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There are 70 million “sexless people” in the world, and the number of asexual people in China is 13 million.
They are inherently incapable of feeling sexual attraction, and may have sexual desire, but tend to solve it by themselves, and will be happy because of sex, but these pleasures are not related to sexual pleasure.
They are often misunderstood as “sick”, or “you are just not meeting the right person”. The signal of the unspoken in the sexual world, but ineffective in the case of asexuality.
The low-sex society in the eyes of sexual love has arrived: “There is no time to sleep on my own, there is no time to sleep on others.” “Every 4 couples in China have one asexual.” The cost of traditional sexual intercourse is rising, and the new generation of young People may be the generation with the least sex in history … Asexuals, who make up 1% of the population, are once again receiving attention.
We interviewed more than a dozen asexuals distributed throughout the country. They talked about the sex and low-sex society in their eyes-“When sex begins to understand asexuality, this inclusive understanding of the differences between people will eventually benefit everyone.”
Asexual girls in the Japanese drama “I ’ll Live Better Next Life”
”“ You should not be fully developed yet ””
In his early 20s, it should have been the most prosperous age for boys. Yu Hang (pseudonym) never felt sexually impulsive.
When talking at night in a high school dormitory, the boys discussed the good-looking female classmates “can’t stand it anymore”, and turned their heads to tease the roommate “Are you 撸 啦”. From time to time, there is a hodgepodge of meaty pieces and yellow jokes. Yu Hang follows on the surface of the group, but the doubts in his heart are lingering: Why do I seem to have no such urges?
Before that, Yu Hang had never had the concept of masturbation in his mind. The boys talked about AV. He was bored. The beautiful girl in the next class did n’t like it, but he never thought of sex.
He asked his iron buddies, “Am I not normal?” They listened as a joke at first, and were surprised, “Wouldn’t it be true”, and then only comfort Yu Hang, “You should Is not fully developed yet. ”
In order to rule out this possibility, Yu Hang specifically asked about the masturbation operation from his buddy, and found that the physiological organs were responsive, but he could not feel the pleasure, and only felt decompressed. In the process, thinking that a good-looking girl does promote physiological reactions, but he can’t understand why he has the urge to insert the key into the lock, and he finds himself stuck here.
Similarly in high school, the boy Xiaoxin found that he likes the same sex. He wanted to go online to find the same kind, but he was confused again: Why are they so interested in sex?
Chat always leads to sexual topics in a few sentences. They are mixed with sexual swear words and they will open their mouths. Some people will post photos of their naked upper bodies in the circle of friends, but Xiaoxin has never felt this. When watching adult movies, he cares more about whether the protagonist’s face value is online, and he skips as soon as there is a straight-through sex shot. “There is nothing beautiful”.
What makes him even more puzzled is that he does n’t seem to receive sexual cues from others. During the summer vacation after the college entrance examination, he ran out with netizens who had a lot of conversations and booked a hotel next to the school. The other party asked, if he could go to your bath at night, he didn’t feel strange, and the two stayed in the same bed for the night, and they were fine together.The next morning, the other party had deliberately touched his body. Friends later said that this was a straight sexual suggestion, but he didn’t even think about it.
Xiaoxin Life Photos
The puzzle of the 22-year-old girl bamboo is more complicated. She will masturbate, but only when stressed. She would also read Xiao Huangwen, but she would never substitute herself. When she was in high school, she couldn’t understand why girls were so keen to talk about handsome guys. Once a nine-meter-nine boy with a strong body pursued her, she was indifferent.
Bamboo once suspected that she liked girls, and after trying with her girlfriends, she felt that she was still heterosexual, but she only valued her spiritual fit. It wasn’t until she stepped into a relationship with a male friend she had known for many years that she did not confirm that she would have no sexual impulses towards the people she liked.
The boyfriend often gave her explicit pictures, and one day he told Zhu that he dreamed of looking at her white neck from behind, and their bodies were lingering. The bamboo is a bit confusing at the moment, but more strange. She was pretty sure that she would dream about each other, but they were all warm pictures. For example, she was sleeping in the bedroom, and she heard him making breakfast in the kitchen, but she did n’t even have a kiss, let alone his Body.
In order to rule out the low probability of female sexual dreams, she asked girls who met a circle, some people dreamed of kissing someone they like, some people dreamed of physical contact, some people said they should have dreamed but specifically forgot .
The boyfriend ’s sexual dreams are like an early warning. Both of them are very serious about this relationship. They have been talking about marriage for a few months, but before this, Zhu never realized that her lover, One day will enter her body. And now, as soon as she thought of this, she resisted goose bumps. A friend of Bamboo who asked for help in psychology, said that she might be sexually disgusted and recommended her to make a Kinsey sex vector table.
“The doubts over the years have finally been completely solved.” The result showed that the bamboo was asexual.
” Boyfriend learns a bunch of foreplay and backplay, but I only hope he can solve it in three seconds “
“Asexuality is a type of people who do not feel sexually attracted. They may like heterosexual, same-sex, bisexual … or no one likes, but there will be no urge to have sex with others.” The new explanation of domestic asexual science.
As early as more than half a century ago, Dr. Kinsey, the “father of sex”, found that 1.5% of adults “have no sexual relationship or reaction” and regard it as different from homosexuality and opposite sex The categories of love and bisexuality are presented separately.
The latest research from Brooke University in Canada in 2012 shows that about 1% of the world ’s population, or 70 million people, are asexuals.
Screenshot of the documentary “Outside the Love Circle ~ Visiting the Heart of Asexuals”
Asexuality is not a physical disorder. The latest edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders issued by the United States in 2016 clearly states that “those who consider themselves as asexual cannot make a diagnosis of sexual dysfunction.” A 2018 survey of domestic asexual groups released by Southwest University also revealed that more than half of asexuals have masturbated behaviors, and nearly one-fifth of asexuals masturbate more than four times a month.
There is currently no scientific research showing that asexuality stems from the negative experiences of childhood. “Asexuality may or may not have sexual aversion. The key is whether you suppress your sexual urges because of the aversion, or whether you are both averse and do not feel sexual attraction.” Say.
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Xiaoxin is not resistant to sex. When he was in college, he fell in love with a sexual relationship. The night they went to the other city, they had sex. In the process, Xiaoxin has been very sober, he can’t feel the climax of “fireworks in his head” in his friend’s mouth, but he feels tired. In order to satisfy the other party, he must try to imitate the way in the adult movie to respond to the other party, and also calculate how to pretend to be unobtrusive. The only thing that makes him feel enjoyable is the intimacy of hugging each other nakedly after the end, and the sense of accomplishment that pleases the other, but it has nothing to do with sexual pleasure.
Xiaoxin Life Photos
As Xiaoxin said, Asexuality experiences sexual pleasure beyond sexual pleasure. The asexual girl Sunny who studied in the United States was more convinced that she was asexual after she first tasted the forbidden fruit, but she was full of sexual interest in the following months.
What makes her addicted is the joy of seeking knowledge. When she kissed her boyfriend for the first time, she felt that the thing crawling into her mouth was sticky and novel. When she first met with Chicheng, she felt the collision of each other’s bodies, staring at each other’s slightly fainted face, and felt a little cute.
In the following months, they have tasted all kinds of sex tricks. Although Sunny can’t feel the pleasure, she always feels excited. After every sex, she will replay the scene in her mind. “These are things I haven’t experienced. I enjoy sex, and more enjoy the growth of knowledge it brings me.” Sunny said.
Despite this, she and her sexual boyfriend still have to face the reality of disparity in their sexual desires.
The boyfriend is a tall American, who will let her take a selfie with her chest to admire him, and will bluntly praise her buttocks as sexy, but Sunny ca n’t tell which part of her boyfriend is the most attractive to her.
She never initiates sex. Whenever her boyfriend is immersed in it and looks up at Sunny’s calm expression, she will be conditioned to think that she has not done enough and feel frustrated.
In the beginning, Sunny just wanted to make her lovers happy. Later, she gradually realized that her boyfriend had sexual expectations for her every time she got together on the weekend. She even felt guilty, “He has sexual desire, how can I not think about it?” Sex life 2-3 times a month became her responsibility, lasting more than a year.
Emotions broke out in the last few months. As long as the other party mentioned sex during that time, Sunny would hide far away, and she would not even make a phone call once a day. At the end of the relationship, both sides were relieved, and her boyfriend said to her, “It’s been a long time since I’ve experienced the kind of physical and mental satisfaction in love.”
“When he first knew him, he knew that I was asexual, but he didn’t realize that being with asexuality, and having no sex is the norm, and I thought he understood this,” Sunny said afterwards.
sexless content in the second season of the American drama “Sex Education”
The unspoken rules in the sexual world, but in the case of asexuality, all fail, which makes the combination of the two full of confusion, dissatisfaction and conflict.
University student Yu Hang had a crush on a pretty girl in the next class. The buddy helped him get the line and waited for him to make a bold confession, but he gave up at the last minute. “Is it like feeling naked in front of me Do n’t you know it yet? “He humbled himself because he did n’t have sex, and did n’t want to delay him.
The 27-year-old girl is handsome and has a boyfriend who especially hopes to satisfy her. I do n’t know where to learn a lot of foreplay and backplay, butThe handsome guy who went to bed with each other out of love, but the bottom of his heart hoped that he had better solve it in three seconds.
Yan Nan, born in 1992 (pseudonym) Facing a predecessor with strong sexual needs, he once bluntly said that he may be cold, and the other party said firmly. Impossible, the implication is “I am all this, how could you not be sexual?” The result made him depressed that when he touched Ye Nan, her body would react, but the whole person was obviously absent. After each end, Ye Nan had no intention of communicating with him.
sexless content in the second season of the American drama “Sex Education”
“I can’t always go to sleep all over the world to prove myself?”
Ye Nan ’s love affair ended in less than half a year. After that, she first learned from the Internet that she was asexual. She told a married friend of the new discovery, but the other party insisted that she just did not meet the right person, and also persuaded Ye Nan to find herself without finding a label. Ye Nan was a little disappointed, “I can’t always go to sleep all over the world to prove myself?”
Sexual love, which accounts for 99% of the total population, is naturally incomprehensible. For asexual lovers, how difficult it is to meet the right person.
Asexual and asexual pairing is undoubtedly the most worry-free, but the possibility is extremely low. “First of all, asexuality is distributed in five lakes and four seas, it is difficult to meet each other.”
“Secondly, there is currently no dating app specifically for asexuality. In the asexual dating group of two or three hundred people, screen for gender and sexual orientation, and exclude those who do not feel romantically attractive. A few people. “Comrade Xiaoxin analyzed.
Therefore, the vast majority of people who come together with asexuals are sexual. Regardless of whether the needs of both sides match,