Most of the time, as long as there is no “win”, you may feel that your life is unfair. Perspectives, new trends.
Editor’s note: In life, we may all have our own rules of life. In the book “12 RULES FOR LIFE” by the famous psychologist Jordan B. Peterson, Peterson proposed “recognizing reality and opposing prejudice” and “telling the truth” Wait for the laws of life. The original title of this article was 7 Uncomfortable Rules of Life Everyone Knows, But Only a Few Follow. The author Thomas Oppong shared with you 7 difficult life rules that everyone knows but few people can follow. I hope to inspire you.
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The law of life is an extremely complex subject, and different people are following different rules of life.
However, for high-performance people, they also guide their daily behaviors and habits according to some core rules. Perhaps, for them, they can adapt very well to these rules of life. But for you, these rules may also be extremely painful.
To really understand and understand these rules, you may even pay a price. Alternatively, you can also try to take the initiative to understand which life rules those life winners follow.
For most people, they never try to learn and know themselves. They will always do the same thing over and over again, and even make the same mistakes, or even just meditate in their hearts, hoping to have different results next time. But this approach, in Einstein’s eyes, is completely stupid.
1. Life is a competition, but there is no one way to “win”
Perhaps, you may find it difficult to accept this statement. But in fact, this is true. In this competition of life, we are all contestants, and we all want to achieve a great victory in this complicated competition for fame and profit.
As long as they are independent individuals, there is competition between them. This is an unquestionable fact. We are all competing for the same goals in life: money, status, honor, the next great deed, and so on.
What do you do?
Some people can write code to create products that can replace manual work. Do you also want to have such a high paid job? Many people may have this idea.
The founder, writer, pianist, artist, and programming enthusiast of Silktide, a web design optimization website, said: Oliver Emberton:
People will win the competition by dressing up. They will win jobs by attending interviews. If you deny the existence of competition, then you have lost. As long as there is demand, there are competitive factors. And the best things may only belong to those who are really willing to fight for them.
In fact, you should compete with yourself to be a better self. Competing with yourself is not an unhealthy way of competing, and in the process, in order to win this competition, no one will fail.
So it ’s best to set yourself a high standard. Mobilize your competitive momentum and make yourself work to meet these standards and expectations. In short, if you want to make yourself successful, then in your own car, you have to be a qualified and driven driver.
In modern civilization, a gospel for humankind is that we still have a lot of opportunities in the face of negative factors such as disappointment, failure, difficulty and frustration. As long as you are ready to meet these difficulties, you still have a chance to achieve your goals and expectations.
2. As many people as you can influence, your return will be great
In your life, what you think and think is actually irrelevant. Basically, your return depends on what you do. The way the world judges you is not by your thoughts, but by your actions and the risks behind it.
If you have written a book, but you just set it aside, or if you fail to publish it, no one will notice you. However, if you have the ability to get it published, it won’t be long before someone wants to know your story.
For cancer researchers, they definitely pay less than supermodels. For salespeople, their return depends on the number of people who can eventually become their customers.
If you are a freelancer, your income depends on the number of clients and workload. If you are doing online business, the more traffic your site has, the better the results will naturally be.
If you can attract moreAttention, get more subscribers, then venture capitalists will naturally start paying attention to your startup projects.
In short, life is a game of numbers.
3. Life winners have mastered multiple skills
Life is also a process of continuously improving various skills. The skills you learn today can be used not only tomorrow, but also in the second half of life.
However, achieving your skills today may not allow you to achieve the goals you expect tomorrow. Therefore, instead of having only one skill, you should learn to master a range of skills.
Learn new skills, especially those that are less relevant, and then combine them with other learned skills to make yourself more efficient or valuable.
Tim Herrera, senior editor of The New York Times, wrote:
Instead of making yourself a specialist, developing and developing your skills in a specific field, you should try to master a series of related skills, and integrate them into a more widely applicable skill pack , Let you not only continue to take advantage of special skills in specific areas, but also face life with more confidence through other skills.
Single-skilled people abound; but compound-skilled people are few.
If you want to increase your personal value, you might as well take a step back, without having to develop your core strengths further vertically. Instead, you can think about expanding other skills horizontally.
Spend a little time every day, let yourself be invested in the learning of new skills, let these new skills inspire you more interest, make more meaningful attempts, so as to bring more returns to the second half of life .
4. Life is a long game. Your strategy (decisions and choices) determines how long you can persist.
In the game of life, all members will probably “retire” after spending 29,000 days and nights or after the age of 80.
Your daily choice will directly affect your end position, and it will also directly affect whether you are happy, healthy, content, or extremely distressed. At all stages of this life game, if you apply the right rules of life, you may be able to hold on at least longer.
Thus, life strategy becomes more important. After all, when we really understand life, perhaps we have missed the most exciting part.
However, as long as you apply these rules of life to this life, it is never too late.
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5. If you want happiness, you must take responsibility for your own experience
“Happiness is a personal matter. Don’t let anyone else interfere with your life too much,” said New York Times bestselling author Mandy Hale.
If you place hope on others to make you happy, you may always be disappointed. Responsibility for yourself can be understood as that if you are unhappy, don’t blame others.
In terms of happiness, the most important fact is that your own happiness depends more on your attitude than on objective or external factors and circumstances.
So do n’t expect to get happiness from others, a job, or other external factors. You should consider external factors such as relationships and your work as a way to achieve happiness. The most important thing is to focus on how you can get more happiness.
In addition to yourself, there are many things and factors in this world that can make you better. It’s just that they are not the way to get you happiness.
6. Don’t wait for others to help you enjoy your life
We all want to enjoy life, and we also want to enjoy it in all aspects of life. However, don’t just sit back and enjoy it. Don’t expect a perfect life to fall from the sky.
When you find the joy of life, even if it is a little fun, you should enjoy it. The simplest things are often the most extraordinary things. They can sometimes make your life easier.
Enjoying life is not to say that you have lived a vacation-like life ever since. There must be more meaning in life than in those moments of brief silence or when dopamine is released.
In fact, there are many moments in your life that you may not pay attention to. They may be things that are really worth your pursuit and can bring you joy.
In short, true happiness is to actively embrace the little luck in life.
There is a maxim saying that the way we spend each day is the way we spend our lives. The habit of finding even small pleasures from small things can have a remarkable impact on life.
Famous author and editor Brian KronesKrans) once wrote a thought-provoking statement that encourages people to plan their personal time, relationships, and things we care about:
Are you happy? Have you ever been happy? Did you do anything important today? Did you want to exist in this world before, or did you live well? How did you grow?
Wherever you go, you should act on the occasion and strive to be an influential person. Don’t do meaningless things. Forget what you did and remember the characters in the event.
Don’t pretend to care about others. Listen carefully to others. You can’t do everything well, but at least you should try to do them well.
7. Life is not a sprint or a marathon, but a maze
Don’t treat life as a sprint. Don’t think that you can quickly cross the established finish line through a short period of effort.
You should appreciate and cherish this process slowly, and then move forward slowly from the bottom up.
The real life has no signs and no straight lines. It has countless options. Among them, there are some options, such as some personal careers, which may be longer. There are also some choice paths, such as some interpersonal relationships, may be a dead end.
The maze is full of choices, challenges, and questions, and it is also affected by various external factors.
Like the labyrinth, we should expect to get lost and turn back.
In fact, everyone may have this experience. However, after turning back, you can find the right way again, which is the key to distinguishing life winners from others.
To improve the quality of your life, you have only two options: first, when you have the ability, you must keep going forward; second, take a step back and reconsider other options.
The biggest mistake many people make is spinning around for a long time. They are stuck in it, refusing to think proactively, but they will not give up on it.
But in fact, when you are really in trouble, you must have a way out of it. But the point is that many people don’t think about how to go out.
Translator: Junyi