The meaning of a weak connection.
Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “Open Mind Club” (ID: openmindclub) , author Chen Huping.
“ You are from a small city and you are working from the bottom of the first-tier cities. I believe that one day you can stand taller and change your life and that of your family. Time is wasted in relationships. You spend all your time studying and working overtime, but life is not always what you want. Practice internal skills or make friends. Which is important? What is the significance of weak relationships to you? Look at Chen Huping Great insights from teachers.
People without strength (wealth, power, knowledge, information) only have strong relationships, not many weak relationships, only relatives, friends, peers, work colleagues, and few other social connections.
This may be related to his lack of strength or to his behavior in social relations. Some people don’t seem to be capable or smart, but they are good at running social networks and have achieved remarkable results.
Building weak relationships may be a capability in itself, independent of existing strength. On the other hand, strong people may have little contact with the outside world due to their personality, habits, etc., and lose the opportunity to magnify the effect. Strength is not necessarily the reason for the weak relationship, but the behavior habit of contacting society. The best combination is, of course, strength + weakness.
Weak relationships and strength are parallel. Weak relationships can fulfill dreams. One bridge segment looks like this:
A good businessman, Jack, one day told his son … Jack: I have decided on a girl, and I want you to marry her. Son: The bride I want to marry myself, I will decide for myself. Jack: But the girl I said was the daughter of Bill Gates! Son: Wow! That’s the case …
At a party, Jack walks to Bill Gates … Jack: Let me introduce a good husband for your daughter. Bill: My daughter hasn’t wanted to marry yet! Jack: But the young man I am talking about is the vice president of the World Bank! Bill: Wow! That’s the case …
Jack went to meet the president of the World Bank. Jack: I want to introduce a young man to be the vice president of your bank. President: We already have many vice presidents, enough! Jack: But the young man I am talking about is Bill Gates’ son-in-law! President: Wow!
This statement is definitely extreme, and everyone will find it ridiculous. But that paragraph actually has deep meaning, and cannot be ignored. Gentle version of resource consolidationIn fact, cooperation and docking often occur. Getting help from a superior through a weak relationship seems to a wise person to be nothing, and therefore sneers at times.
The characteristics of smart people are that one radish and one pit, how much effort they make and how much they get, are all obtained through their own hard work and intelligence. What they ca n’t get, they do n’t think they should get. Considering the problem in this way, the premise is to regard the achievement of social achievements as a purely linear causality.
But society is networked, especially in today’s Internet age. Some people are not so hard, but they get a lot. Where is the reason? Lies in social network resources. They can use the social network platform and use this platform and resource network to leverage more resources.
Smart people usually use their own efforts and achievements to leverage some income and reputation. But if they also have the ability to build and manage social resources, they can use their own efforts, but also use platforms and systems to magnify the effect of their efforts. Because it is in the network, this effect is non-linear.
Unpleasantly, our education often tells children not to get into camps and don’t waste energy in interpersonal relationships. Some people do take the management of weak relationships as a way to drill camps, but this does not mean that all weak relationships are the same and should be actively abandoned.
If you do n’t know the nobles in weak relationships, young people may not even have access to good information. Weak relationships are so important that the network of social resources must be deliberately operated. Fraction-only theory and grade-only theory, this is an adaptation model under the examination system, and it is understandable. But it only applies to exams. Score dependence and achievement dependence will become a kind of path dependence, which is effective at some times and invalid at other times.
Society is not necessarily an exam. The exam has definite questions and answers, but the market, business, family, nation, and country have a variety of new questions and no answers yet. Are you sure to achieve outstanding results in these areas? Not necessarily.
Even if you get outstanding results in the end, you will always take the exam, it just shows that the basic intelligence has a great influence on the result. Only a small percentage of people who take exams have achieved excellent results, and the ability to take exams does not necessarily indicate that you will achieve outstanding results after entering the society. A few people with good grades achieved outstanding results, not because of good grades, but because too many grades were as good as he was before, and then they were ordinary.
The real reason is thatHe surpassed the existing behavior model and broke his path dependence. He changed from the examination to the strengthening of weak relations and the management of social resources. He not only used his own strength, but also the strength of the platform, organization, and system to achieve results.
He is willing to share his own resources. He is open-minded and zero, consults with others, learns new thinking in different professions, and makes new friends in different fields. He doesn’t regard himself as a reason to learn well. He never thinks that society is unfair to him. He doesn’t give him what he deserves, but changes himself.
In terms of professionalism, he is still excellent, but there may be many, maybe too many people who are excellent in professionalism just like him. Only by virtue of his professional ability, he can only achieve intermediate and at most intermediate grades.
After you already have a certain professional ability, you must quickly expand social space, open up your horizons, make good use of organizations and platforms, don’t indulge in your own intelligence, and don’t fall into the self-respect and self-respect of small intellectuals.
Even if you want to acquire excellent professional skills, you also need to constantly communicate with experts and get inspiration in different fields. Digging hard to dig down, never expanding your horizons horizontally in the breadth of majors, and there is little chance of making achievements in the professional field.
Incomplete life is a definite subject
Too many acquaintances know each other; people in weak relationships have skills and resources that are significantly different from yours. The achievement of the industrial and commercial society must be the result of teamwork. Individuals cannot do much. Going it alone is almost a failure. And intellectuals and people who grew up in small communities are often used to doing it alone, relying on personal diligence and intelligence, but not far.
The clever children of adolescents are happy to solve problems and pride themselves on solving problems. This is by nature. After living as an adult, it is like solving a problem. Good life = good work + good house + good car. The living standards of Miyoshi students, are you competing for excellence? Faced with this life problem, smart people work hard and use others as tools and themselves as a means to ensure that the goal will be reached. This also Runs on the trajectory of thinking in his youth: The society must ask questions for itself, and answer them yourself!
But life is not exactly a certain topic. From here, looking to the future, there are many possible ways. The new summit does not really exist, it exists only when you create it. The wise man asked, which way is better? I just want to ask, which one do you really want to take? You are afraid to go off track and be laughed at; This kind of cleverness is just to maximize rationality under the standards set by others, and cannot set up your own life theme. The value of fantasy and self-sufficiency is too small. Asking questions and creating your own is easier said than done! Looking out from here, empty. Marsh and thorns are faintly seen on every possible road, and the wilderness is uninhabited. No one has ever experienced your future. Do not leave alone. Your paranoia is enough to get you into the swamp they dare not go. Find a group of people in different fields, organize a team, and everyone walks through the no-man’s land.
Upgrade “smart” to version 2.0
The ring finger is longer than the forefinger, just smart version 1.0. This ratio is controlled by hormones. A high value indicates that the system reasoning is stronger than the empathy ability, and a low value indicates that the empathy ability is higher than the system reasoning ability. According to Simon Baron-Cohen’s research on the differences in thinking between men and women’s brains, systematic reasoning is negatively related to empathy (see The Essential Difference): caring for many people around them, but not creating and innovating industries, or changing industries; Few people.
Most people are trapped in their own intelligence, and their performance is (1) I think I deserve more; (2) I think my ability is good; (3) Never have team experience (4) Always work within your university’s professional field.
A person’s ability is always limited. Her blood was boiling in her 20s and she used her talents to work hard. You will make the most of your personality leverage. Good at programming. Good at reading. Hard-working, motivated and hard-working. At the age of 30, I realized that I could do so much. There are too many smart people like you. Can you do all the things that a smart man can write a program and read?
True smart people don’t refuse to learn from great people, they don’t need to think alone to prove themselves. They will always look for the best information source, absorb and use. They take notes diligently, listen to lectures, and treat good people with a positive attitude. On the contrary, people who think they are smart don’t take notes in class, listen to the lecture and say that the person is bad or fake, and try to come up with all the answers alone; they use cynicism to prove their independence.
goes beyond ordinary cleverness and is clever version 2.0. The natural ring finger is longer than the index finger, has strong systemic thinking ability, and has slightly rebellious behavior during puberty;Organize student and team activities for empathy training.
Pure intelligence and individualism don’t go far. You must add acquired education and self-cultivation to master empathy in order to reach the smart version 2.0. Empathy + reasoning is clever, it is really clever.
Society is a multi-layered system, but you only use a natural genetic and personality lever to pry. A leverage will break, don’t make the innate leverage too large. Life is a piecewise function, success is a multi-layered structure, and there must be many elements that you are not born to cooperate with. Be sure to lower yourself!
Human change has internal and external causes. The binary analysis of internal and external factors may not be consistent with the facts, but it can bring clues.
The internal cause is his own accumulation of human capital, learning programming, statistics, engineering, management, marketing, and logical structure. As you accumulate more, there will be some changes. Can analyze some problems to make decisions, can solve some problems and generate income. But no matter how smart you are, you can’t do everything well.
External factors are sometimes more important. Outside of you are external causes. Learn by one person or by several people? You can’t hold on for too long just by self-discipline, but several peers will chase me after you. Human capital accumulates in one direction, and then joins the team to make products that require multiple skills. Joining a company, accessing a multi-layer system, and connecting with customers, governments, and capital markets, the effect is non-linear. Selecting friends, teams, and companies is sometimes more important than individual talent.
Strength is not a prerequisite for networking. It ’s not that you have the strength to cultivate weak relationships. They can be prepared in parallel. I thought that with strength I would manage a weak relationship, but it didn’t happen.
Some middle-aged and young people have always cultivated their personal strength, and are never good or even disdain to manage and operate the social resource network. They feel that they are clever for a lifetime, and why those who are stupid and stupid than themselves have achieved greater results! Instead of finding reasons from themselves, they have to blame the society or justify their bad luck.
Strength is a linear accumulation under your control. Weak relationships are highly uncertain network effects. These two kinds of thinking are highly heterogeneous. Therefore, it is possible to endorse yourself after your strength and contacts. Cultivate bothThis ability is the best choice. Strength and connections must be continuously practiced and in-depth practiced. Networking is also a skill that is never easier than problem solving and modeling.
Make friends with “unfamiliar people”
How to build a social resource network and how to find a good organization? Amazing! Good organization, good direction, I have not reached that level, and often can’t see it. You can’t see what the three-dimensional layer sees on the plane.
At this point, you need someone to guide you. You have to meet such a noble person. You have to trust your judgement and follow along. If you are always stubborn, starting from your own limited insights, and not leaving the perspective of your habits even if you are slightly out of your habit, and you will give a part of the future to your guide, then you will always be stuck at this level in.
Moreover, nobles should be willing to take you to play, take you into the field, be willing to spend time with you, and feel that you are easy to learn, teach, and bring, before they give you tickets to enter a new level. Therefore, this is an interactive trust process, in which you share common ideals, feelings and judgments. Because of this common feeling, you are not afraid to make a choice, go to a place you have never been to before, or a direction your friends have never thought of.
People trust you before they take you to play. Trust relies on frequent contacts, and is all their own team. You have the ability, but you follow the wrong person or leave, and there is no room for improvement. The boss of a company usually has the most ideas. You are mainly implementing, not suggesting ideas. If you really have an idea and you can let it go, the boss trusts you. If you do not get in touch with the boss to gain trust, the boss alone will not rest assured that you will do important things.
Unless the crisis forces you to despair, the boss will not easily give resources to people who are not his own. If you are high and not familiar with the boss, then you have no chance to take power. If you really have an idea, don’t want to listen to the command, and feel that they are stupid, then you resign and go out and do it yourself. Of course, If you do n’t even have the ability, it wo n’t help to gain trust, the boss will still abandon you. He won’t abandon you, and the company will close sooner or later.
Ability is your own business; in Beijing, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, more people have the ability. Trust and the transfer of control of resources are matters for the organization. Many scholars and high-tech students always feel that they have the ability, so how can they not be reused, it seems that they are scarce. Only theoretical thinking, no social emotional intelligence, very naive. A lot of age, still old and angry, trapped in ego. Follow the organization, follow the decision makers, follow the policy guidelines.
Unable to enter the mainstream circle in the United States, the social relationship will be simple, because others do not take you to play at all. You sufferIf you want to be squeezed out, then they are of course friendly to you. Except for those who temporarily work in Silicon Valley and Manhattan, everyone else must return home as soon as possible! Without the Chinese platform and the Chinese relationship circle, your entire family will not be able to go up in the future.
Man is the greatest miracle of natural and social evolution. Without giving full play to your potential, without access to new platforms and frontiers that are constantly evolving, and without doing something for the industry and society, remorse is inevitable. Always pay attention to the coordination of small personal goals and national big goals so that your system can operate efficiently and sustainably. ■
This article is an original and good article by Kaizhi, taken from Chen Huping ’s good book “Breaking the Label of Growth”
Open Wisdom School (http://www.OpenMindClub.com)
A good businessman, Jack, one day told his son … Jack: I have decided on a girl, and I want you to marry her. Son: The bride I want to marry myself, I will decide for myself. Jack: But the girl I said was the daughter of Bill Gates! Son: Wow! That’s the case …
At a party, Jack walks to Bill Gates … Jack: Let me introduce a good husband for your daughter. Bill: My daughter hasn’t wanted to marry yet! Jack: But the young man I am talking about is the vice president of the World Bank! Bill: Wow! That’s the case …
Jack went to meet the president of the World Bank. Jack: I want to introduce a young man to be the vice president of your bank. President: We already have many vice presidents, enough! Jack: But the young man I am talking about is Bill Gates’ son-in-law! President: Wow!
This statement is definitely extreme, and everyone will find it ridiculous. But that paragraph actually has deep meaning, and cannot be ignored. Gentle version of resource consolidationIn fact, cooperation and docking often occur. Getting help from a superior through a weak relationship seems to a wise person to be nothing, and therefore sneers at times.
The characteristics of smart people are that one radish and one pit, how much effort they make and how much they get, are all obtained through their own hard work and intelligence. What they ca n’t get, they do n’t think they should get. Considering the problem in this way, the premise is to regard the achievement of social achievements as a purely linear causality.
But society is networked, especially in today’s Internet age. Some people are not so hard, but they get a lot. Where is the reason? Lies in social network resources. They can use the social network platform and use this platform and resource network to leverage more resources.
Smart people usually use their own efforts and achievements to leverage some income and reputation. But if they also have the ability to build and manage social resources, they can use their own efforts, but also use platforms and systems to magnify the effect of their efforts. Because it is in the network, this effect is non-linear.
Unpleasantly, our education often tells children not to get into camps and don’t waste energy in interpersonal relationships. Some people do take the management of weak relationships as a way to drill camps, but this does not mean that all weak relationships are the same and should be actively abandoned.
If you do n’t know the nobles in weak relationships, young people may not even have access to good information. Weak relationships are so important that the network of social resources must be deliberately operated. Fraction-only theory and grade-only theory, this is an adaptation model under the examination system, and it is understandable. But it only applies to exams. Score dependence and achievement dependence will become a kind of path dependence, which is effective at some times and invalid at other times.
Society is not necessarily an exam. The exam has definite questions and answers, but the market, business, family, nation, and country have a variety of new questions and no answers yet. Are you sure to achieve outstanding results in these areas? Not necessarily.
Even if you get outstanding results in the end, you will always take the exam, it just shows that the basic intelligence has a great influence on the result. Only a small percentage of people who take exams have achieved excellent results, and the ability to take exams does not necessarily indicate that you will achieve outstanding results after entering the society. A few people with good grades achieved outstanding results, not because of good grades, but because too many grades were as good as he was before, and then they were ordinary.
The real reason is thatHe surpassed the existing behavior model and broke his path dependence. He changed from the examination to the strengthening of weak relations and the management of social resources. He not only used his own strength, but also the strength of the platform, organization, and system to achieve results.
He is willing to share his own resources. He is open-minded and zero, consults with others, learns new thinking in different professions, and makes new friends in different fields. He doesn’t regard himself as a reason to learn well. He never thinks that society is unfair to him. He doesn’t give him what he deserves, but changes himself.
In terms of professionalism, he is still excellent, but there may be many, maybe too many people who are excellent in professionalism just like him. Only by virtue of his professional ability, he can only achieve intermediate and at most intermediate grades.
After you already have a certain professional ability, you must quickly expand social space, open up your horizons, make good use of organizations and platforms, don’t indulge in your own intelligence, and don’t fall into the self-respect and self-respect of small intellectuals.
Even if you want to acquire excellent professional skills, you also need to constantly communicate with experts and get inspiration in different fields. Digging hard to dig down, never expanding your horizons horizontally in the breadth of majors, and there is little chance of making achievements in the professional field.
Incomplete life is a definite subject
Too many acquaintances know each other; people in weak relationships have skills and resources that are significantly different from yours. The achievement of the industrial and commercial society must be the result of teamwork. Individuals cannot do much. Going it alone is almost a failure. And intellectuals and people who grew up in small communities are often used to doing it alone, relying on personal diligence and intelligence, but not far.
The clever children of adolescents are happy to solve problems and pride themselves on solving problems. This is by nature. After living as an adult, it is like solving a problem. Good life = good work + good house + good car. The living standards of Miyoshi students, are you competing for excellence? Faced with this life problem, smart people work hard and use others as tools and themselves as a means to ensure that the goal will be reached. This also Runs on the trajectory of thinking in his youth: The society must ask questions for itself, and answer them yourself!
But life is not exactly a certain topic. From here, looking to the future, there are many possible ways. The new summit does not really exist, it exists only when you create it. The wise man asked, which way is better? I just want to ask, which one do you really want to take? You are afraid to go off track and be laughed at; This kind of cleverness is just to maximize rationality under the standards set by others, and cannot set up your own life theme. The value of fantasy and self-sufficiency is too small. Asking questions and creating your own is easier said than done! Looking out from here, empty. Marsh and thorns are faintly seen on every possible road, and the wilderness is uninhabited. No one has ever experienced your future. Do not leave alone. Your paranoia is enough to get you into the swamp they dare not go. Find a group of people in different fields, organize a team, and everyone walks through the no-man’s land.
Upgrade “smart” to version 2.0
The ring finger is longer than the forefinger, just smart version 1.0. This ratio is controlled by hormones. A high value indicates that the system reasoning is stronger than the empathy ability, and a low value indicates that the empathy ability is higher than the system reasoning ability. According to Simon Baron-Cohen’s research on the differences in thinking between men and women’s brains, systematic reasoning is negatively related to empathy (see The Essential Difference): caring for many people around them, but not creating and innovating industries, or changing industries; Few people.
Most people are trapped in their own intelligence, and their performance is (1) I think I deserve more; (2) I think my ability is good; (3) Never have team experience (4) Always work within your university’s professional field.
A person’s ability is always limited. Her blood was boiling in her 20s and she used her talents to work hard. You will make the most of your personality leverage. Good at programming. Good at reading. Hard-working, motivated and hard-working. At the age of 30, I realized that I could do so much. There are too many smart people like you. Can you do all the things that a smart man can write a program and read?
True smart people don’t refuse to learn from great people, they don’t need to think alone to prove themselves. They will always look for the best information source, absorb and use. They take notes diligently, listen to lectures, and treat good people with a positive attitude. On the contrary, people who think they are smart don’t take notes in class, listen to the lecture and say that the person is bad or fake, and try to come up with all the answers alone; they use cynicism to prove their independence.
goes beyond ordinary cleverness and is clever version 2.0. The natural ring finger is longer than the index finger, has strong systemic thinking ability, and has slightly rebellious behavior during puberty;Organize student and team activities for empathy training.
Pure intelligence and individualism don’t go far. You must add acquired education and self-cultivation to master empathy in order to reach the smart version 2.0. Empathy + reasoning is clever, it is really clever.
Society is a multi-layered system, but you only use a natural genetic and personality lever to pry. A leverage will break, don’t make the innate leverage too large. Life is a piecewise function, success is a multi-layered structure, and there must be many elements that you are not born to cooperate with. Be sure to lower yourself!
Human change has internal and external causes. The binary analysis of internal and external factors may not be consistent with the facts, but it can bring clues.
The internal cause is his own accumulation of human capital, learning programming, statistics, engineering, management, marketing, and logical structure. As you accumulate more, there will be some changes. Can analyze some problems to make decisions, can solve some problems and generate income. But no matter how smart you are, you can’t do everything well.
External factors are sometimes more important. Outside of you are external causes. Learn by one person or by several people? You can’t hold on for too long just by self-discipline, but several peers will chase me after you. Human capital accumulates in one direction, and then joins the team to make products that require multiple skills. Joining a company, accessing a multi-layer system, and connecting with customers, governments, and capital markets, the effect is non-linear. Selecting friends, teams, and companies is sometimes more important than individual talent.
Strength is not a prerequisite for networking. It ’s not that you have the strength to cultivate weak relationships. They can be prepared in parallel. I thought that with strength I would manage a weak relationship, but it didn’t happen.
Some middle-aged and young people have always cultivated their personal strength, and are never good or even disdain to manage and operate the social resource network. They feel that they are clever for a lifetime, and why those who are stupid and stupid than themselves have achieved greater results! Instead of finding reasons from themselves, they have to blame the society or justify their bad luck.
Strength is a linear accumulation under your control. Weak relationships are highly uncertain network effects. These two kinds of thinking are highly heterogeneous. Therefore, it is possible to endorse yourself after your strength and contacts. Cultivate bothThis ability is the best choice. Strength and connections must be continuously practiced and in-depth practiced. Networking is also a skill that is never easier than problem solving and modeling.
Make friends with “unfamiliar people”
How to build a social resource network and how to find a good organization? Amazing! Good organization, good direction, I have not reached that level, and often can’t see it. You can’t see what the three-dimensional layer sees on the plane.
At this point, you need someone to guide you. You have to meet such a noble person. You have to trust your judgement and follow along. If you are always stubborn, starting from your own limited insights, and not leaving the perspective of your habits even if you are slightly out of your habit, and you will give a part of the future to your guide, then you will always be stuck at this level in.
Moreover, nobles should be willing to take you to play, take you into the field, be willing to spend time with you, and feel that you are easy to learn, teach, and bring, before they give you tickets to enter a new level. Therefore, this is an interactive trust process, in which you share common ideals, feelings and judgments. Because of this common feeling, you are not afraid to make a choice, go to a place you have never been to before, or a direction your friends have never thought of.
People trust you before they take you to play. Trust relies on frequent contacts, and is all their own team. You have the ability, but you follow the wrong person or leave, and there is no room for improvement. The boss of a company usually has the most ideas. You are mainly implementing, not suggesting ideas. If you really have an idea and you can let it go, the boss trusts you. If you do not get in touch with the boss to gain trust, the boss alone will not rest assured that you will do important things.
Unless the crisis forces you to despair, the boss will not easily give resources to people who are not his own. If you are high and not familiar with the boss, then you have no chance to take power. If you really have an idea, don’t want to listen to the command, and feel that they are stupid, then you resign and go out and do it yourself. Of course, If you do n’t even have the ability, it wo n’t help to gain trust, the boss will still abandon you. He won’t abandon you, and the company will close sooner or later.
Ability is your own business; in Beijing, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, more people have the ability. Trust and the transfer of control of resources are matters for the organization. Many scholars and high-tech students always feel that they have the ability, so how can they not be reused, it seems that they are scarce. Only theoretical thinking, no social emotional intelligence, very naive. A lot of age, still old and angry, trapped in ego. Follow the organization, follow the decision makers, follow the policy guidelines.
Unable to enter the mainstream circle in the United States, the social relationship will be simple, because others do not take you to play at all. You sufferIf you want to be squeezed out, then they are of course friendly to you. Except for those who temporarily work in Silicon Valley and Manhattan, everyone else must return home as soon as possible! Without the Chinese platform and the Chinese relationship circle, your entire family will not be able to go up in the future.
Man is the greatest miracle of natural and social evolution. Without giving full play to your potential, without access to new platforms and frontiers that are constantly evolving, and without doing something for the industry and society, remorse is inevitable. Always pay attention to the coordination of small personal goals and national big goals so that your system can operate efficiently and sustainably. ■
This article is an original and good article by Kaizhi, taken from Chen Huping ’s good book “Breaking the Label of Growth”
Open Wisdom School (http://www.OpenMindClub.com)