The standard is the key, the first is not
Editor’s note: This article comes from the WeChat public account : banfoSB) , author: semi Buddha immortal.
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I think that this year, people are not working hard enough, but they are a bit overworked, and even a bit hardened.
Many people are caught in a [leader’s anxiety], in short, everything wants to be the first.
If you can’t be the first, at least it’s better than the people around you, otherwise you will be very anxious, feel that you are a loser, feel that you are not working hard enough, and feel that you are behind this era.
Many people in the past saw others become, and they often blessed or envied.
Now that many people see others become, they tend to jealously grind their teeth, and then secretly anxious, why they can’t do it, are they not working hard enough.
Many people think this is a manifestation of progress, but I think this is a disease, a psychological cycle.
The fight for the first thing should never be a part of life.
Because number one is always relative, not absolute.
There is an old story.
It says that a young man went to consult a Zen master and said, why do people only remember the first? Obviously the runner-up and runner-up also worked very hard!
The master said, “Wow, then I will share with you my life experience. Do you know which is the highest mountain in the world?” The young man replied, Everest.
The Master asked the youth again, what about the second highest? The young man replied, Joe Gori, the Zen master asked again, what about the third? Youth: “Qiancheng Zhangjiafeng!”
Master Zen is angry. Did you come here to relax? ! Eat me Dawei Tianlong!
This paragraph was actually adapted.
In the original paragraph, the young man was choked on the second question. Instead of answering Qiao Gori Peak, he obediently accepted the life credo of Zen Master that “the second person no one will remember” and tried hard to be One.
It seems to be a very positive ending.
But I don’t think so, I think this ending is essentially due to insufficient knowledge reserves, not [everything first]This point is correct.
But if you combine the pre-adapted and post-adapted paragraphs, you will find some very interesting things.
How you think depends on your knowledge of the facts. To put it plainly, it is your perception of the world.
Because of his knowledge and facts, the youth in the first paragraph did not fall into the language trap of the Zen master, otherwise he would be taken into the pit and obediently accept the other party’s theory.
On the other hand, knowledge is the antidote to crack the Shadiao Soul Chicken Soup, even if this chicken soup seems to be absolutely correct to be the first.
Going further, if you read these two paragraphs carefully, you may be able to realize that in real life, the evaluation system is very rich, and each dimension has its own [first].
Even if it is [First], there are a lot of points that can be discussed.
For example, Joe Gori, the second highest in height, is called “K2” by climbers.
For a long time, due to the steep mountain, frequent avalanches, and the lack of a matching commercial system like Everest, the summit was more difficult than the latter, and the death rate was as high as 27%. That is to say, when you see a group of mountaineering teams going uphill, there are so many people in it that are unable to return.
The mountaineer Pierre Bergan who conquered Mount Everest said: “Climbing K2 is based on luck, and you must be prepared to think back.”
Finally, this buddy really set himself a Flag and died halfway down Chogori Peak.
Look, height and difficulty are two different dimensions.
Only looking at the height, Everest is the first, and the number of mountain heights is above everything else.
But in terms of difficulty, Chogori Peak is the first, and the mortality rate is full.
After all, is it to climb Everest or K2?
In the eyes of ordinary people and professionals, it is a different answer.
So, the first is always a relative concept, depending on your evaluation dimension and application scenario.
It’s not smart to pay your own absolute price for a relative concept.
So it should not be a mandatory option to argue for the first, but an optional option.
In addition, in real life, there are too many things like the heights of Chogori and Everest that we cannot change.
The origins, talents, circle of friends and social relationships of others, we may not be able to reach them at all, these are all objective facts.
For example, also writing articles, some people may have acquaintances in the industry, talk with a bunch of industry insiders and laugh, they can get accurate internal information in advance, easily get the hard materials that others do not have, and then write out based on these information Something more than just reasoning with public information3. The conclusions analyzed must be accurate and must have a breaking point.
Another example, the same is a bank that pulls deposits. Some people only need to make a phone call to their homes to complete. Some people go to the community and dance the rice noodles and grains every day.
In the face of objective reality, there is a problem with too much emphasis on subjective initiative.
In the superior areas of others, how to surpass each other and be the first in the opponent’s home field?
This is not realistic enough.
A lot of people are not aware of a problem. There are actually too many things that others can do but you can’t.
But do I want you to give up? Not really.
I think you can change your mind.
Still take an example of writing an article.
You can’t have the other party’s information source, there can be no other party’s fierce information, so why do you want to compare this with him?
For a different dimension, he writes faster than you write accurately. You can understand it more easily, more interestingly, and more eloquently than he writes.
Remember, the first is always relative, not absolute, quickly find your own advantages, and then change the dimension to combat.
It’s like a joke.
Don’t fight silly X, because he will pull your IQ to a level with him, and then kill you with rich experience.
When you face your opponent, you should prevent him from pulling you to a level with him. At the same time, you can try to pull him to a dimension with you and then do it.
As long as you are [stupid] enough, you are invincible to some extent.
As for being stupid, it’s not important, the result is more important.
Like mountain climbing, everyone has a “first” in their hearts.
If you are obsessed with appearances, your obsession with “first” will affect your judgment of facts.
In the rules delineated by others, fighting for the first is stupid. The true correct decision is to draw others to your advantage. You define the first.
Scramble is always the last thing. Really smart people take the first place. It is not to compete with people. It is to define standards and attract people.
Even in the early days, you can get benefits to attract people.
Although it seems indisputable, it is actually very ambitious.
Like the song that Jay Chou once sang.
At my site, you have to listen to me.