This article comes from the WeChat public account: Simple mentality (ID: janelee1231) author: lakes and pools, original title “ ” Perfect Victim “in a sexual assault case: Why do n’t you laugh, why are you crying? 》, The picture is from IC photo

The “senior sexual assault case” that recently detonated public opinion must have been heard by everyone.

From the perspective of the reporter “Li Xingxing” (pseudonym) , “Southwind” tells her that she has been sexually assaulted by Bao Yuming since she was 14 years old , Imprisoned, forced to watch “pedophile” video, repeatedly reported unsuccessful, and later committed suicide.

The article writes that in a letter of guarantee addressed to Li Xingxing, Bao called her “my current daughter and future wife.” “Li Xingxing fell into a world with only Bao Mouming.”

But then, a report in Caixin with Bao Yuming as the main source of information caused an uproar. The focus is that it describes the sexual assault case as “ This is more like a story of a girl who has lacked love since she was a child seeking security from her adoptive father “. Bao shouted his grievances: My relationship with Li Xingxing is in love.

Are you familiar?

The suspect is using information that does not shake the criminal fact itself, blurring the focus of the case and cuttingThe credibility of the weak victim creates “victim guilt”.

After reading this report, many netizens said, “Shivering with anger” even triggered their own original psychological trauma.

People who have had similar experiences once relayed their feelings of being sexually assaulted / harassed when they were young. The hot search for #trigger warning on Weibo has been hanging all day. Hundreds of messages are saying:

“When I was a kid, my new uncle would take advantage of the fact that my mother was not in my room at night. I did n’t understand it at first. I talked to my mother a few times. My mother just said that my uncle liked me.”

“I was sexually assaulted by my 17-year-old cousin many times when I was about 7 years old … Do you know what I do after I come here? I went to” close “to my cousin intentionally, and once again Brother had a peculiar attachment, accompanied by some abnormal behaviors, such as deliberately coming into contact with his body, or even drilling his duvet in front of an adult. “

“Yes, I pretend that I have fallen in love with TA. I dare not tell others that no one will help me anyway”


Sexual assault is sexual assault, and it is also a crime to say flowers. This is not a 14-year-old girl falling in love with “Sugar Daddy”, this is Fang Siqi and Li Guohua!

Those who are talking about “waiting for reversal” are all saying “perfect victim”.


The argument about “perfect victims” is everywhere, and they are as “destructive as public opinion” like criminal facts

In 1999, author Alice Sebold published a memoir of sexual assault “They Said I Am Lucky” (Lucky) . She was raped by a stranger on the university campus and finally won the lawsuit. Alice said, This is due to her being considered a “perfect victim” by the police: young white college student, dressed conservatively, attacked by strangers on the road, virgin

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“Lucky” has been published for more than 20 years, but the argument about “the perfect victim myth” (“perfect victim” myth) remains Not broken.

Until now, (such as the Weinstein case) , the defense of the perpetrators in court will always focus on “victims and Not clear “.

1. Blame the TAs for dressing

This accusation believes that the rape was due to the victim ’s failure to check points and dress like a slut (Slut) , being raped is self-inflicted, and the victims themselves are also responsible.

The famous “ Slut Parade (SlutWalk) movement in the history of international affirmative action was originally aimed at a The Canadian police officer’s slut was humiliated by speech.

In 2011, the police officer said in a public speech: “Women should avoid sexual assault, they should not be exposed like sluts.” (Women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.)

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June 4, 2011, Chicago “Slut Parade.” People wear miniskirts, stockings, low-cut bras, and bikinis, holding protest signs and calling for changes in social cognition-no matter what women wear, the condemned should be rapists.

2. In order to make the victim guilty, TA ’s sexual history is often mentioned

The “perfect victim” argument often hopes that TA has no sexual experience, is young, and is a virgin / female .

If an elderly “rape survivor” receives money, it is “fairy jump”. Under such a presupposition, the rapist as a criminal can even trigger sympathy from the public opinion- If the person reporting the crime is a personality worker, do n’t expect any help at all, you have the original sin.

Bill Cosby, the first sexual offender who was sent to the #Metoo sports trial stage, defended himself in court and said:

She (Model Janice Dickinson) Almost every man on the planet has slept-the meaning of the words: Do n’t set yourself up for the chastity arch, you are not the moral beacon of the women ’s movement.

3. Pay too much attention to the behavior of the victim during and after the crime

Unless TA goes all out to fight criminals, TA is “Enjoy this relationship” ;

If TA delays and hesitates before reporting the incident, and even keeps in touch with the perpetrator even after the trauma, then TA must be a liar or a morally flawed person.

We return to the “prone facts” presented in the “Bao Perspective” report:

The victim ’s statement is flawed (such as claiming that he is under 14 years old during the first invasion) ;

Her family is poor and her mother has a disability. She makes food stalls on the side of the road, implying that they are very likely to get “exchange benefits”;

“The volunteers who helped her confirmed that she still had close contacts with Bao after reporting the incident.”

“She reported all the fake cases. According to her, I first raped her on December 31, 2015, right? It was so miserable that it took six months before she reported the case?” < / p>

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Li Xingxing is said to be a person with personality and psychological contradictions, a habit of lying, and even a “vested interest” in wealth and class.


“Why do n’t you cry, you do n’t seem sad enough”

Why is it unethical to say a report that seems to be “giving the other party a chance to speak”? ——It is “ the evil of the way the story is presented “.

These so-called “fact presentations” are what the rape lawyers will do in court-the purpose is to weaken the victim ’s “credibility” (Even if the author has no subjective intention) .

It is easy for a minor to be manipulated. In the case of significant unequal power status, “only by falling in love with each other can she find reasonableness for sexual assault.” Moreover, the sexual assault incident itself will also affect the personality of the victim.

When the narrator of the story falls into a stereotyped description, it will blur the focal fact of “crime”, triggering social alienation and suspicion of the “credibility” of survivors, making it more difficult for them to obtain support, or even It is harder to believe in yourself.

The attitude of “requiring victims to be flawless” not only ignores the fact of sexual violence, but also ignores the obstacles that victims need to experience when they resist and report to the police.

In Japan, Australia, and the world, the perpetrator ’s allegations were dismissed or downgraded, probably because the victim “strongly cried enough” to try to dilute the trauma caused by rape.

Ito Shiori once said in an interview that when he was talking about being raped at the police station, the police asked her: “Why do n’t you cry, you do n’t seem sad enough”:

If men are the victims in a rape case-then the police will ask, why do n’t you resist (obviously physical strength prevails) < / span>, while ignoring the “frozen”