I do not know when, “fast” has become the credo of contemporary life.
Editor’s note: “knowledge management” article from the micro-channel public number (ID: Guanlidechangshi) , Author: Thomas M. Steiner.
I don’t know when “fast” has become the credo of contemporary people’s life. It seems that only by doing things fast is the manifestation of ability, but if you slow down one step, the whole process loses “value”.
Therefore, we are annoyed at hearing a few words, pick up a book, turn a few pages and set aside; keep urging ourselves to absorb new knowledge, and as a result do n’t remember anything; rush everything , The more hurry the more mistakes …
Everyone seems to be chased by something, and desperately runs forward, asking themselves to be fast and others to be faster. Behind this is on the one hand the so-called “save time” and on the other hand the “patience” and focus we are losing.
Where did patience go? How can we cultivate patience and improve concentration? Following, Enjoy:
01 2 steps to cultivate patience
You will definitely notice that when we have patience with something, life looks good and is not linked to anxiety. But when you find yourself impatient with something, the experience must be quite different.
Experience impatience is one of the earliest signs that your thoughts are not at the moment, not above what you are doing, and not being process-oriented.
We always withdraw from the “now” and let our thoughts lead us from a totally irrelevant discussion to another. It reminds me that I will have a difficult interview with someone tomorrow, thinking about how smart I should fight back when someone irritated me yesterday, and so on.
This kind of continuous inner monologue and chat will come with a sense of urgency and impatience, and my thoughts will float randomly, but it will not gather in what we were doing at the time.
If you force your thoughts to stay at this moment and stay in the process of doing things, I guarantee that many of your problems will disappear.
1. The first step to patience-realize when your inner monologue begins to run wild and drag you all the way.
You have to step back and think about the real you, the “observer” who is watching quietly while this scene is being performed.
As you practice keeping your mind at this moment, you will become more aware of the difference between the real you and your inner monologue. It automatically keeps thoughts in the present and in the process of doing things for you.
2.The second step in patience is to understand and accept the reality that no matter what, nothing will be perfect.
Follow some of the things you think you need to do to create a perfect life, and think about it in your head.
Maybe you want more money, maybe you think it will make you happy. That is the biggest lie that human beings have been caught in for a long time.
For everyone, to what extent does he have to be rich to have enough money? The richest people in the world just want to get richer and worry about losing everything they have now. There is absolutely no peace in this way of thinking.
The feeling that “something will happen and I will be happy” can not bring you anything but dissatisfaction.
Life is endless and endless. The problem is that our daily experience deviates us from this perspective:
Ads keep bombarding us, and they are all promising that when we buy certain products, we can have a sense of accomplishment, but this is not the case.
We need to let go of this futile idea that happiness is somewhere.
02 The 4 “S” method of training patience
The so-called 4 “S” method refers to the four English letters that begin with “S”. They are:
simplify
Small (small)
short
slow (slow)
1. Simplify
When you are working on a particular project, break it down into components to make it easier.
Do not set goals that are too far away to reach. Unrealistic goals can lead to frustration and defeat, and you will doubt your ability and feel mentally exhausted.
Successfully reaching every simple goal will give you a strong motivation.
2. Segmentation
After you know your overall goal, remember to use it as a distant beacon so that you can stay on the right course.
But break down your overall goals into smaller pieces so you can achieve them with the right amount of focus.
You will find that focusing on segmented goals is easier than focusing on overall tasks, and allows you to experience the taste of success over and over again.
As with other methods, segmentation applies not only to special efforts, but to ordinary daily life.
When facing a fitness plan, you can use the subdivision method. At the same time, you can also use the subdivision method for tasks such as cleaning the room.
Most people may think that cleaning a room is a task worth delaying as a whole. But when you finish this task, please come back and come backExamine how you feel about this task.
You will find that you often observe the effort that must be made in this task from the perspective of the whole task. This perspective will bring you a lot of subjective judgments and negative emotions:
“I have too many things to do. Should I continue doing this or should I give up? Do I still need to do that?
The whole room is a mess, it takes a lot of time and energy to clean up, and after I’ve been busy for a week, I have to make many decisions that I don’t like. I just want to relax. “
All these inner monologues have nothing to do with cleaning the room, but they make you feel exhausted.
When you break it down into smaller parts, you greatly simplify your work tasks, such as:
“I’m going to clean up from this corner first, and just wipe the windows. That’s all. I don’t worry about other places. Now I just pay attention to this corner and clean up this corner.”
Now, there is a smaller task in front of you that does not give you the irresistible mentality of cleaning the entire room.
3. Shorten
Now you can reduce the time of tasks, such as:
“I will spend 20 minutes a day cleaning the room for the next few days until I clean it up completely.”
Whatever you do, just 20 minutes is always tolerable. In 20 minutes, you must clean only one corner of the room, so that day, you can clear this corner.
You hold your watch to calculate the time. As soon as 20 minutes arrive, you will let go of your work. As a result, you will feel a sense of control and be satisfied that you are one step closer to the goal of cleaning the room.
You will not feel frustrated at this time. You have simplified the task by breaking it down into smaller steps and keeping yourself focused for a short period of time.
4. slow down
Slow down here means to calm yourself and pay attention to what you are doing.
This peace will vary depending on your personality and the tasks you want to accomplish.
The paradox of slowing down is that, instead of wasting your energy, you will find that you can complete tasks faster and easier than usual.
Another interesting aspect is that it changes your perception of the speed of time. Since all your energy is devoted to what you are doing, you lose the feeling of time passing.
You may find that these four elements are all part of the same process. Each element requires and creates another element.
I use an exercise to try to start my day with this mentality-brushing my teeth slowly.
ListenIt’s not a big deal, but when you try to slow down every time you brush your teeth, you will find it difficult to do so.
We do it automatically on too many things. What we didn’t realize was that we didn’t stay focused on these activities simply because they were too automatic and we didn’t need to think much.
Slowing the speed of brushing your teeth requires you to increase your attention and force yourself to focus on the current moment. It is something we must do several times a day, which helps us to make this slow mindset Kind of habit.
03 Summary
When you work on these methods, they look a bit difficult at first. That’s just because you’ve developed a habit of not working this way long ago, and our culture doesn’t encourage it.
When you start down this path and start incorporating this perspective into your own way of thinking, you will give up everything our culture has been teaching you.
Remember, you can apply these simple rules to every aspect of your life. As you start to improve in this area, your inner observer will become more and more obvious.
You will begin to observe how you live your daily life, and you will become more and more aware of when you are living at this moment and focus on the process of doing things, and when it is the opposite.
However, this does not mean that you can control yourself at all times.
The seductive mentality stems from your slipping into a “perfect” mentality, which is saying to you, “I can achieve my goals only when I can do this all the time.”
Accept the fact that this is a life-long effort, no matter what stage of growth and progress you are currently in, at every moment, you are perfect.
The so-called 4 “S” method refers to the four English letters that begin with “S”. They are:
simplify
Small (small)
short
slow (slow)
1. Simplify
When you are working on a particular project, break it down into components to make it easier.
Do not set goals that are too far away to reach. Unrealistic goals can lead to frustration and defeat, and you will doubt your ability and feel mentally exhausted.
Successfully reaching every simple goal will give you a strong motivation.
2. Segmentation
After you know your overall goal, remember to use it as a distant beacon so that you can stay on the right course.
But break down your overall goals into smaller pieces so you can achieve them with the right amount of focus.
You will find that focusing on segmented goals is easier than focusing on overall tasks, and allows you to experience the taste of success over and over again.
As with other methods, segmentation applies not only to special efforts, but to ordinary daily life.
When facing a fitness plan, you can use the subdivision method. At the same time, you can also use the subdivision method for tasks such as cleaning the room.
Most people may think that cleaning a room is a task worth delaying as a whole. But when you finish this task, please come back and come backExamine how you feel about this task.
You will find that you often observe the effort that must be made in this task from the perspective of the whole task. This perspective will bring you a lot of subjective judgments and negative emotions:
“I have too many things to do. Should I continue doing this or should I give up? Do I still need to do that?
The whole room is a mess, it takes a lot of time and energy to clean up, and after I’ve been busy for a week, I have to make many decisions that I don’t like. I just want to relax. “
All these inner monologues have nothing to do with cleaning the room, but they make you feel exhausted.
When you break it down into smaller parts, you greatly simplify your work tasks, such as:
“I’m going to clean up from this corner first, and just wipe the windows. That’s all. I don’t worry about other places. Now I just pay attention to this corner and clean up this corner.”
Now, there is a smaller task in front of you that does not give you the irresistible mentality of cleaning the entire room.
3. Shorten
Now you can reduce the time of tasks, such as:
“I will spend 20 minutes a day cleaning the room for the next few days until I clean it up completely.”
Whatever you do, just 20 minutes is always tolerable. In 20 minutes, you must clean only one corner of the room, so that day, you can clear this corner.
You hold your watch to calculate the time. As soon as 20 minutes arrive, you will let go of your work. As a result, you will feel a sense of control and be satisfied that you are one step closer to the goal of cleaning the room.
You will not feel frustrated at this time. You have simplified the task by breaking it down into smaller steps and keeping yourself focused for a short period of time.
4. slow down
Slow down here means to calm yourself and pay attention to what you are doing.
This peace will vary depending on your personality and the tasks you want to accomplish.
The paradox of slowing down is that, instead of wasting your energy, you will find that you can complete tasks faster and easier than usual.
Another interesting aspect is that it changes your perception of the speed of time. Since all your energy is devoted to what you are doing, you lose the feeling of time passing.
You may find that these four elements are all part of the same process. Each element requires and creates another element.
I use an exercise to try to start my day with this mentality-brushing my teeth slowly.
ListenIt’s not a big deal, but when you try to slow down every time you brush your teeth, you will find it difficult to do so.
We do it automatically on too many things. What we didn’t realize was that we didn’t stay focused on these activities simply because they were too automatic and we didn’t need to think much.
Slowing the speed of brushing your teeth requires you to increase your attention and force yourself to focus on the current moment. It is something we must do several times a day, which helps us to make this slow mindset Kind of habit.