It is divided into complex industrial chains-from prenatal education before birth to adult study abroad applications, there are supporting education services in every link waiting for parents and children to invest a lot of money, time and emotions.
If intensive parenting allows parents to relieve anxiety with a high degree of control in direct interaction with their children, then fine parenting provides them with the space to outsource some of their responsibilities to “professional institutions” and “professionals.” In In our article “Our view of children: looking at contemporary childcare anxiety from the change of public childcare policy” , the author Zhu Xueqin pointed out that fine childcare not only requires parents to invest a lot of money in the child education market, but also They are required to devote more emotional labor and strive to build a new type of parent-child relationship, so as to match with knowledge, skills and other educational services to achieve the maximum effect. When parents carefully study these theoretical knowledge, they also increasingly confirm this set of fine parenting logic piled up with professional terminology.
From the term back to practice, waiting for parents and children is still the less beautiful side of fine parenting: endless sea tactics, interest classes one after another, and the resulting parent-child conflict. No matter how beautiful the childcare concept created based on the particularity of the child depicts, in reality, anxious parents and burdened children are more common.
One of the marketing methods and goals of the fine childcare education market is to cultivate children ’s independence, but the paradox is that no matter how loud the slogan is, and how solid the concept is, the parents are more and more responsible for everything. The ancestors even took part in it, forming a “family mobilization” style parenting. It’s hard to imagine a child who has everything done by his elders at home can learn to be independent from a short camping or traveling experience-these qualities are more like a brand label that increases the price of training services.
The “equality” and “enlightenment” used to describe the parent-child relationship are the same as the “independence” here, which is used to prove the particularity of children, thereby encouraging parents to further invest in refined parenting. Instead, subjectivity retreats behind these positive nouns.
After the parents and the market have subcontracted all aspects of the child ’s growth, the child has become a precious life that ca n’t be dropped or held in the air. Zhu Xueqin pointed out that the delicacy of children occurs in a specific social class, which in turn becomes a means of class division.