When no one is helping him cross the river, be his own ferryman.
Editor’s note: This article comes from the WeChat public account “LinkedIn” (ID: LinkedIn-China) , author: Jin-liang.
Remember that it was Saturday. My father lost thousands of dollars at the racetrack. He complained endlessly while driving home.
I do n’t know where the courage came from, so I refuted him.
After returning home … He took the belt and began to beat my back, buttocks, and thighs. At that time, I had already lost hope for the future …
I read the autobiography of David Goggins, “I do n’t know how to get out of the gun” on the weekend. The original English title is Ca n’t Hurt Me. This is the plot.
Who is David Goggins?
He is the only person in American history to complete the Navy Seal Commando, Army Rangers and Air Force Tactical Air Traffic Control, and 3 elite training subjects.
He can complete the 160 km marathon in 19 hours without rest.
Can use 17 smallHe did 4030 pull-ups and broke the Guinness World Records.
In order to join the SEAL team, he worked hard in less than three months to successfully lose weight from 270 kg to 195 kg.
More importantly, his autobiography saved many people who wanted to commit suicide. After reading this book, some people were covered with goose bumps, and some scolded that they had never lived.
Douban netizens said, “From wanting to shout f ** k you, to being so sweaty to tears all over my body, this is one of the best books I have ever read.”
Recalling his life, Goggins discovered three facts:
Suffering is the true test of life. Suffering is the true test of life.
You have to be willing to suffer to get to the other side. People must be willing to suffer to reach the other side.
It’s so easy to be great nowadays because everyone else is weak. It is too easy to be strong now, because all others are too weak.
And his life can almost be summarized into three stages with these three sentences.
It seems that I can’t underestimate the fat people around me, who knows how handsome he will be when he turns into a muscular man.
You should n’t underestimate the black, skinny and timid children, who knows whether they will explode in courage in the future.
It should not be underestimated, maybe we are still some ordinary people.
“Suffering is a real trial of life”
The Goggins family is actually not poor. He was born in 1975 in the wealthy district of Buffalo, New York. He has a villa and a luxury car. His father often suits and wears a talented person. His mother also tenderly supports the family.
But under the glory, Goggins’ father has a severe tendency to violence. Whether he treats his wife or children, he punches and kicks if he doesn’t agree.
In his own roller skating rink, he treated them as slaves. Almost every day, both mother and son had to work, and they did n’t get a penny.
He often fools with prostitutes and treats prostitutes even better than his wife and children.
Until once, because he saw him with a prostitute, Goggins ’mother quarreled, and the mother and the son were almost beaten to death by his belt, and he made up his mind to go far away and leave the purgatory.
Because they are people of color, Goggins is not less discriminated against and bullied.
After arriving at the new elementary school, because the study couldn’t keep up with the rhythm, he was even roared by the teacher in the neck:
“You are the most trashy!”
When taking a Spanish class, Goggins found his own exercise book with a line of bold characters:
“Nigga, we are going to kill you!”
In order to withstand all kinds of discrimination, intimidation and ridicule, he found that he had to pretend to be like a rogue bad guy in order to protect himself.
So, after attending high school, Goggins can be said to be a complete rogue.
He shaved all his hair, and was also keen to mix with gang members and young gangsters.
His high school life was mixed with plagiarism and cheating.
Where is such a person?
“Tough guys In the past were soft eggs”
Study is not good, Gokins chose to join the Air Force after graduation.
But joining the army also requires an exam. Because of his abandonment of studies, the foundation was too poor, and the exam did not pass. Even his mother was very disappointed with him.
Going home and seeing the obese, self-effecting self in the mirror, Goggins is determined to change all this.
He started desperately to exercise and learn (ten thousand words omitted here), and finally joined the Air Force.
Since he was young, he has never participated in any swimming training except for the boy scout training camp when he was 12 years old.
After joining the army, this dry duck had to participate in a large number of paratrooper rescue team water training subjects.
The most frightening one is that two 80-liter galvanized oxygen steel tanks are tied to the back, and a 15-pound belt is also attached to the body. deepwater zone.
And do n’t think about it, the oxygen tank is purely a weight-bearing function, and the instructor does not allow inhalation at all.
What is this feeling like? It’s equivalent to covering yourself with a scale to kill yourself.
Since then, underwater training has become Goggins ’nightmare and has gradually evolved into his shame.
Goggins began to complain, even resenting other students in his heart.
“Why do you live so easily, but I have such a hard time?”
“Why should I suffer this crime here? I’m fed up with it.”
Yes, he wants to give up, he has counseled. At this time, there is only one reason to leave.
The reason for this came soon.
In a physical examination, Goggins was diagnosed with sickle cell characteristics, which increased the risk of sudden death.
He pretended to have been hit hard, but he was very happy. Because there was an excuse to quit, I was counseled to be fair and just.
Gorkins lied to everyone, but he couldn’t deceive himself.
Later in the tactical air control team (TAC-P) service, Goggins remembered this every day, thinking of his weakness, incompetence, and cunning.
In his heart, he always felt like a deserter.
Because of these psychological pressures, Goggins became decadent. From then on, he began to eat and drink. After he retired, he continued to overeating. His weight was close to 272 kg.
If you do n’t accidentally see the SEAL ’s conscription program arouse the fighting spirit, I am afraid that there will not be the achievements that Goggins achieved at the beginning of the article.
Program slogan: “Beyond mediocrity for some peopleThere is a strong temptation, they refuse to follow the crowd, they are eager to exceed the limits of ordinary people’s ability, this is what we want. “
“All tough guys have been soft eggs in the past.”
It is most appropriate to describe him with this sentence. Goggins was completely shaken, and his life is about to usher in a sudden change.
“Strong Because others are too weak”
In order to participate in the SEAL selection, he loses weight first.
Get up at 4:30 a.m. every morning, chew a banana, and then fix the review textbook on a spinning bike, where you can study for two hours while exercising.
However, in the SEAL selection training, the intensity and pressure still exceeded Gogins’ imagination.
Here are not only the training of carrying 140-pound logs on the beach, but also the torture of surfing and torture lying in the cold water of 14 and 15 degrees, and even the perverted torture and humiliation of the instructors.
Gogins was forced to withdraw due to pneumonia during the first training session. The second time he participated in training, he suffered a fracture of the knee bone and withdrew again.
In the third selection, Goggins fractured both tibias in another training session. He concealed the doctor and took tape to fix the position of his fracture, and continued to participate in training.
In short, this autobiography is very bloody to read. People who do n’t understand see Goggins even like a lunatic, because he is almost self-abuse and completely beyond the understanding of normal people.
In the end, Goggins successfully stood at the SEAL graduation ceremony and became the 36th black graduate in team history.
After retiring from the SEALs, Goggins ’self-abuse did not stop.
In order to help the children of his late comrades-in-law to go to college, he decided to raise funds to establish a foundation, relying on sports to raise money.
He contacted a marathon called “Evil Water 135”.
But because there is noAfter running the marathon, he was directly rejected by the organizers. With his hard work, the organizer suggested that he had to finish the 160km race in San Diego before he could qualify.
As a result, Goggins went so stupidly without any preparation.
On the day of the race, just after running 80 kilometers and reaching half of the total distance, Goggins’ body began to be out of shape. The thighs were filled with lead, the lungs gurgled, and mucus continued to flow out of the mouth.
The most scary thing is that he started to urinate while running. But like a lunatic, he insisted.
It’s all dead.
After 19 hours, Goggins finished the game. As soon as he reached the end, he fainted.
The thighs began to bleed, and the urine urinated was brown bile. His ten toenails dropped seven because of continuous running.
He was rushed to the hospital in an emergency, because the rescue was prompt and saved his life.
After recovering, Gorkins finished fifth in the “Evil Water 135” marathon. In the next two years, Goggins participated in 16 Super Endurance races, helping comrade-in-law families to raise more than 2 million US dollars.
Later, in order to continue to raise more funds, Goggins aimed at the pull-up record challenge.
After two consecutive failures, the third attempt. After 17 hours of hard work, Goggins made 4030 pull-ups, breaking the Guinness World Record at that time.
All the people present were boiling. This was the moment when they witnessed the miracle.
Cogogins himself is very calm, because for him, this is not the end, and he will continue to raise money for his comrades ’families.
“Reflection A shortcut to continuous improvement
May be the shadow of childhood, leading Goggins ’life to be like a horse racing, chasing a carrot that can never be caught, no end.
About challenging yourself, the following principles in the book are worth learning:
1. Check your goals every day
Here II would like to recommend Goggins’ “Accountability Mirror” strategy: He posted the goal to be completed every day and the preparation needed to complete the goal next to the mirror, so that he can remind himself every day what tasks need to be completed.
Every time he changes, it is actually very small. When he is the fattest, he can only run up to 400 meters. But he constantly set small goals for himself and strive to run 450 meters next time and 500 meters next time.
After many years of perseverance, he was able to complete the feat of running the 160km race in 19 hours.
2. Reflect in the mirror and look directly at the truest self
People can easily overestimate themselves when they are in trouble.
Goggins has a great trick, which is waking himself in the mirror.
He wanted to be an air force in high school, but was dismissed by the school teacher because of poor grades. After receiving the school call, his mother coldly notified him: “I just told you that you should drop out of school.”
He woke up like a dream and roared at himself in the mirror after taking a shower:
“Look at you, why does the Air Force want you to be a bastard, you are nothing, you are a fool, and you study like a pupil!”
After scolding himself, Goggins ushered in a real change.
3. Transform pain, remember success
Gorkins was domestically abused, discriminated against, and laughed at when he was a child. Pain is all he has in his life. Over the years, he has at least 10,000 excuses to make himself decadent.
But he didn’t.
Also recommended a courageous way to regain courage: remember the glorious moments of success in the past.
“Even if you are being rubbed against the floor by your life now, you will certainly be able to recall one or two glorious moments that once overcome difficulties.”
It is true that life has ups and downs and days and nights. The important thing in life is not what you have experienced, but how you choose.
Written at the end
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