A real case
Editor’s note: This article comes from the WeChat public account “Tang Ren” (ID: RyanTang007), author: Tang Ren.
A few days ago, a reader asked a question on our planet. In fact, the question was asked by his friend about depression in the workplace.
To be honest, after reading it, it reminds me of many similar cases. Such things are really a lot in the workplace.
The big factory has a halo, but it is not a safe. The self-security barrier never depends on the company and the environment, but on itself.
The problem is this.
His friend said he was suffering from depression. At first, everyone didn’t believe it, but after meeting with him, he felt it might be true.
His friend’s current status:
1. I think that everything is extremely negative. I have always said that I am a waste, and I constantly deny myself.
2. I can’t eat or be hungry, I just force myself to eat every day. I can’t sleep or sleep. I can’t fall asleep until I lie at three o’clock every night.
3. Fear of going to work, and irritability at the thought of going to work.
4. The weight has recently dropped from 160 pounds to 140.
After communication, I learned that the reasons for this state can be summarized into the following aspects:
First of all, this buddy is a technologist. It’s 32 this year, and he has reached the age when he has an old and a small car loan.
In recent years, I have been working in a large factory, and I always think that my technical level is very good and my income is very high.
But a year later, the department airborne a leader, the management style was very strict, the work rhythm became stronger, and often worked until one or two at night.
At the same time, a new group of post-95 guys have been recruited. They are full of energy and have a high technical level. I feel that I have no advantage at all.
The leader is also not very satisfied with his working status. He wants to change jobs and meets with several big factories.
Therefore, I feel that I have no way out.
No resignation is very difficult now. I am afraid that I will never find a job again, and my family’s financial resources will be cut off.
Secondly, his wife’s income is not high. He is a kind of relatively simple-minded person who doesn’t worry about anything at home. And he is not very concerned about him. In this state, his wife still feels very annoyed.
He feels lonely, desperate, and does not want to go home after get off work.
Friends gave many suggestions, but they rejected them for various reasons.
Always say I feel like I’m abandoning, I don’t want to work, but I don’t know why I can make money if I don’t work.Just hung up.
The problem is this, maybe you have found the crux of it.
In my opinion, this is the process of breaking the original security barrier and establishing a new one.
Age, work, and family, which were gradually established in his past experience, were broken by some changes in work.
This may be the key reason for his current state.
Without this change, is he still the same as before?
In fact, the crisis has always been there, but this time it broke out, so the ringer must be the ringer, the key is still himself, and it is best to carry out professional psychological assistance intervention.
Do you have the ability to embrace change and can you re-establish your sense of security?
If you can’t get through this time, you will still have the same problem next time.
After working for so long, it is unrealistic to work hard with young people.
You can adjust your strategy, reuse your experience advantages, and leave young people with the charge. You can try to try in the direction of management, these are the accumulation of time, young people can not compare.
Always staying in a big factory, indicating that the strength is not bad, but it still depends on how to benchmark.
If you always target yourself in the past, it is almost stagnant, especially in the field of technology, which changes very quickly.
The newcomer brings not only fresh blood, but also a mirror, always staying in the good state of the past, it is easy to get yourself lost.
If the current environment cannot be changed and there is no effort to continue to change, then change companies. Many small and medium-sized companies need such people, and may be able to get promoted and raise salaries, not to mention when they are young.
I don’t recommend naked resignation. Resigning now will only aggravate his status quo.
Without income, the family has a heavy burden, his wife is troubled, and he is under great pressure. In addition, he cannot find a job, which is tantamount to pushing him into the abyss.
Or, face the problem, solve the problem, embrace change in the current company, rediscover your strengths and build a new sense of security.
Or, change the environment to find a new sense of security, but the same problem may reappear after some time.
So, what should come will always come, and what should face will always face.
While adjusting yourself, it is best to go to a professional hospital and psychological institution to see a doctor and intervene in advance.
I believe in science and doctors. There is a cure for such a situation now, but many people don’t care or believe it, which delays the timing of treatment.
For depression, everyone deserves attention, really!
Now that social pressure is great, you must have a healthy mind and body, and don’t deny yourself because of the temporary difficulties.
Do something that interests you, try to exercise more, and find more friends and family to communicate with, the problem may not be so serious.
Many people think that they enter the safe when they enter a big factory, obviously not.
The competition among big manufacturers is greater. Compared with competition, what is more terrible is the generational elimination. That is, you may have done nothing wrong, but the new generation has begun to replace.
So, it’s the way to stay competitive by always improving yourself around the increment of value.
Everything has an expiration date. There is no such thing as eating fresh and eating all over the sky. It is more important to understand reality.
Take a step back, the sea is wide, the sky is further, thorns are overgrown.
However, we always have to take a step forward, and only in this way can we establish a true sense of security in ourselves.
Every progress comes from a temporary abandonment of a sense of security.