By escaping the independent thinking of “I am responsible for myself,” you can’t have a job that you really like.
Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “Glass-American Beauty” (ID : crystal_words), author Zhao Xiaoli.
Writing in the front:
Maybe, you have had similar confusion more than once:
When you go to college, you look at many of your classmates who are desperately trying to research. You will always feel that you are weak, as if everyone else knows what you are doing;
After you work, you are always anxious. No matter how good or how ordinary you look, you always feel that you will fall behind if you don’t do anything. But as for what you have to do, you never know, you can only refer to others. Things being done, or popular standards.
Do you have such feelings, every time you do things, you always decide and invest in panic, but when you do halfway, you will feel nothingness and confusion?
If you find that you are always flustered and passively committed to doing one thing, and then doing it with no interest, you have to rely on the chicken blood to bring up the spirit, how long does it last? In a state of inability to decadent, you really need to think seriously about a question – what do you want?
This issue is not only about your work, but also about your future life.
“I am always confused, why is this?”
According to the consultation case of Xiaona (a pseudonym), I deeply felt two words and lost my mind.
Xiao Na’s data shows that Xiaona’s major is health informatics. She started her secretarial work in a hospital and resigned a year later. In the following four years, she has done cosmetics sales, customer service, cashier, etc. Work, in the column of consulting and expectation, Xiaona fills in “I hope to find the career I want to do through this consultation.”
From the career counseling cases I have handled, most people will encounter “professional confusion” more or less.
Generally speaking, the following two groups of people belong to the hardest hit areas of “professional confusion”.
1. Newcomers to the workplace who have just come to the society.
This type of person has been studying and living in the ivory tower before. He is not familiar with the rules of the workplace. When he encounters problems, he or she habitually applies the way of thinking in the school to think and analyze. The so-called “resolving new problems with old methods”, naturally There will be a situation of “adaptity”. If I am resistant to stress and tolerance, it is easy to be suspicious and more confused.
2. People who have entered the workplace but have not established their own independent thinking mode.
This group of people, regardless of age, does not even have any connection with the length of service. They have a common feature, that is, they have not learned to establish their own independent thinking mode in the past experience, so they are often led by the public. .
For example, they saw that some CPAs earned hundreds of thousands of annual salary, and they rushed to the exam. They saw that someone was calling the architect’s certificate for a year and they were not clean and earned tens of thousands. They saw people around the examination of human resource managers, and they rushed to enroll.
People often show “effort, progress, positive, and love learning”. The problem is that they always start to do something, but they are not motivated to do it. I can’t persist, and I often end up in the end.
Obviously, Xiaona belongs to the latter.
You may never have thought about it,What kind of career do you need?
In the eyes of ordinary people, Xiaona puts a good job in the hospital, does not do it, runs outside to do sales customer service, etc. According to their words, “there must be a brain into the water.”< /p>
What I saw was that Xiaona tried to break free from the pressure and arrangement of the family, and she went to find her own life path.
Xiao Na nodded and said yes.
The question is, can this kind of panic and passive investment really bring growth and value to yourself?
I can understand Xiaona’s mood. If the first professional change is to get rid of the family arrangement (the first hospital work was arranged by Xiaona’s family), there is still no change in the second and subsequent changes. Growth curve, then what is the second transformation of sales based on?
Xiao Na told meAfter she resigned from the hospital, she discovered that she could not do anything. In a hurry, a friend said such a sentence, “Nana, you see that you will make up special makeup among us. Why not do the cosmetics industry? You want Going to do these sisters and saying nothing to support you!”
Xiao Na gained tremendous power from her sister’s words.
When she really started her cosmetics sales job and rushed to the friends’ homes to try them out, I found out that one or two of them were really willing to pay for her first order. Accidents, many friends will say “Oh, I already have a fixed cosmetics brand, I will not try this,” or “I can get the lowest discount from you next time,” or ” You don’t know that XX was just talking about it at the time. Didn’t you think that you really sold cosmetics?”
Xiao Na felt shocked. At this time, she discovered that she was wrong when she was wrong. When she did not know what to do, she did not seriously analyze and think, but easily listened to the suggestions of others.
Obviously, giving your choices to others is more than thinking and deciding. It means that once there is any bad situation in the future, you can easily push the responsibility to others.
Unconsciously, I dare not take responsibility, causing many people to automatically block their inner voice and real thoughts.
Do what you like, to get rid of the boring and confused in the years to come
1, Why is it important to find a favorite thing?
The host Wang Han once said such a paragraph –
“If you do what you love, you will no longer be confused and afraid, you can get rid of the anxiety that flows with you.”
Looking ahead, this seems to be the common aspiration of many successful people.
Liu Ruoying does not hesitate to start with an assistant for his favorite music. To put it bluntly, it is to mix and match, to pour water for the star tea, to wipe the umbrella, to block the fans, to deal with the media, etc., even if the job is on you. In front of you, you will still be dismissive.
In the eyes of many people, what is the growth of the work of tanning tea and sweating?
However, many people have forgotten that they can work in their own dreams and work with the people they admire. Isn’t it a “growth”?
No one rules what “growth” should look like ifWe take the results into account, as long as you step closer to the life you want, every day is full and meaningful, is this not a growth?
2, how to find a job you like?
1) You must have a basic understanding that no matter what choices or decisions you make today, whether the decision is influenced or followed by your heart, your future risks and hardships In fact, it will not be less.
2) What you must be aware of is that willingness itself is also an important part.
For example, Xiaona in the text, she is very empathetic and has the ability to communicate. However, the problem is that she is not willing to deal with people, so she resigned after a period of sales.
When a person lacks willingness in something, TA does not have the motivation to develop his or her own abilities, and it will not grow faster than the average person. Therefore, willingness itself is a large part of interest or hobbies.
3) You may wish to ask what you are willing to do. If you still don’t know, ask yourself what you are not willing to do.
If you still don’t know what you like, you can also ask yourself, for example, what do you hate?
This time, Xiaona told me a lot of answers, for example, I don’t like repetitive work, I don’t like to take up too much work in my spare time, I don’t like work with less money, and so on.
Reverse these answers is her answer –
She likes to work with challenges and freshness. She likes to have some autonomy in her work. She doesn’t want to be deprived of her life by work. Of course, if possible, it is better to have more money.
4), sort these requirements by priority, and see what is your most pressing desire?
After sorting, Xiaona thinks that the most important thing is freshness and challenge. If this is solved, it will have motivation for working. Once you have the motivation, you will be willing to invest time, so it doesn’t take time. As the ability increases, income is definitely not a problem.
Speaking of freshness and challenges, I asked Xiaona, did the previous sales work meet this feature? Think about it for what reason, why didn’t you stick to it?
After analysis, the crux of the original problem is that Xiaona is not willing to communicate with others, which means that if a job needs to deal with people, even if they face different people every day, even if Fresh and challenging, it’s not a wise choice for Xiaona – it’s not difficult to explain why Xiaona’s shift from sales to customer service is still not possible.
5)Many times, what we like is not the work itself, but the small self-fulfillment in the work.
After a lot of analysis, Xiaona found that she was very familiar with the data. She is currently doing a cashier at a business, although the job seems insignificant, and the daily work is similar, but strangely, Xiaona Not much annoyance, and even enjoy the process – because Xiaona went to the excellent cashier in the group for a few months, regardless of the speed of response or the accuracy of the data, they are far ahead in their group.
After this discovery, Xiaona gradually sorted out a rough outline of her career.
The so-called best choice, is just a step by step after finding the answer
In career choices, everyone has an answer to their own heart.
Finding this answer is not the meaning itself. The most important thing is that after finding this answer, we have to find a way to get close to the goal and achieve this answer.
I used to be an acute child. During my career study, the teacher shook his head frequently. He was worried about my future. I felt that I was not the one with the talent of a consultant, but no doubt, I am this. The fastest growing one in a year or two.
A lot of students are curious about how I did it. In fact, what I want to say is that as long as you are willing, the method is always more difficult than it is.
I knew at the beginning that my patience was not enough, so I spent a lot of time preparing for the case before each consultation, and made several consultation plans to adjust at any time, predicting the response and questions of the consultants, and constantly The drills, and summed up some good methods and ideas in a timely manner, gradually, with the improvement of the ability and the skill of the method, I actually cured my own acute child.
So, are you still convinced that your character is for life?
At the end of the article, I think of a sentence by John McKrem –
“What else does our presence mean in addition to being fully and thoroughly our own?”
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