Don’t cry for spilled milk.
Editor’s note: This article is from WeChat public account “Ray Xiansen” (ID: RayZhang1993) , author Ray Xiansen.
2019 is fleeting, and it is time to summarize the year’s gains and losses at the end of the year.
Some time ago, a workplace friend and I communicated about various situations she encountered in advancing her work in the past year, such as mismatched colleagues, unexplained insults and injuries, and being talked by others behind her. Stopping here, instead, all the way up, from a department manager to the person in charge of the entire business section, reporting directly to the company CEO.
Besides the joy, she also shared with me the advice her boss gave her:
“Learning ability determines the speed of progress. Do n’t pay too much attention to other people ’s words and behaviors. Someone is always superior, some people like to regret it, and some people are used to hanging ‘I know it early, I ’ll’ Edge. “
It’s a real word.
I don’t know if you have noticed a phenomenon. Many people often start with “early know” for their frustration and failure:
“I knew I was doing this now, so I should study hard.”
“It would be better if you knew this had happened before.
“I knew you were such a person and should not be with you.”
In short, many people are used to regret and complain, but few people are willing to accept the failure status.
So here comes the problem, Why would anyone rather suffer from regret than fail?
1. All self-comforting regrets It’s all useless in vain
Maybe you often have a group of people around them who are inherently pessimists. Whether they are discussing work, executing a project, or reviewing afterwards, what they often say is:
“You can never do this.”
“I knew this so long ago, I shouldn’t take this job.”
“When I listened to me in the first place, what will happen now?”
Every time you speak, you must be as sad and sad as Xiang Lin’s. Repeating a few seemingly correct and useless nonsense, after all, is just a self-consolation regret.
This year I met a lot of friends in Wuhan who have been working abroad for a few years and returned to Wuhan. One of the words they heard the most was:
“Wuhan’s house prices are so expensive now, you shouldn’t have gone abroad.”
“This year’s market is really difficult. How good it was to sell land in the first place.”
“If you do n’t go out and toss, you have a house in Wuhan now.”
Every time I hear these words, I feel funny, but there is no step in life to undo the operation.
So why do people always become pessimists, often even expressing their views with a regretful beginning?
One reason is that pessimism and even regretful beginnings can alleviate the blow of frustrated reality to yourself.
Frustrated people, seeing everything in the world is the result of frustration.
So when they live and work with this attitude, once tragedy and doom really happen, because in the expectation, they will feel less painful to hit and lose.
Psychologists call this phenomenon “defensive” pessimism. Although pessimism psychologically feels that it can alleviate pain, it also produces a habitual regret mentality, which frequently makes itself and others Fall into a kind of inexplicable negative mentality, and end up in a tragedy self-presupposition.
It is not difficult to understand why there are always people who do nothing, but often find themselves for various reasons to excuse and regret.
In the end, self-consolation explanations are too much, and even they are persuaded.Already.
It is the easiest way for many people to give yourself a chance to release yourself and give yourself a chance to step down in the face of a frustrated life.
Don’t forget, it’s a habit to go down, and it’s much harder to go up.
2, Failure costs millions, But the cost of regret is higher
2019 is a year full of variables. The whole world is full of uncertainty. From the cold of capital to the economic slowdown, from the classification of consumption to the issue of trade, and the nearest workplace has never been peaceful. Calm down,
With the economic downturn, the wave of layoffs that began last year has spread to the entire workplace in 2019.
Employment reductions, efficiency gains, middle-aged unemployment, slash sideline work, overtime work, and 996 are blessings. They have become a trend indicator of public opinion throughout the year. We all know the common pain points.
But time and the pace of life do not stop because the individual falls.
So the person who should run forward has been on the road, and the person who has lamented life has been lamenting.
The biggest cost of the former failure is to fall and then climb up.
The cost of the latter is a loss of time and confidence.
I met a professional friend at the beginning of the year. He and I returned to Wuhan to work from Shenzhen, but I did n’t settle down in Wuhan. I was still in Cao Yingxin and Han. By the end of the year, he has n’t jumped yet. Recently, I saw that he was talking in the circle of friends:
“I do n’t want to change jobs, I do n’t have a good doorway, I do n’t want to do business in the real economy, I want to be a boss, I do n’t have capital, and I do n’t want the ability to be promoted.”
In short, I want to do everything, but I do nothing, which wastes time and energy.
There is a concept of “sinking costs” in economics:
Sinking costs, that is, the costs and expenses that have been incurred, are also known as established costs.
Some people know that this job is not suitable for them, but they are reluctant to pay for it in the first place. As a result, they complain about not being buried by valued talents, while wasting their time and staying in place in an inappropriate environment.
The cost always looks forward, just remember this sentence.
And sunk costs, also called historical costs, look backwards.
The decisions in our lives are actually looking forward, but most of the time we don’t expect to do this.
It is the most lucid performance for a person to stop loss immediately and to be clear-headed and not emotional.
If you can’t do this, you should always pay a high cost for your regretful behavior.
Don’t cry for the spilled milk or regret the frustration of the moment. Being able to keep your losses to a minimum from this moment is another success.
3, Unwillingness to face failure, Because I don’t understand the meaning of failure
In 1994, Jim Collins and his “Everlasting Foundation” were born. This book was regarded as a god by countless entrepreneurs, managers, and entrepreneurs, and even a must-see for managers of Microsoft Books are all the rage.
In the book Evergreen, Collins
2019 is a year full of variables. The whole world is full of uncertainty. From the cold of capital to the economic slowdown, from the classification of consumption to the issue of trade, and the nearest workplace has never been peaceful. Calm down,
With the economic downturn, the wave of layoffs that began last year has spread to the entire workplace in 2019.
Employment reductions, efficiency gains, middle-aged unemployment, slash sideline work, overtime work, and 996 are blessings. They have become a trend indicator of public opinion throughout the year. We all know the common pain points.
But time and the pace of life do not stop because the individual falls.
So the person who should run forward has been on the road, and the person who has lamented life has been lamenting.
The biggest cost of the former failure is to fall and then climb up.
The cost of the latter is a loss of time and confidence.
I met a professional friend at the beginning of the year. He and I returned to Wuhan to work from Shenzhen, but I did n’t settle down in Wuhan. I was still in Cao Yingxin and Han. By the end of the year, he has n’t jumped yet. Recently, I saw that he was talking in the circle of friends:
“I do n’t want to change jobs, I do n’t have a good doorway, I do n’t want to do business in the real economy, I want to be a boss, I do n’t have capital, and I do n’t want the ability to be promoted.”
In short, I want to do everything, but I do nothing, which wastes time and energy.
There is a concept of “sinking costs” in economics:
Sinking costs, that is, the costs and expenses that have been incurred, are also known as established costs.
Some people know that this job is not suitable for them, but they are reluctant to pay for it in the first place. As a result, they complain about not being buried by valued talents, while wasting their time and staying in place in an inappropriate environment.
The cost always looks forward, just remember this sentence.
And sunk costs, also called historical costs, look backwards.
The decisions in our lives are actually looking forward, but most of the time we don’t expect to do this.
It is the most lucid performance for a person to stop loss immediately and to be clear-headed and not emotional.
If you can’t do this, you should always pay a high cost for your regretful behavior.
Don’t cry for the spilled milk or regret the frustration of the moment. Being able to keep your losses to a minimum from this moment is another success.