Some options are the most decent in the adult world.
Editor’s note: This article comes from the WeChat public account “Glass Language Professional Beauty” (ID:crystal_words), author : Zhao Xiaoli.
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Recently, the news that a post-95 programmer changed the code while delivering takeaways has attracted a lot of attention on the Internet.
The post-95s boy majored in computer science. After graduation, he has been working as a back-end programmer, focusing on PHP language. When he was a programmer, he made a monthly income of 20,000.
There are several takeaways with his roommate who rents a house. Every time they talk about some fun and interesting things. Everyone says they don’t understand the content of the code in the post-95 programmer’s mouth; but for the roommate’s mouth As a delivery man, he knew a lot of processes and became curious about the job.
Thinking of sitting in the office every day, having bad shoulders and necks, and having less hair. The post-95s guy started to try to take orders and take out. He also had irregular daily orders, sometimes 8 hours, Sometimes it takes 2 hours to go back and change the code.
(The picture shows the guy after 95, the picture comes from Ruitu)
For the post-95s boy, he occasionally encountered Internet companies during the process of running orders to help them fix bugs. He also has a little dream, that is, he hopes to meet some technical gods. Learn from the Great God.
Now this guy has resigned from an Internet company and is looking for his next job. He still plans to become a programmer for his career plan. He thinks PHP is the best language in the world, and he also confesses the job of a takeaway It is a special life experience…
As soon as this news came out, the post-95s boy was regarded as a “big god” by many netizens. Everyone envied his waywardness and could experience different lives.
Behind this willfulness is precisely because of his “some choices”;
Some options are the most decent in the adult world.
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When the visitor Su Su (pseudonym) came to consult, she was worried about the future.
Su Su, graduated from the statistics major of an ordinary university in China. According to Su Su’s description, she was basically “mixed” during the university. She didn’t study hard in her profession and lacked social practice. She waited until graduation Su Su was completely ashamed when he was looking for a job.
Under the arrangement of his family, Su Su came to work in a construction company. He usually did some chores, such as booking tickets for the leader, calculating the salary of the business department, pasting notes for the business department, and finding invoices for the business department. and many more.
There is no airtight wall in the world.
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I don’t know when to start, my colleagues in the company all know that Su Su is a “relation household”, they generally think that Su Su is not capable, but because of the bad relationship, he usually chooses some simple and trivial 2. Su Su does what he doesn’t want to do. For a long time, Su Su is like a “golden oil” in the company: day after day, he does unprofessional work, holding a salary that exceeds his actual ability. …..
Susu couldn’t help but feel vaguely worried about the future.
Fortunately, people whom my family knows are middle and senior executives in the company. They usually take care of Susu, and most of her colleagues will not embarrass her, so in general, it is quite passable. It takes only three years to do so.
But the two things that happened before the consultation made Su Su feel that he couldn’t go on like this.
The first thing.
One time Su Su quarreled with her boyfriend. Suddenly her boyfriend said something, so Su Su noticed that the other party looked down on her. Her boyfriend said Su Su shouldn’t think that their relationship is settled and they can lose their temper. According to Su Su’s current situation, it’s more or less to climb his family’s meaning-these words are tantamount to a sharp knife, plunged into Su Su’s heart, Su Su felt a tingling in his heart.
The second thing.
Family and Su Su revealed that the acquaintance they knew before (that is, the company’s middle and senior executives) will soon face job transfer. Because the company’s business has changed, the boss intends to let the acquaintance take over the new business line, and The existing business department may “airborne” a new manager…
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At the beginning of the consultation, Su Su kept complaining about his homePeople, she said, if it was not for her family to arrange this job for her, she would not go to such a situation.
“But you didn’t explain your attitude at that time, even you acquiesced in your family’s practices, didn’t you?” I said.
Susu listened, silent for a while, and nodded.
I continue to analyze.
The reason why Su Su appears to have no choice seems to be largely because of–
1. Give up the right to choose from the beginning
During Susu’s schooling period, she lacked planning for herself, and even lacked an understanding of the profession and future employment situation. She also had no awareness of social practice, so what she could and wanted to do could be said “The brain is blank.”
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Graduates like Susu are everywhere, but many people will slowly adjust after finding a series of market feedback through interviews to find a suitable start.
But Su Su chose a seemingly easy but crisis-ridden decision, that is, the first choice of life was handed over to the parents, and employment was achieved through family arrangements.
2. The requirements for self are low, and the degree of professionalism is not enough
The acquaintance relationship is like a double-edged sword, which is both a good shelter and a great constraint.
In the company, it is precisely because of this relationship that Su Su does not have any concept of real competition in the workplace. She is still like a student, not actively thinking about her future development direction, and is not aware of professional important.
3. Emotional is serious, easy to generalize
According to Su Su’s complaint, she admits that she hates data, so she hates her major and the content of data in her work.
But the problem is that in the workplace, data capabilities are the inevitable basis of many basic positions. When we encounter something that we feel painful, don’t rush to a conclusion, but further analysis.
For example, here in Susu, what we need to clarify is: what is behind the aversion to data?
From my consulting experience, many people show disgust or even resistance to certain things. There is a great possibility that they are helpless in front of this matter. As there is a saying, the emotion is It stems from anger at one’s incompetence.
In this case, we can choose:
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1. Face it and find a way to overcome it;
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2. Escape it and let the emotions spread.
Su Su chose the latter before.
In my opinion, the best way is to make every effort to overcome the problem, and now I really try my best. There are only two results:
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1. Solved this problem, got a sense of accomplishment, and got a sublimation and improvement of ability;
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2. If you find that you are not suitable for this kind of work, you can also accept it and adjust your direction as soon as possible.
The least advisable approach is that you don’t ask or try your best, giving up is a little unwilling, and if you don’t give up, you are unwilling to face it… in a meaningless tear and tangled, wasted Valuable youth years!
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After the previous analysis, Su Su gradually realized that all this was the result of her choice. She finally accepted the reality. On this basis, we can let go of the burden of the past and truly make rational judgments and choices for the future. .
1. Career vision presentation
Through systematic review, Su Su’s career vision gradually became clear. She hoped that she would become a professional within 3-5 years, and she hoped that she could have skills.
2. Characteristics and self-expectation
Su Su is introverted and pays attention to details. Even in small matters such as pasting invoices for business departments, Su Su can find many problems… In other words, Su Su is far from sensitive Far more than the sensitivity to people;
According to Su Su’s previous evaluation results, her thinking and analysis scores are relatively high, but she lacks factual evidence from her past experience. After investigation, I found that these two scores are higher. Because it contains her expectations of self.
3. Behavior style and motivation level
From the tone of Su Su’s narrative, I found that she has a prudent quality, especially at some choice points, she always tends to choose a safe direction.
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For example, although she is not valued in this company, she did not act rashly before there was no better way out, but stayed in it for three years, which was proved by the fact that she did things carefully.
From the analysis of her current motivation level, Su Su’s biggest problem is the lack of achievement experience. Therefore, despite her desire for achievement motivation, she has not received positive feedback in reality, so this part of the motivation is not obvious…
I told Su Su that if she evades the content of data analysis, from the previous analysis, it is tantamount to “self-cutting the way back” and stifling the possibility of her future.
1. Su Su’s repulsion of data does not mean that this part of the ability will not work
From the previous analysis, she has the willingness to develop in this part of the ability, but she is suffering from no way to start and cannot find the correct method; if Su Su can find a suitable study and work method for her, she can pass Data processing processes this part of the task to improve your logical thinking ability.
2. Success is the mother of success, and overcoming difficult experiences is especially important for a person
Be aware that one of the important reasons why many people lack a sense of accomplishment is that they never go all out to do one thing.
If Susu can learn and improve consciously in this part in the later period, her confidence and sense of accomplishment will only gradually become apparent after she finds that she is fully qualified for data work and obtains good external feedback.
3. For many people before the age of 30, the traits and advantages are not stereotyped, there is room for improvement
According to my consulting experience, if a person is unable to find a sense of accomplishment in the workplace or suffers a long-term frustration, as time goes by, especially after the age of 30, “learned helplessness” will gradually form Situation, it was more difficult to make changes at that time than it was to change in your 20s.
When the consultation is coming to an end, Su Su understands that she knows about what to do.
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I guess you probably want to know what happened to Su Su now?
Later, after the new leader took office, the company carried out relentless and popular post mergers and adjustments, and gave Susuga many work tasks, one of which was bidding, which involved a lot of data and analysis. , May cause huge losses to the company.
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After consulting, Su Su corrected his work attitude, and at the same time actively carried out related charging and learning in his spare time. In this task, Her potentials such as prudence and sense of detail were fully realized: once, Su Su found a small error in the bid and gave feedback in time, which saved the company a lot of losses. This matter was won by the new leader. Recognition and awards.
After more than two years, Su Su is no longer the transparent person who used to be “except for nothing” in her work. Now she and us have sent us feedback that she is interested in the budget and other related fields. Ascension and development, she is full of confidence in the future.
I suddenly remembered such a sentence, and I will share it with you here:
“If a person deliberately avoids what he fears, at the end, he will find that he is just a short way to see it.”-Tolkien “Children of Hulin”
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Introduction to the author
Zhao Xiaoli, senior career planner, national psychological consultant, workplace writer, founder of Liyu career.