The article is from WeChat public account: Seeing Ideal (ID: ikanlixiang) , author: Yang Rui, Lin Lan, from the title figure: the movie” 82 years of Kim Ji-young “
So far, the N-room incident in South Korea has not only caused huge shocks from all walks of life in the early days, but over time, the sound of various discussions about the N-room incident has never subsided.
260,000 people pay to watch videos of women’s sexual violence, many of which involve underages, as well as extreme abuses such as sexual assault and abuse. Behind the video, the producers and managers used intimidation, threats, and abuse to coerce these women to shoot.
Fortunately, all parties are still pursuing the details, and the public opinion not only requires severe punishment of video producers, but also publicity of those invisible perpetrators-viewers of 260,000 videos.
The horror of this incident is that the horrific acts of violence that originally thought that only a very small number of “mentally unhealthy” or “unsound personality” personnel would have occurred in so many “normal People “.
These viewers may include the driver of one of your taxis, the colleague sitting next to you, and the star you really chased. It’s not just the sheer number of perpetrators that is appalling, it’s the disappearance of the “normal” and “perverted””Between the mountains.
Photo of one of the N-host plots
The perpetrators seem to be quickly integrated into social groups in the form of ordinary people, leaving women unable to discern who will be the next person to hurt themselves.
If people are either born or demons, what exactly makes so many “ordinary people” become perpetrators?
The awareness of power that accompanies the system of humility
In this incident, the most tragic thing is that many of the victims were underage women, the smallest being even 11-year-old girls. In one of the principal criminals, “Dr. Zhao’s” Doctor’s Room “, he asked the victim to carve the word” slave “on his body as his exclusive mark. This is undoubtedly an extreme gender bullying behavior that objectifies women and imposes class oppression.
Ironically, Korea is the country where “Su Yuan” and “The Furnace” were filmed. Under the warning of these popular arts, there are still hidden such desolate sexual crimes, which shows how deeply rooted ills of patriarchy and misogynism.
If you know a little about South Korea, you may know that Koreans are a nation that values seniority. Under normal circumstances, only people born in the same year or classmates and staff of the same year can call each other “friends” and talk in non-honourable language.
The same is true in family relationships. For example, many Korean children speak honorifics to their parents, and some wives also respect their husbands. If there is a pair of Koreans who are very different in age, they do not use honorifics, it means that their relationship is very close.
Although different people have different sensitivities on the use of honorifics, honorifics are still the basic etiquette of Korean society and the basis of power level awareness. When such a system of hierarchical respect and humility superimposes the patriarchal system,The oppressive effect of Chinese women can be imagined.
In addition, South Korea also has a relatively special social background, that is, a compulsory military service system for men. Without special circumstances, all South Korean men must serve for two years between the ages of 20 and 30. This has caused the Korean population, especially men, to be very sensitive to “military privileges.”
So on the gender issues that often occur in South Korea, a typical view of men protecting themselves is: “You women do n’t have to perform military service. What ’s wrong with this?”
The military service system and the consequent social concepts have, to a certain extent, strengthened the privileged position of men and continued to maintain the gender order in a patriarchal society.
The subjective identity of women under the patriarchal system is amplified in the hierarchy and inferiority system. All onlooking, silent men have effectively participated in this violence.
As the example and point of view of Liang Wendao’s book “A Kind of Harm, In the Name of Love” in “Eight Points”: Men’s domestic violence against women is so common, not because all the Men must have been abused or mentally disturbed since childhood, but because of their family and social circumstances, men often do not treat women as independent individuals, so they have a strong desire to control and possess women.
It is precisely the patriarchal society and the gender ideology that exists like air that have given birth to this kind of psychology—manliness. .
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Are men really the beneficiaries of “manliness”?
What is masculinity?Why is it related to gender violence? Before talking specifically about what this macho means, here is a little science popularization.
Connell, a famous sociologist, has suggested that there are multiple masculinities in different cultural and historical periods, but in a society in a specific period, there will be a dominant masculinity. (Hegemonic masculinity) is generally considered to be superior to other masculinities, and it has also become a standard for assessing other masculinities and femininities.
This dominant masculinity is the product of the current political, economic, and cultural structure of society, so it also serves to maintain and strengthen this structure.
For capital to develop, it needs to stimulate desire, and it needs to emphasize competition and expansion. Of course, there must be control and plunder of resources inherited from the same vein as colonialism.
The dominant values generated under any system must maintain and strengthen the system. In a capital society, in order to rationalize the structure of inequality, competition, expansion, control, and possession have been shaped into “beneficial” and “effective” behaviors and qualities, and even naturalized as the first “nature” of man.
Therefore, the demand for men under the social structure of capital and patriarchy is the dominant masculinity of the current society. And these qualities need to maintain the dominance and superiority of men over women, as well as the needs of capital development and expansion.
It sounds like masculinity is complicated, but we are all very familiar with it, such as the “domineering president” type setting that is everywhere in pop culture.
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You must know what a domineering president is, right? It not only requires menSex:
Economically and socially superior to women-even if you can’t buy the Paris Tower for courtship like Taoist Temple, you still need to be able to afford enough lipstick and bags for female partners.
IQ and abilities superiority to women-no matter how successful and excellent a woman is, IQ must be halved in the face of a domineering president.
I also agree that when men show this superiority, they can freely show:
I like you, so I want to declare to the world that I like you.
I like you, so you can’t like others.
I like you, that’s why I kiss, niches, follow, and even harass you.
Maybe when watching TV, with the star’s face and the marginal plot, everything doesn’t look very bad. But If you remove the filter and come to each of the fine articles, you will find that it all reveals the desire to possess and control women by focusing on the male self.
But before we criticize masculinity’s exploitation of women, let us first take a look. Are men really the actual beneficiaries of masculinity?
In addition to being physically strong, with outstanding work and financial ability, and being able to control themselves and others, society also requires men to be emotionally strong and not to show vulnerability.
But the whole society has almost zero tolerance for men to express their fragility. Even for a 2-year-old boy, parents will say “boys cannot cry!” Men cannot cry, nor can they complain like “wife”. Therefore, when men cannot control and possess women, frustration can often only be expressed through violent emotions and behaviors.
“Toxic masculinity” (toxic masculinity) concept first appeared in the 1980s and 1990s in the United States, and was widely used by scholars Gender studies. Of course, not all masculinity is harmful. The New York Times classifies “toxic masculinity” as the following three male disciplines:
1. Suppressing fragile emotions
2. Maintain a tough personality appearance
3. Violence as a manifestation of power
The reason for adding “toxic” is because it is these solid masculinities that erode the basic human rights of individuals. Individuals poisoned by this gas are gender-neutral.
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“Even sensitive points are fine”
After putting on a series of behavioral shackles on women, men can’t stand on their own. What a woman should do, and what a man can’t do, is an equation that loses both.
For her and for herself
Maybe you ask, shouldn’t manhood serve men’s self-esteem, power, and status? Why is it as bad as poison?
The underlying reasons are worthy of careful discussion, but the easiest layer to understand is that while manliness requires men to succeed on their own, it deprives them of their right to express fragility, to turn to others, or even their ability to turn to others.
In other words, Manliness is also a yoke of gender value given to men in a patriarchal society.
No matter how much people want to be strong and independent, we cannot not need or even rely on the help of others at some point. When people feel scared and sad, it ’s a normal response to seek help and comfort from others, but the road to outward help is blocked, and all kinds of negative emotions can only keep accumulating and fermenting in the heart. Just imagine.
Let’s directly list some evidence of psychological research in European and American society:
A man who thinks that men should not cry, should be strong and good at fightingPeople are 2.4 times more likely to die of suicide than men who don’t believe in such manliness.
A meta-analysis based on 78 studies containing nearly 20,000 participants. (meta-analysis) states that it is more respected and practiced. Manly men are worse off mentally, and they are less likely to seek help when needed.
Men who admire and practise masculinity have more harmful health habits, including more alcoholism, smoking, less exercise, and less fruits and vegetables.
Among adolescents, boys who value and practice manhood more than their peers have worse relationships with friends, more depressive symptoms, and lower school participation and lower grades.
In recent years, “harmful masculinity” has attracted more and more attention and criticism from European and American countries. In China, the term “straight male cancer” is often used to summarize or describe many of the values and behaviors mentioned above.
But masculinity does not look like cancer, because cancer itself is inheritable but not contagious. The masculinity in real life is like a virus. It can’t be seen or touched, and it spreads through people’s communication and contact.
So, preventing and changing this toxic manhood can’t just be aimed at those who are “ill-illed.” Everyone in the society has the responsibility and obligation to prevent the spread of this poison.
So, whether you are a man or a woman, if you want to be healthy and longevity, please allow and accept that when you are fragile, you should be used to telling others your troubles and pain, but also understand the need and dependence on others Very healthy things.
Whether you are a man or a woman, please give more support and tolerance to those who ask for your help. Don’t set fragile quotas according to gender, and don’t regret your empathy because of your gender.
In any chain of contempt, no matter how high you stand and how much you get, you, like everyone else, pay the price of observing this order all the time.
So each of us is the victim of this unequal gender order, and to change it also requires the efforts of each of us.