This article is from the public number: Yu Sheng thought (ID: yurii-says) , author: Yu Sheng
Child psychologists say young children have a longing for death after three years of ageWith awareness, you can start talking about death. Thinking that my son had seen dead fish and died outside for more than two years, there was no abnormality. After three years old, I decided to give it a try.
It was a sunny afternoon, and I was lying lazily side by side with him, while basking in the warm sunshine of the winter, while accompany him to think about what he would do when he grew up: to play the piano, to play a lot of good music ; To be able to cook, make many, many delicious dishes; To be able to drive, to drive with parents, grandparents, grandparents, and grandparents; To be able to read, read many, many interesting books …
I said: Great, if you can do it, you will be very happy and happy until you get old. So, we started to imagine what he would look like when he was old.
Until I added it calmly: When you get old, Dad won’t be able to accompany you. Dad was dead at that time.
The next ten seconds, I saw an expression that I would never forget in my life: From longing, to blankness, to panic, to panic … Then his crying and tears burst out: do n’t, I Do n’t die, I do n’t want to grow old, I do n’t want to grow up …
I admit that I was really unprepared and did not expect his reaction to be so dramatic. It took me a long time to convince him that I would accompany him for a long, long time. This time was so long that he couldn’t even imagine it now, just like the money tree painted by the magic pen Ma Liang, it never grows.
Finally, he was quiet.
But, he woke up from his sleep that night, and a terrible cry: Dad, what should I do if you die? Then no one took me to read, and no one was in my car.
I said: You will recognize many, many words by yourself. One day, you will never need someone else to take you to read, you can read a book by yourself. You will also be a dad in the future, and you will have your own children. You also need to reserve your own seat.
He calmed down for 5 seconds, seemed to have longed for it, and suddenly wept again: No, I will keep your seat for you all the time. When you die, the seat will be empty, and no one will ever sit.
For the next half hour, we tried hard to calm him down. In the end, there was still a way for the mother, pointing out the window and saying: Look at the stars in the sky, and when Dad died, he went to the sky and became a star. If we could see him when we missed him, he would also look at us.
Then we can only watch, can’t we talk? Can’tCan’t we read characters together while playing cars together?
Yes, but Dad will always watch you play cars and watch you read characters. You know, no matter if Dad stays with you or not, Dad will always love you, do you know?
I saw his teardrops flashing silver in the moonlight, and I saw him nod slightly.
Yesterday was February 6, 2020. In the evening, I was in a very heavy mood. I took a bed and rested in the morning.
He came over: Dad, why don’t you accompany me to read characters and play cars?
I said: Dad is very sad today because an uncle got sick and died far away. Although Dad doesn’t know him, Dad knows he is a very nice person.
Seeing that he seemed to understand, I continued: When you grow up, no matter what country you live in, what country you speak, and whatever you do, Dad wants you to be a good person. Always learn, always do the right thing, and always help others. can you do it?
“Yes!” He answered so bluntly, that it didn’t even feel serious, so I decided to ask a logically complicated question:
Okay, then tell me now, if you run into a problem and do n’t tell the truth, is it wrong or right?
He thought about it and told me slightly shyly: “No.”
I laughed, so did he.
This article is from public number: Yu Sheng thought (ID: yurii-says) , author: Yu Sheng