This article is from WeChat public account:See the ideal (ID: ikanlixiang), author: Hou Chen, the original title: “gently turn ordinary” source “big Fopulasi” “elephant sat on the floor,” “green Paper”, the cover from: Oriental IC
I recently had two articles that caused quite a lot of controversy on the Internet. Of course, “controversy” is just a polite statement that everyone has loudly condemned.
I am not surprised at this. This does not mean that I will be in a high position. I will pay a smile on everything. In the last article, I have already expressed that I am not a “decent” By”.
Choose to write an article, I hope to bring some influence, so the feedback from the reader, I am really very concerned. It’s just that I don’t care if I lose my dignity because of condemnation.
In all the condemnations, I want to have a good impression of the audience. I want to gently feedback this comment today.
This is from the article “Famous or Cat? A very high-profile commentary in Li Huan and Huang Zhizhong, our last fight, I picked out the most critical part:
The online world’s praise for “ordinary beauty” and “save the kitten” is essentially that it sees itself: As an ordinary person’s life, it should not be more than an elite. The author wants to save the “human beauty” that seems to benefit thousands of people, but can’t see the “ordinary self-respect” of trillions of people. The author does not understand that not everyone is lucky enough to be born to understand this beauty.
We will start from here, and I promise that today will be gentle enough to talk to you about ordinary people.
1. “Ordinary” does not mean that you are the majority of the crowd
I understand this so-called “ordinary”, I also want to suggest two points about this mundane source, which is not always seen by us.
“Ping” means “accessible” or “surpassable” in the narration, and the straightforward pragmatic is of course “flat”, and the meaning is immediately used for “civilians”. The vocabulary means that these people are people who will not cause obstacles and can be passed over at will.
For example, “Shang Shu·Lin Jue”: “Yu You only began to be chaotic and extended to civilians.”
For example, “Zuo Chuan Cheng Gong Er Nian”: “Rituality is righteousness, righteousness is profitable, and civilians are used, and the political festival is also good.”
These are all “civilians”. Of course, today’s people also share the feeling that they are difficult to overcome and will be easily overtaken. But there is actually a very different thing here. In the past, only “non-civilian” people used to call others “civilians”, and people claiming “civilians” is a late phenomenon.
“People” or “ordinary” is the vocabulary of the literary verse. When a human body recognizes its “ordinary” or “extraordinary beauty”, it is actually not so ordinary.
Real “civilians”, farmers in South America, refugees in Africa, children in Syria, real farmers in the vast rural areas of China, I am afraid there is no sensitivity or tension to “confirm whether they are ordinary”, nor will they have too More about his own “ordinary” expression.
At the end of the day, those who claim to be “ordinary” are already middle-upper.
Speaking above the middle, it is already too self-effacing. This is also the reason why some data has attracted attention and reflection. There are only 120 million passport holders in the country, and 1 billion people have never been on the plane. Most people who want to pay such attention to the “ordinary” problem are not only more thanPeople who have been on the plane once and have gone abroad.
Don’t misunderstand. Here, I don’t even think that those who claim to be “ordinary” are people who are overly self-satisfied. After all, 120 million people are also a very large number.
I just want to suggest that “ordinary” is already a sensitivity that may be generated by a person who enters top20%. This vocabulary does have the feeling of “difficult to wave” and “easy to be overtaken”, but at least this 20% People once hoped that they would make some waves and hope that they would not be overstepped so easily.
I just want to say that ordinary does not mean that you are the average person, it is the majority.
In fact, I understand the source of this “ordinary sense” very much. Here, I can also explain why only top 20% of people have such strong and ordinary sensitivity. Because “the ordinary feeling” comes from the “information smooth” and the feeling of life in the capitalist landscape society.
Imagine that in a mountain village where information is occluded, a well-behaved and well-behaved person in the village may have been greatly praised and respected by the villagers in this respect. However, in the open information, witnessing the outdoor big-name advertisements and the beautiful men and women on Instagram, the ordinary “health” and “beauty” are not worth mentioning.
Similar logic, the wealth status in the early days of reform and opening up was modified by the term “10,000 yuan households”. At that time, in a county with relatively closed information, it was indeed possible to enjoy this wealth band in a “10,000 yuan household”. The status of coming. But knowing Bezos today, knowing Zuckerberg’s environment, the threshold of wealth status has been incredibly improved in the environment of Tomson and Bugatti Veyron.
This reminds me of a “semi-joke”. Someone asked who is the most influential 80 in the world? The answer can be searched by yourself. When the influence of the post-80s has been raised to such a degree, what else to do after the other eighty, can prove “uncommon” in a state of eagerness to “make waves” and “difficult to be overtaken.”
In today’s world, top 20% of people live in an environment where information is extremely circulated. People always have the urge to do something, but the flow of information makes all the thresholds of “success” out of reach, and any field seems to be It is inevitable to compete with the best of the world’s 7 billion people.
This makes the logic almost a necessity.
2. Don’t expect to find dignity in “Ordinary”
“Ordinary inevitability” I understand, of course I also have feelings.
I am actually a person who is not good enough. This is not an insincere self-humiliation. I am not a graduate of a famous school. I don’t have any eye-catching titles, no deaf awards, no unreachable achievements, and I have not been on the stage of high-profile, wealth is even more worth mentioning. As a “self-media practitioner”, the whole platform adds up to the number of subscriptions that are not even available for 100,000, and I am afraid that even the entry is not available.
Do I feel “Ordinary”? will not.
A lot of times we are eager to hear people talk about “ordinary”, so we will be very moved when we hear Park Tree’s “Ordinary Road”. When I heard Gao Yuanyuan interview, I said that “Ordinary life is eternal” will be very popular. resonance.
But when you think about it, Pu Shu was in the north and south of the Yangtze River in 1999. The Road to the Ordinary is the theme song of the most popular movie in 2017. After it was produced, it was sung throughout the country. Whether it is Park Tree or this work, where is there a little bit of ordinaryness in it?
In this era of extreme beauty, Gao Yuanyuan is one of the most beautiful stars ever mentioned. The star is smooth and the marriage is enviable. Where can her life be related to “ordinary”?
Don’t expect to find dignity in the ordinary, no matter how great people talk about “ordinary”, believe me, the ordinary in their mouths and the ordinary in your mouth, will not be a thing.
Isaiah Berlin made a negative and positive division of freedom. The simplest summary is that positive freedom is what you can do freely and freedom to act freely. Negative freedom is freedom that is not disturbed and not forced. This distinction can also be applied, namely positive dignity and negative dignity.
Positive dignity is what to do and the dignity gained from action. Negative dignity is the kind of dignity that is not seen by others and is not despised by others, leading to its loss.
So it seems that today more people are sensitive, it should be negative dignity.
This is a kind of “being ordinary” and believes in the belief that you can “hold the dignity” in the ordinary.
Active dignity is the dignity of an offensive, and negative dignity is a dignity of dignity. I am going to stab you here. I see the word “offensive”. Is there an instinctive disgust? Seeing the word “defense”, is there an instinctive stability, if any. Then you are in a negative dignityNo doubt.
3. Is there a dignity of “being born and being human” if you don’t do anything?
I don’t directly oppose “negative dignity”, just like the distinction between positive freedom and negative freedom for Berlin. He does not claim “positive freedom” from the semantics. In fact, Berlin believes that positive freedom is more dangerous today. This is actually the academic expression of Li Huan’s “Save the Artist to Burn the World.”
Therefore, if you are not being lighted and not attacked, you can naturally have dignity. Then adopting a negative dignity attitude is not a bad thing.
But the next question is very straightforward, but directly: in a metropolis living in a modern society, is there a “born and dignified” person? Is it natural that we have dignity without being attacked and scorned?
This question can’t be simply changed to “have the dignity of being a human being?” If you ask this question simply, I tend to answer yes.
But today’s problem is in a very specific situation, that is, “in the life of a modern metropolis”, this situation is substantial –
This means at least transparent information, difficult self-sufficient production, high reliance on consumption, and dependence on information systems, and are the things that have been mentioned in many articles in this column in the past. In the context of all this, is there still a “born dignity”?
Or, who is deprived of the deprivation of “born as human dignity”? Is it the deprivation of the elite consciousness? Is it the deprivation of superiority exhibited by others? Still in the bureaucracy, in the consumer society, in the transparent information, it is deprived.
Of course there is a logic here that can be used to defend negative dignity. It is the modern society that has deprived so many people of their dignity. Can you let people not interfere with each other and stop depriving each other of their dignity? “Why are you writing such an article to further deprive us of our dignity?”
I certainly understand that someone really shows up the dignity of others by showing their superiority and exalts themselves, but this is not what I have to do.
Therefore, not every description that contains a sense of superiority is an act that only wants to pour the dignity of others.
You can think about it. My last article called for everyone to re-establish the connection with art. Is it calling for everyone to reconnect with a kind of “positive dignity?”
4. Be willing to be ordinary, to judge yourself into a state of no dignity
You should all be sick when you are sick. When you are sick, you feel deeply healthy and valuable, and you are eager to return to health. After recovery? No longer care about health every day, health becomes a thing that is not sensitive at all.
The same is true of dignity.
When a person feels that his dignity is insufficient, there is a crisis in the world that deprives him of his dignity. When he truly has dignity, he is calm and relaxed. It seems that the world around him is round and everything is not so sharp. .
My friend recently paid close attention to my mental health. I am worried that the storm caused by the article will make me angry or sad, so many people come to comfort me. But these aroused opinions don’t bother me. I just feel that it is really difficult and long. I need to continue to be patient.
So “dignity” and “no dignity” are not a corresponding state, just like health and unhealthy. They are not like having money and no money, showing more and less correspondence.
Dignity is never too much, there is no more dignity and less dignity, just like saying “I am more healthy” is really strange.
The dignity is nothing but a state of “enrichment” and “consummation”, and “no dignity”, the “non-dignity” state reflected by the sensitivity to the loss of dignity we mentioned above is actually a loss of dignity. lack.
So I want to preach a warning, and may have to warn of “trivial” “self-trial”. Of course, ordinary is a kind of self-judgment.
This self-judgment locks the subject in a position of inevitable “dignity deficit” and maintains the fear and tension of the loss of dignity.
“Ordinary self-esteem” is a tough tightrope that requires a lot of consumption, rest and self-defense to form. This is a doomed failure balance.
同The existence of this tension is almost certain. In a modern urban life, “born and dignified” is indeed an unacceptable thing.
So, like the online clichés, “Is it true that being ordinary is a kind of maturity and courage?”
I don’t think so. I realize that living in a modern city, as a top 20% of the wealth and intellectuals, the curse is that the dignity of nature has been lost, and we cannot achieve full dignity through the defensive. This is a kind of maturity and courage.
5. Dignity does not come from the results, but from the process
Because of this, I have to answer the above questions. Why do I still feel consciously “uncommon” and maintain the “dignity of perfection” in the absence of “success”?
Why is this not my arrogance and embarrassment?
Of course, some readers will say that you are already looking at the ideal column, and of course you can use these as a confirmation to get a calm mind. But I want to say that such an opportunity is the result of my calm, not the cause.
In fact, I may have entered this state of mind in 2015, and the reader frankly said that it really makes me feel that “uncommon” and “dignity” are intimate.
Of course, it was not a smooth intimacy, and in the end it was regrettable that it was not good. Of course, I won’t show the details here. The simplest summary, a matter of importance (in today’s almost intimate relationship), forcing you to be most sincere The most sincere action has been made, of course, the kind of action needs to be sustained with a strong force for a short period of time. It must have withstood the fear and crisis of total loss of dignity.
This “truth” ultimately enriches your dignity, and since then, the tension of dignity has completely disappeared, and you have been able to enter a state of calmness.
Modern urban life is a great obscurity. In the context of information flow and success, we are gradually being intimidated and persuaded.
We are convinced that the full dignity must be achieved by 0.001% of the 20% of the people. Need to rely on the huge amount of consumption, the scary title, the award-winning certificate awards, or the power of the four parties to prove.
This vision limits the imagination and forces people into situations that have to accept “ordinary”. As everyone knows, dignity has nothing to do with these. I even want to say that it is the fate of the fish to get the dignity from these things.
Of course, I would not argue that it is a simple matter to maintain a supreme sincerity in a relationship. This is of course difficult. It also requires great fortune and the sincerity and fulfillment of others. I can’t lie to you. This is a winning strategy, or a simple method. Of course, in addition to intimacy, life will also give such a sincere opportunity, which may be a livelihood or a career.
It’s just that dignity does not come from the results, but from the process.
This sentence should be in line with Aristotle’s sentence in Nicholas’ Ethics, “What we have done over and over has made ourselves.”
Of course, this idea also contains traps, laziness and complacency are the most significant. I think there must be readers who have a feeling here, my life is very difficult, and I am absolutely honest enough to treat life and others. Why am I not getting the mood like you?
The standard I can provide is very simple. If you do, you will never call it “ordinary.” If you can really do that kind of sincerity, you will know that it is a particularly remarkable thing. It is rare. It is only enough to get it. It is only a huge crisis.
Of course, it contains vigilance, alertness to one’s weakness, vigilance of giving up, self-romantic alertness, lazy alertness, and vigilance to escape. It’s a big price.
Although it is so difficult, the little thing of “truth” has helped us get rid of the mediocrity of the 7 billion people’s community. Even if we form a community of 70 billion people, it is true to one person or one thing. The same is true, even if the world is left with you and another person, sincere treatment will still be so difficult.
This makes “truth” and “dignity”, “beauty”, and “uncommon”, both possible and desirable.
It depends on a little luck, but not like that sentenceComments, relying on “one birth” to get the luck. It is a kind of luck that is bravely dominated.
End: I am willing to do that “thorn”
Someone commented that my article has “thorns.” This is the same, maybe its text is the most gentle, but if you produce the thorn, it is the sharpest.
I said sharply that the natural dignity of being born is no longer possible; I am more acutely saying that modern people are too lazy and complacent, thinking that they are victims, thinking that they have done enough, often stop In the very close to the starting point, I dreamed that I had experienced the Odyssey in my mind.
So is it not so important to be gentle? Isn’t it? The gentleness of writing will inevitably lead to many misunderstandings and romantic self-comforts. Do not believe that you can read the comments below.
I am willing to be the thorn of your ordinary life until you have a thorn that you don’t need me anymore.
This article is from WeChat public account:See the ideal (ID: ikanlixiang), author: Hou Chen