This article is from WeChat public account:Real Story Project (zhenshigushi1) , author: Cheng Kun, title figure from: vision China
The term “a quarter of life crisis” is often used by young people between the ages of 25 and 30 to face the challenges they face before they enter a stable phase. During this period, one’s ideals, emotions, health, and career are in chaos. The change of identity and the gap brought by social reality will continue to polish us and slow us into an adult.
Ugly (25 years old, account manager): In order to catch up with the speed of my parents’ aging, I accelerate my growth
A weekend of juniors, I secretly bought a ticket to go home, and wanted to give my parents a surprise, but they broke the scene they were preparing to hide my mother’s nasopharyngeal cancer. On the way back, I was crying, my parents asked me to go back to school for a night, don’t tell the younger brother who is preparing for the college entrance examination.
For their concealment, my first reaction was anger and grievance. When I went to the hospital with my mother, she comforted me: “NPC is the most easy cure for cancer, and I will be strong.” I calm down, in my parents’ eyes, I am childish, self-willed, and have not grown to let them Relying on adults.
Mother has to undergo 4 courses of chemotherapy and 28 times of radiation, which is expected to cost more than 100,000. This money is not a small amount for my family. Dad wants to take care of her mother at home. They can only eat old treatment. Once, I accidentally heard my relatives tell my father that it was a man and a woman at the end of the illness. There is no need to spend so much money and energy.
At that moment, I hate that I have no ability to share for my family. I originally had a postgraduate program. In order to earn money as soon as possible, I started my internship. When I didn’t have a class, I went to work part-time, 150 yuan a day. Going to do English tutor two weekendsWhen I earn 200 yuan, my living expenses for my brother and I can basically be solved. I only sleep for three or four hours a day, and I am involved in various cancer treatment and rehabilitation exchange groups, and discuss treatment plans with everyone.
Before my mother was sick, my parents have been sheltering me. Now, I know that I am old enough to take care of my family. During the internship, I was exposed to many grassroots business people and accumulated a lot of contacts. After graduating, I entered the fast-moving industry and became a procurement manager. After the mother’s chemotherapy, she stayed at home and her hair grew slowly. Going forward with my mother was the only motivation I had at the time.
In October 2018, I received a call from my father at the company. He said that the result of the mother’s review was liver metastasis. I was kneeling on the ground, crying and crying, feeling that the efforts of these years have been in vain. I started a new round of “working hard to earn money while looking for a treatment plan for my mother.” Dad continued to accompany her mother for treatment.
I have a problem at work, but when I think about my mother’s illness, I will solve the problem mentally. In June of this year, I was promoted to account manager and responsible for the national market. The industry can achieve this level at least 30 years old, the peers of the peers praise me young and promising. In fact, my motivation is to make money and see a doctor.
In the past 4 years, I have been racing with my mother and death, and finally lost. This year, my mother left. The cost of growing up seems to be a bit big. Last week, I went home to accompany my father. We were used to not mentioning the mother. In the middle of the night, I woke up to the bathroom and saw him sitting on the sofa and shed tears. I remembered that on the day of the diagnosis of liver metastases, my mother asked the whole family to go to the zoo together: “Girl, when I was young, I had no conditions at home, my parents didn’t accompany you, oh, let’s go see it.”
Figure | Zoo Tickets and Tour Plan
On that day, I took care of them and led them to watch a lot of animals. I went to Yuexiu Park, went to the tea house to drink tea, and tried to do something that seemed to be happy.