people to pay attention and 2w to share.

The content of Weibo is roughly like this. The relatives of this big V were hospitalized. She went to the hospital to accompany her and saw many stories. I suddenly had a different understanding of life.

One thing made her quite touched:

A middle-aged man takes his father to see a doctor, to do a heart stent, the heart stent has domestic and imported points, and the domestic one is cheaper. This man said that he wants to make it domestically.

The doctor said: “Your father is older, and he does not put an import bracket.” In fact, the doctor is very kind, has no other meaning, just to give some advice for the patient’s health.

The man’s face was red all at once. Later, he saw the man at the entrance of the hospital. He cried on the floor and called to borrow money – borrowing money from the domestic support.

This story makes many people feel sour.

As many consultants said, we are working hard in the workplace, and it’s not too much to suffer. But I’m afraid I’m so busy, I can’t afford to pay for my family’s hospitalization expenses. And my parents are old and unacceptable…

Tips: All the consultation cases appearing in the article are subject to the consent of the parties beforehand, and the literary processing and processing of the privacy information; one is because the consultants protect the privacy of the parties, and the second is because of everyone’s The conditions are not the same, and there is no universality. Therefore, the article can only make a general narrative and analysis of the problem. It is inconvenient for the parties to disclose the situation later. Thank you for your understanding and cooperation.

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I don’t know fromWhen to start, “supporting parents” has become a faint pain in many people’s minds.

There was a hot question about knowing that the only child who is now is raised by two parents. After that, the parents are old, how can one raise two?

The reality is often more cruel than the story.

The only child who grew up gradually, the burden on the body gradually increased, and the parents gradually became old and weak. In this context, the time left for us to work hard in the workplace is really not much.

The visitor Juanzi (pseudonym) felt inexplicable panic and anxiety.

Juanzi is a post-80s. Like many people of the same age, the university major does not like it. After graduation, she does not want to engage in professional-related work. She applied for a company to work as a sales assistant. Down, because I felt that the job was boring and there was no room for improvement, I had the idea of ​​resigning.

At that time, Juanzi met her husband and quickly fell into love. Then, like many women, Juanzi completed the marriage.

When Juanzi was pregnant, because she was tired of the sales assistant’s work, and the family also advised her not to work so hard, it is better to rehabilitate at home, etc., Juanzi resigned from work, this stay is four years. The time until the child went to kindergarten, and Juanzi’s husband’s company in the past two years was not good, and Juanzi began to consider returning to work.

The Juanzi at that time took care of the family and found a small company close to home. He was doing clerk and personnel work. To put it bluntly, it was a miscellaneous.

Until one day, the mother’s serious illness made Juanzi realize the importance of career planning.

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It turned out that in order to support her daughter to return to the workplace, Juanzi’s mother came to help Juanzi pick up the child, but who knows that in less than two years, the mother was seriously ill and urgently needed hospitalization, which required a lot of treatment.

Juan Zi and her husband took out the savings of these years, but still failed to make up the surgery, they launched crowdfunding and reluctantly solved the problem of admission to surgery.

But the mother’s illness requires long-term hospitalization, and Juanzi realizes how difficult her economic situation is. She hates that she has not been able to plan her career earlier, and she is not so helpless today. situation.

In Juanzi’s mind, career planning seems to have a magical effect, as if it can make a new look for the workplace without any improvement.It seems that the right way is to find the right way.

But reality is not as simple as she imagined.

When I took Juanzi’s ability to sort out, Juanzi shed tears of remorse. She said that she had never realized it for so many years. She is still in a more basic position in her 30-year-old career. The stage means that, according to Juan’s ability and level, at best, it is equivalent to a newcomer who has just graduated from one to two years.

On the question of whether or not to change careers, due to the lack of corresponding accumulation of Juanzi’s ability, it is impossible to match better positions for the time being, and the experience of other industries is lacking. The feasibility of the transfer is very low, and this road is almost impossible. Or, to be exact, it is less feasible to achieve earth-shaking changes through the transition, and it is not practical.

In my career counseling case, many visitors hope to make a “God Operation” by transforming their careers, and want to get rid of trivial, boring, low-income status and quickly achieve high income. The ideal – does not mean that there is no possibility at all, but for many ordinary people, to make a real “professional transformation” to improve the current predicament, there must be a premise, that is, the parties have a certain Migratable skills even form the core talent.

The ability to transfer skills and even talents to extract and refine is often started from a job that you don’t like or even look down on.

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Generally speaking, in the newcomer stage, we inevitably need to deal with many trivial matters, but these trivial matters can improve our basic ability of affairs management, time management, emotional management, etc., and slowly develop a mature workplace mentality. And methodical habits;

Finally, when you lay a good foundation, the leader will give you a job. At this time, you need to reorganize and arrange your current work, communicate with the leader, arrange the staff, etc. Things are delegated to newcomers, and you are responsible for cultivating and leading new people to complete the work. In the process, your leadership, upward management, workplace communication and interpersonal skills will be further enhanced and strengthened;

Follow-up, as you become proficient in industry knowledge and ability, you can gradually take on the heavy responsibility. If you pay more attention to industry information and development trends, you can provide more constructive leadership at the strategic level. The suggestion that your value will be further expanded and the salary status will be improved.

When you have certain abilities and talents, your career choices will undoubtedly be more, and many good jobs and good positions are uninvited.

So, when someone came over and asked: “If I work hard now, if I find out that this is not the job I want, what should I do?”

I prefer this answer, that is —

“If you earn money by working hard now, in case this is not the job you want, what are you going to do with this money?”

Many people react –

“Then I will take the money and change my job.”

“The same is true.”

In the field of career planning, there is often such a metaphor, that is —

We can think of a career as a tree. When we climb one of the trees, don’t jump to the ground and climb another one, because you don’t know which tree you are suitable for. It would be better to try to climb a few meters. When you reach a certain height, if you find another better tree, jump directly from the tree instead of going back to the ground.

This is almost It can be said that it is the only way to develop the workplace.

In other words, many people’s first job may be based on their own knowledge dimensions (such as academic qualifications and professional background) or hobbies. When you don’t know what work is right, you may wish to work in this job. With serious commitment, you can always accumulate the corresponding abilities in this job (whether professional or general);

When your ability accumulates, and even some of your abilities are gradually internalized into your own core abilities (continuous performance), if you encounter better opportunities, your abilities and talents will Move to the next job, step by step to achieve the desired professional status, and get the height and achievement you want.

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In fact, the pioneers and heads of all industries are turning around, they are the application of skills migration.

For example, Ma Yun’s presentation skills stem from his university teacher experience, Huang’s high-sex business is based on his experience as a guest, and Barbara Minto’s business writing and training skills stem from her business. Manage the experience of consultants, and more.

Only in a seemingly unsatisfactory job to enhance our ability until internalization becomes our talent, our career path can be wider and wider, and it will be difficult for ordinary people to reach. height.

For the Juanzi in the text, because of her lack of career planning awareness in these years, she did not consciously accumulate at work, which led to the embarrassing situation today, but as long as Juanzi can recognize this problem, correct himself The work attitude, the ability to accumulate and improve in the future work, is completely able to get a better tomorrow through their own efforts.

For thousands of people in the workplace, they can no longer hold an indifferent attitude towards their profession, because for us ordinary people, career is the foundation we rely on for survival, and it is our main Source of income and path.

If you want to read this article, let’s take a look. If you want your parents to be dependent, what is the necessary expenses (including illness, daily use, and related insurance)? So what do you need to do at work to get the desired material return?

The most terrible thing about life is that when you are in the workplace for many years, when your parents need you to feed back and even help, you can’t give anything.

The above.

Author: Zhao glass, senior career planners, the state counselors, career writer. The best-selling book in the workplace, “Stop blind efforts: your life needs to be redesigned”, has become one of the few practical practical and personal development practical books in the field of career planning.