This article is from WeChat public account: everyone-Tencent News (ID : ipress) , author: Jia-selectin, title figure from: “marriage stories”
Reminder: This article is by no means a guide to marriage dismissal
Receiving six Golden Globe nominations should be a warm-up to the awards season for “Marriage Story”. This part of the “New York Times” and “Time” top ten movies of the year, the rotten tomato praise rate is as high as 96%, Douban score 8.8.
A divorce in the United States has everyone’s heart, and there are more than one married friend crying around me.
I can hit people’s hearts because “Marriage Story” shows life itself. For example, the couple filmed a couple of days of scolding and scolding. People who have experienced marriage seem to have known each other-from the beginning, they tried to sit down and communicate with each other, to pull out the other’s native family to attack, and finally Losing his mind and scolding himself for being blind and cursing the other person for being hit by a car, the hero and the protagonist took less than ten minutes.
Many couples may have shorter daily routines.
It’s terrible to be close to you. Although countless great works have analyzed the marriage relationship countless times, this one is still enough to conquer the hearts of the audience with the real warmth and hatred in the realistic scenes.
After the loss of both sides of the public court and the exhaustion of the words, the accumulated love and support in the common life will not be easily cut off by the divorce agreement. The ending is delicate and sentimental, and the ending of the story seems more pleasant. But no matter how gentle the connection after the marriage ends, the facts of the entire movie are still quite cruel: Ego is powerful or women who care about self-realization, it is easier to be disappointed in marriage.
Marriage requires mutual compromise and balance, and 100% of complainants think that the other person is selfish and hopeless. When I saw the heroine blasting out to her husband: “You and your selfishness are integrated into one, you can’t tell that it is selfish”, I realized that the good script really comes from reality-there is A friend told her husband almost the same, “How can you not realize how selfish you are!”
Nicole’s long monologue in the play mentioned that her house even the furniture is the taste of her husband, because she moved to his Brooklyn home when she was married, and every time she proposed to return to Los Angeles after marriage, she only got Endless perfunctory, this also became the front line of the divorce between the two.
My friend also moved into her husband’s house when she got married. Later, she switched to the long-awaited company. Because she commutes for nearly five hours a day, she discussed with her husband if she could rent the house and move away from her The company lives closer. The husband was troublesome, but he promised but didn’t move. It was dragged on until she was seven weeks pregnant and was on her way home from work.She bleed, and the fetus was not protected by the progesterone. Instead, her husband felt that she blame her for putting too much emphasis on her work.
In marriages that seem to be “mutually” accommodating to achieve a balance, in fact, often only women give up most of their selves. In the play, Charlie only expressed his heartfelt feeling when he finally broke out. He felt that he had been sacrificed a lot when he was willing to marry Nicole during the career upswing that he could play for a few more years. This kind of brain circuit is not normal to feel how painful his wife is. And if Nicole can settle down as a good wife and mother, willing to nourish “us” and give up “me”, the whole story will not happen.
Ego is strong and very clear about what value he wants to pursue. He has gone through a brutal divorce road to get a new life. And Ego is not so powerful and is trapped in a structured wife who has nowhere to relax, and may be Jin Zhiying’s inattention.
In the two popular movies of the same period, there were women who lived in very different cultural soils but also suppressed themselves in marriage, and also had a universal stereotype imposed on their mothers. Jin Zhiying, who accidentally knocked over coffee with a child, was blindfolded in public. This embarrassment is not unique to Oriental women. In the words of lawyer Nicole: The Virgin Mary gave birth to Jesus as a virgin, but his father did not have to show up at all-people can accept imperfect fathers, but they will always demand higher standards from their mothers.
Stills of “Jin Zhiying Born 82”