Every major event is calm, I do n’t believe that there is no ancient wise man now.
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Editor’s note: All of us will face sudden dilemmas or challenges in our lives. Such difficult situations will make us exhausted. But facing such problems, we should first restore calmness as soon as possible. Keeping calm in chaos may seem like a personality trait, but it is actually a skill that can be learned and trained. The author’s seven ways in this article can help you calm down when things get tricky. This article is translated from medium, author Niklas Göke, original title Restful Thinking: 7 Lines to Calm Yourself in Tough Situations.
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Last week, my website revenue dropped by 65%. This is a disaster, after all, I have server costs, marketing costs, and full-time partner compensation to pay. Not enough. After the initial shock, I quickly recovered from sedation.
I didn’t give up everything else and devoted all my energy to solving this problem. I took some time to organize my thoughts, which made me find myself quickly. Then I was able to brainstorm, make adjustments, and even make backup plans.
After losing thousands of dollars, my mindset changed from “Oh my god, my house is on fire” to “It’s terrible, but I’m not helpless”-it all happened in one day.
Being calm in chaos may seem like a personality trait, but it is actually a skill.
You can learn this skill, but it takes emotional work. In order to form this unshakable sense of quietness, I have specifically performed what I call “quiet thinking”.
Tranquil thinking means first putting yourself into a more peaceful and capable state.
Don’t succumb to your emotions or turn around in the weird circle of thinking, you must focus on some ideas rather than others, so that you can be faster and moreSolve problems effectively. You need to make sure you stay mentally healthy, and then deal with it from a rational perspective.
In order to achieve this level of calmness and keep your head clear, you need to practice what you can. When things get tricky, there are seven ways you can calm yourself down.
Insomnia: Even if you ca n’t sleep, there is still a way to recover
I have many sleepless nights in my life. Partly because the walls are thin and the sound insulation is poor, and partly because people are noisy, but the main reason is that I am an over thinker, it always takes a long time to fall asleep, and then wake up quickly.
For years, I have been lying in the dark, cursing everything I said above, it will only make me more and more angry and irritable, and I could have taken a few minutes to recover. Sleep is important. You should try to figure out how to get enough sleep continuously, but there are other ways to recover. Lying still is one of them.
Even if you can’t sleep, you can rest. You can close your eyes and concentrate on thinking about a peaceful picture. You can choose not to toss and turn around, don’t take a cell phone, can’t afford to eat or watch TV.
You don’t always guarantee yourself enough sleep, but you can always try to get you as much rest as possible.
Stress: No need to test for its existence
The most meaningful lesson I’ve learned from meditation so far is that sometimes, let it exist, and you don’t need to take any action or even pay attention to it.
Let time pass without action and thought. This is a humble experience, but it also cultivates compassion for you and others. Every minute that flies is telling you that your presence in this world is enough.
We don’t consider this, do we? We always expect that we can serve others, solve problems, and provide value to others. These are important trends. They can bring many benefits to the world. But if we ignore them from time to time, they can put tremendous pressure on us.
Forcing yourself to do nothing is a good way to practice humility and not judge. “I don’t need to deliberately test its existence” is a good reminder when expectations increase.
Helpless: I do n’t need an answer now
I am an entrepreneur and I have three main sources of income. Every week I get angry because one of them has a problem, and sometimes things go wrong. Although the house does collapse sometimes, most of the time it does not. In the end, everything has its end.
Whenever I feel extra stress, I know it’s because I feel helpless. When I first discovered the problem, I didn’t know what to do, and then I panicked because I didn’t know what to do. This second-order anxiety is usually worse than any concerns I may have about dealing with it directly.Cake, so I need to remind myself what was really important to me during this period.
Okay, your car is scratched, but do you need to repair it right away? You have been fired, but you don’t need to find a new job tomorrow. You can’t explain why the website traffic is down, but chances are, you never need to explain. You just end up needing new traffic to make up.
Questions are often more pressing than they really are, especially important ones. Remember not to force yourself too tightly and give yourself some time. You don’t need to know all the answers today. Tell yourself the answers to these questions later, so you will be calmer and more efficient.
Doubt: If this doesn’t work, what else can I do?
It’s hard to say which is worse: if there is no solution, or if you suspect an existing solution. The solution to both situations is to propose alternatives.
Even if you can’t solve the challenge you are currently facing, you can still consider how to solve another challenge that may follow, which provides a sense of relief. Backup and fail-safe are like extra straps on seatbelts: It’s comforting to know that they do exist, whether you need them or not.
You don’t need to develop detailed solutions for various post-apocalyptic scenarios. If your existing plan is unsuccessful, you can consider taking a different approach. In this way, you are standing at a new crossroads, you can start again after you fall to the bottom of the valley, or you can have less time and confusion during the helpless stage.
Fear: Who needs you to help him through the difficulties?
I am human, and most of my goals are driven by selfish motives. However, this does not mean that they are the only motivation, nor does it mean that they are my strongest motivation.
I can’t remember the last time I didn’t help others when I got what I wanted. It’s a wonderful reaction that inspires you to be a better person in the process of getting what you want.
Do you know the famous quote? “If you want $ 1 billion, help 1 billion people.” When you want to help everyone you meet, you don’t have time to fear and blame yourself.
Whenever you are scared, ask yourself who needs your help, who depends on you to continue living or moving forward, and who needs you to be honest with them. Then try that bold idea and take the step you are afraid of.
You can start a business for money and start a business for your family. You can end the relationship yourself, but you can also free one another by breaking up and talking. You write because you have something to say, but you write because someone needs to listen.
Emotional pain: It feels bad, but I don’t have to react now
One of the characteristics of mature people is when others hurt their feelings.They won’t fall off the door. On the contrary, even if they don’t feel well, they will sit still.
You want to get angry, you want to scream, you want revenge, you want to act, these are all acceptable, but you also have the responsibility to stop before the impulse happens. When you wait until you can organize your feelings and evaluate them clearly, often you will find that you don’t need to react to them at all. You can let go of him.
Even if you choose to respond, your response will be clearer, more thoughtful, less harmful to others, and likely to produce a better response from others. Who knows? During this period, the other party may seek compensation.
If you have an angry email to send, wait a day. Don’t leave because of despair. You may be injured at any time, but you rarely need to fight back immediately.
Impersonator syndrome: I love myself
It’s only natural that you spend a lot of time feeling inadequate. Even when we are in a large community, we sometimes feel out of place.
You may think you don’t have enough talent or qualifications to make friends with the professionals who are with you. You may want to create, share, and be recognized for it, but you think, “Who am I?” Sometimes, the impersonator syndrome is as simple and annoying as a flash of lightning, “I do n’t deserve the kindness, Generosity and love. “
Usually, there is no rational rebuttal to these feelings, because they were not based on reality in the first place. You are certainly good enough. Maybe now you don’t see your excellence, it doesn’t matter. Anyway, I hope you can tell yourself “I love myself”.
You don’t even need to believe it. At least not now. The impersonator syndrome is a vain suspicion. But no matter how strong your doubts are, it’s hard not to smile when you tell yourself that you love yourself.
Courage your courage, and you will find that the smile is real, and you are real too.
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