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The last two daysAn important hot search:
The #divoric calm period # that was previously sprayed by the network group really passed.
The draft of the Civil Code under revision provides that within 30 days from the date when the marriage registration authority receives the application for divorce registration, any party who is unwilling to divorce may withdraw the application for divorce registration from the marriage registration authority.
Unilateral disagreement, you can withdraw your divorce registration application.
Some people approve, others disagree.
Before discussing this topic officially.
Uncle Yu wants to tell a story about divorce first-
“Slap” (Thappad) .
In recent years, Indian movies have frequently screened. In addition to the level of industrial production that is good enough, the more important thing is that they dare to analyze sharp and realistic topics.
No matter “Wrestling!” The voice of women ’s rights in Dad is also a reflection on religion and politics in Little Uncle ’s Monkey God Uncle. All directly hit the pain points in an ordinary society.
This film is no exception.
The story tells the story of a slap in the face of an Indian housewife. What is reflected behind is the social and cultural situation that leads to “domestic violence”.
The heroine’s name is Amrita. She was originally a middle-class housewife living in a high-end villa with excellent living conditions.
Family is the focus of her daily life: get up on time, check the mother-in-law ’s body, prepare breakfast for her husband, go out to accompany her friends and daughters to practice dancing …
Simple, no big troubles.
In the eyes of her elder friends, her biggest blessing is to marry a good husband, Vikram.
Born and wealthy, successful career. At a young age, he won the opportunity to be the regional CEO in London by working hard for several years in the company.
In order to celebrate the promotion, the couple also planned a special oneThe grand family Party invites all relatives and friends to witness the happiness of this family.
However, halfway through the party, the husband accidentally learns that he was being “concealed” and the position of the regional CEO is set by others. Angry, he quarreled with his boss on the spot.
As soon as the contradiction intensified, Amrita hurried to persuade him.
Whoever thinks, her husband shook her hand, turned and slapped her.
Without saying a word, the husband left the scene.
Everyone on the scene saw this scene, but no one came forward to comfort him.
The sudden slap made Amrita lose her soul.
The next day, when the husband hung up, he noticed that his wife was in a wrong state. Talking about the situation last night, butThere is no apology.
Or, I did n’t realize that I needed to apologize.
Husband began to spit bitter water, telling about his “abnormal” mental journey. But to put it in perspective, only I have suffered wronged in the company.
There is no word for his wife ’s compassion and apology.
It seems that the implication is that I am too wronged, so I am not wrong, and you should forgive me as I deserve.
Amrita never kept talking.
She pondered for two days and decided to go back to her mother ’s house to calm down for a while.
In the eyes of others, “a slap in the face” seems to be nothing.
The husband does not understand why his wife is so unhappy; her family members do not understand the use of her.
After some time, Amrita still did not go home.
She waited for her husband.
But it’s not a solemn apology, but an accusation and quarrel.
Husband: We must take family honor seriously. The wife should not leave her husband like this.
After that, she waited for her husband ’s legal notice.
The notice informed her of a slightly shocking legal provision-
According to the relevant provisions of the (Restitution of conjugal rights) of “same-married couples living together”, Vikram has the right to require his wife to live home .
Related Regulations of the Indian Marriage Law (Similar provisions exist in many national laws, but do not involve mandatory measures.)
Sure enough, even the law did not stand on her side.
The female lawyer gave her three options: going home, judicial separation or divorce.
Amrita thought for a moment and chose to divorce.
The situation was so troublesome that everyone was surprised by her choice.
Even the female lawyer couldn’t help but ask her: Is it just because of a slap?
This is not in line with “common sense”.
Do n’t say a slap in the face, even if they suffer punches and kicks, many women will choose to go home.
The mother-in-law who had a good relationship with her warned her: women should learn to endure silently.
Do n’t “seek the big and ask the small” because of the mood.
The biological mother also stood opposite.
She thinks that it is “nothing wrong” for the two to make a conflict, but it is too ridiculous to make things divorce-
I never expected that one day we could see my daughter divorce. Did our parents do anything wrong? We feed her, educate her, and make a good family for her. Now she should take responsibility. Since it is her home, it should be guarded. Women should learn to endure and maintain the integrity of a family!
The friends around her husband ca n’t understand this “trivial matter” ——
“When you really love someone … from the heart love a person. What is a little physical collision? This is a manifestation of love.”
And the husband is more straightforward: is n’t it a slap? And this is only the first time.
A slap in the face?
In the impression of many people, domestic violence should be like An Jiahe from childhood shadow play “Don’t Talk to Strangers”
Beating, mutilating, restricting personal freedom … This extreme violence, of course.
Slap in the face, not only involves physical injuries, but also includes spiritual insults.
In ancient China, slapping was one of the most common penalties, leaving the trace of “humiliation, punishment, contempt” on the face of a person.
The so-called “beating people without hitting faces” in the old saying means not to debase people too low or too much.
At homeViolence in the unit is of course domestic violence.
More importantly, for Amrita, she saw what others did not see.
First of all, domestic violence has only zero or countless times.
When the first hands-on was indulged in the past, there might be more violence waiting behind.
This time, the work is not going well. Next time, I might go out without an umbrella and no salt in the dishes.
There are thousands of reasons for violence.
Second, her real disappointment was her husband ’s attitude towards herself.
The other party made a lot of excuses, work discomfort, anger, drunkenness, accidental missed …
After making mistakes, I just want to justify and justify my violence.
Insisting on “the dignity of men”, he couldn’t even say an apology.
Domestic violence is intentionally ignored and downplayed by perpetrators and bystanders, and is even interpreted as “fighting is pro-calling is love”.
Amrita realized that her hard work only paid indifference and contempt.
When the husband turned around and asked her why she could n’t be considerate of herself and accused her of not letting go of this small festival, she replied: At first, you suffered injustice, because you put too much emotion into the company and could n’t let go Spend a lifetime on you, how can you tell me to let go?
Compare your heart.
When the husband asked his wife to “understand” his feelings of being disappointed by the company, he did not consider the harm caused by his actions to his wife.
It ’s so important to be sad;
Why can the other party smile?
This is AmriWhat Tower lost after getting married.
She received a good education and had the dream of becoming a dancer, but she lost her pursuit and happiness because she wanted to be a housewife.
Today, even the least respect is not available.
The story does not stop here, but points deeper.
In the evolution of the plot, we find that every woman who accepts reality in the play seems to have its own unspeakable secret.
Even the mother who opposed her daughter had sacrificed her dream for the family.
“I also hope that my daughter can become a dancer like Sitara Devi. Just like my father wanted me to sing on All India Radio. But I have to make compromises, right? My mother said family is the most important thing. “
Grandma imposed the idea on her mother, and the mother passed on the idea to her daughter.
Generation after generation of women, tragedy after tragedy.
As committed to “family responsibilities,” they firmly believe in their culture and blindly pass on the values of self-sacrifice to the next generation.
In the end, he lost himself and hurt his daughter.
The heroine in the film bravely chose to say “no” in the face of trampling and neglect of dignity.
She has courage because she has courage.
Having a good college education, there is a well-off family with food and drink in the back.
Facing her stubbornness, the film also ended in Happy Ending.
In front of everyone, her mother-in-law apologized to Amrita on behalf of a generation:
This is not your fault.
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This is our mother ’s fault and their father ’s fault.
We have never taught our son not to beat a woman.
When your mother told you to be silent, she also made a mistake.
But this ending is ideal.
For women who live in the lower classes, they may have suffered more severe domestic violence but nowhere to complain.
Under the restraint of traditional ideas, the first idea is often just tolerated.
For example, the nanny of the heroine in the film.
“My husband hit me again last night. But I did n’t run. I thought about it … if he really kept me out. Where can I go?”
In the matter of divorce, women, especially housewives, are actually very vulnerable.
When distributing property, they are often accused of “do not deserve half of the property without making money.” But who has experienced the work intensity of 007 in a family?
In the movie, the heroine avoided this topic in a dauntless way of “freedom and no money”.
But what about reality?
In the face of all kinds of disrespect and even domestic violence, even if you have the courage to want a divorce,They also have to face the “one-month divorce cooling-off period.”
Speaking eloquently, I do n’t want “divorce at will” to cause negative social impact.
But have you ever thought how difficult it is for a woman who is really persecuted in a marriage relationship to have the courage to divorce itself.
The pressure to carry traditional ideas, family and friends, and the coercion of the husband is not enough. The official has to step on it.
In fact, divorce itself requires a process of mutual notification and mutual cooling. The vast majority of divorces are thoughtful and recognized by both parties.
Even if you really regret it, want to remarry and remarry, it is not a big problem.
But for the situation where one wants to leave but cannot succeed, one side wants to escape, and the other side is tightly tied, it is undoubtedly repeated torture.
Not to mention, in some specific cases, there may also be acts of secretly transferring personal property during the cooling-off period or secretly destroying derailment and other adverse evidence.
Even the traffickers ’buying and selling of wives, etc., have more loopholes.
Under the topic of # 离婚 成长期 #, there is a highly commented and highly praised post @ 果 狸 7777:
It is mentioned that when the Marriage Law of 1950 was drafted, Deng Yingchao advocated that: unconditionally allowedOne party insists on leaving.
In the film “Slap”, a husband who is used to enjoying a vested interest wakes up his wife in a “good hallucination” with a slap.
It allows her to see all the injustices, things that she would ignore even if she had seen them before.
The hostess chose a path of self-respect.
This road, if there are many people walking, it will naturally become wider and wider and flatter.
But if fences and obstacles are deliberately placed, I am afraid that wild grass will make a comeback.
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