The high school teacher Liang Gang ’s sexual assault on male students has aroused widespread concern. But the fact that “boys are also victims of sexual assault” seems to have not been accepted by the law and the public, and has not even attracted the attention of parents.

This article comes from the WeChat public account: LoveMatters (ID: LovemattersCN) , author: Bai Lu, from FIG question: IC photo

Recently, a netizen who claimed to be a party reported that the high school teacher Liang Gang “sexually assaulted a male student”, which caused a lot of attention and continued fermentation.

The article shows that Liang Gang, who used to be a teacher in Chengdu Shishi Middle School and Yibin No. 3 Middle School, used the status of class teacher and director of the Mental Health Center during the period from 2010 to 2020. Psychological counseling, various degrees of sexual assault and harassment against boys in the class, the statistics of the victims have exceeded 20 people. Some students have been sexually assaulted for a long time, and some students have been unable to get rid of their harassment and control from high school to university.


● Victimized Students Post Articles ” 10 years of sexual assault on more than 20 boys, the famous national class teacher Liang Gang is still giving lectures, and the real name of the victim speaks “

In recent years, with the continuous exposure of sexual assault cases, I heard many young couples often expressing such emotions when discussing the matter of having children:


“I like girls very much, but girls are really anxious when they are born. I will often worry about her safety, and boys are much better!”

In my sex education training for parents, whenever I talk about the issue of preventing sexual assault, the parents ’meeting of boys and the parents of girls joked:” You have to learn carefully, this is more important to you We can relax and rest for a while. “ When I asked the boy ’s parents why this part was not important to them, their response was probably that the boy would not be sexually assaulted. The core of sex education for boys at home is mostly about sexual development and how to prevent children from being affected by pornography.

Many parents have this idea, there are probably two reasons:

Firstly, in the matter of sex, we generally think that men areMore powerful, women are more vulnerable , and we take it for granted that sexual assault must occur between the strong side and the weak side. Many people here ignore the sexual abuse of men against men. Of course, also There is sexual assault by women against men, but this happens relatively less, and it is more difficult to be identified as sexual assault, which we will talk about later.

Another reason is that when we go to see the reports in the media, there are still many cases of girls being sexually assaulted. The “Sexual Abuse Case Statistics Report” released by “Girl Protection” also shows this: in 2018, the public media reported publicly reported cases of sexual assault on children. The victims accounted for 95.74%, while boys only 4.26%.

However, the report ’s publisher also specifically stated: “There are few cases of sexual assault on boys publicly reported in the media, which does not mean that boys are at low risk.” “Sexual assault on boys is more concealed and relevant. In the absence of laws, the protection of rights and interests faces greater difficulties. ”

In fact, many research reports show that although the percentage of boys who are sexually assaulted is lower than that of girls, the gap is not obvious. In a few reports in recent years, even a high percentage of boys are sexually assaulted In the case of girls. Of course, this may have something to do with the survey object and sampling selected in the study, but at least it shows that the incident of the boy being sexually assaulted really happened around us, and it is not uncommon. From the perspective of risk, the male The risk of sexual assault faced by virgin girls is the same.

But unfortunately, boys who have suffered sexual assault face another dilemma:Help, it is difficult to ask for help, or it is difficult to punish the perpetrators because of the lack of relevant laws after asking for help.

Boy ’s confusion: Am I really hurt?

Because many people do n’t think boys will be sexually assaulted, many boys never knew what sexual assault was during their growth, and they did n’t know that they could be sexually assaulted. Therefore, when he encounters such a thing, the boy will have a confusion: “I feel very bad, but, does the other party really hurt me?”

I once met a boy, Xiaozhi, who was touched by his neighbor’s big brother, and under the big brother’s “command”, “put his big brother Tintin in his mouth.” This makes Xiao Zhi feel weird, and even has some nausea, but he never thought it was sexual assault. He thinks this may be a game that all boys will play.

Some people may feel confused. If Xiaozhi does not feel hurt, does the so-called “sexual assault injury” not appear? it’s not true! I do n’t know what this behavior is, it does n’t mean that Xiaozhi has no feelings. He actually feels uncomfortable, but no one has told him that this behavior is wrong, so he can only use reasonable reasons to persuade Himself -“This is just a game that all boys will play”, he tried to use this reason to make himself feel better, but in fact he has no way to convince himself, because that uncomfortable feeling is not It disappeared because of such persuasion. And when one day he knew what the big brother asked him to do, it might add another layer of injury.