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When the second generation of Chinese immigrants in Seattle, Ben released a video, trying to explain to parents why Affirmative Action (Affirmative Policy) , Chinese American parents instantly left their anger. Although Ben is well-founded in the video, many parents still think that this child has been taught to be stupid.
In the view of many ABCs including Ben, people who are middle-class families and above, such as themselves, have sufficient learning opportunities to enjoy generous social resources, while those with weak backgrounds such as blacks in American history. Unfair treatment, so it is very reasonable to tilt resources to vulnerable races. Parents have misunderstood AA because they don’t understand history.
And the parents were saddened by this and issued a sigh of “brained Hua Zuo”.
Parents who oppose AA believe that social inequality is irrelevant to race. The current practice is not to fundamentally improve the education level of the disadvantaged groups, but to artificially reduce the standards and requirements of each industry. This practice would negate the efforts of other ethnic groups, such as Asians, and would not be good for the vulnerable groups themselves and society as a whole.
In the heated debate between the two sides, many parents felt that “too much Huatai is too ignorant of the fireworks, because parents are too well protected and too used to it.” It is precisely because the child did not experience the hardships of the Chinese immigrants before, without any setbacks, they will be easily brainwashed by the so-called political correctness in the school, and they will develop a naive character, and even “invulge and attack the left and the parents.” “.
But the truth is that these 70-year-old parents are also the first generation of middle-class immigrants. They have enjoyed the domestic development dividend, and they have come here through their own efforts, studying hard and suffering the first bucket of gold. I have eaten it. I am afraid that I am a minority immigrant.
In fact, it is said that this is not just an argument about AA, but a rise to concerns about the education of immigrant children, especially the fight for children’s values. Parents have worked hard to immigrate to the United States. The intention is to let the children escape the exam-oriented education and have a better educational environment. As a result, they have learned the “white-left” freedom and democracy in the school, and they just want to swear.
No matter who is right or wrong, ABC children and immigrant parents have a bad ideaThe exposure is different, and the education of children’s values in foreign education is something that parents never imagined. There are also parents bluntly, “Be sure to start repairing the child’s thought before Teen. After high school, the parents did not even dare to say more, said the child ignored his parents, and saw many examples, blood lessons.”
When children are in adolescence, Sanguan begins to build but is still immature, vulnerable to external influences and impatient to listen to their parents’ opinions or even look down on their parents. If parents are still accustomed to arguing with their children, the family relationship will be even more Alienated, more awkward. Many parents said that they want to counter the brainwashing of the school’s left media. Only by relying on their parents to “anti-brain” for a long time at home, and constantly arguing with the children, can the children maintain their judgment and maintain a good family relationship.
Immigration parents still find it difficult to deal with the impact of education on children’s personality and values, let alone the families of foreign students separating the two places. If a similar situation arises, because space and time difference are blocked, there is less opportunity for communication between the two parties, and it is more difficult to solve the problem. In the two years of studying in the lower ages in Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces, this kind of problem may be more prominent. However, the current number is too small to arrive, and no phenomenon has yet formed.
The UK Private School Committee(ISC) report shows that in 2019, 9958 Chinese students were enrolled in private UK schools, 80.4% of them Parents did not accompany their children to live in the UK. I can’t accompany my children, but I want my children to grow up safely and take care of them. So managing a strict boarding school has become a natural choice.
Compared to a decade ago, less than one-third of boarding students were overseas students, and the number of overseas boarders has now exceeded 40%.
In the eyes of parents, boarding schools are simply the best way to study abroad. The boarding school is a British feature and synonymous with quality education. In order to allow children to enter the top public schools such as Eaton and Haro, the British Parents will send them to the boarding preparatory primary school when they are seven or eight years old.
On the one hand, children learn and live in school, the scope of activities is limited, the environment is simple, the academic and safety are guaranteed, parents can exercise a lot of minds; on the other hand, boarding schools manage strict norms and can exercise well. The child’s self-care ability, cultivate an independent and confident character.
As they think, boarding schools can really affect a child’s personality. But unfortunately, the elite boarding school also means abstinence. The shaping of the child’s character is not as positive as they think, and the sooner the child starts to board, the greater the impact.The same performance.
For example, former Prime Minister Cameron, who entered the Heatherdown preparatory primary school at the age of seven, resigned immediately after the 2016 referendum, and decisively handed over the mess of Brexit to his successor Mei. After feeling the threat of ugliness, immediately choose the method that can best protect yourself. This is also the “survival strategy” that boarding schools bring to him.
The same principle applies to international students, especially those of small age, and their situation is even worse. Because of the false independence and maturity brought by boarding schools, they also need to overcome cross-cultural integration issues. In a completely new and rigorous cultural environment, they have to learn to grow up faster than local students in the UK.
In the parent forum, many people say that they will send their children abroad when they are in elementary school or junior high school, so that children can better integrate into the local culture and education environment. But the sooner you study abroad, the better, the difference is different from person to person. Parents hope that the quality education that their children receive will have side effects that cannot be ignored. Foreign education will change the child’s personality and values in a subtle way. If the child has not developed enough discriminating and regulating ability, the impact will be even greater.
Education is the biggest consideration for many families when choosing immigrants or studying abroad. Under linear thinking, people always have the expectation of melons and beans, so that if you change the environment, you will get the desired results. Minute.
But more and more immigrants return to the country to receive education or in the real world, the parents have used action to tell us that education itself is a process of transformation, and the younger age is to let a white paper graffiti . If you don’t fully agree with your child’s free choice and give your heart to support as the parents of Ben at the beginning, then everyone should think about it. The risk of children growing up under different values is not what you can afford. It’s gone.
References:
Why boarding schools produce bad leaders
https://www.theguardian.com/education/2014/jun/09/boarding-schools-bad-leaders-politicians-bullies-bumblers<