The leading power in life is always in your own hands.
Editor’s note: This article comes from the WeChat public account “porridge Zuo Luo” (ID:fangdushe520), author: Wen seven king.
Since the variety show “Sister Who Rides the Wind and Waves” goes live, the sisters have dominated the screen.
This 30-year-old female entertainer’s draft group show has just received 140 million views just 12 hours after its launch. A week after the launch, more than 60,000 viewers of Douban immediately gave a high score of 8.4.
Someone said: After reading “The Sister Who Rides the Wind and Waves”, I don’t seem to be so afraid of getting old.
Someone lamented: Adults get hard work in exchange for “no”.
We saw in our sisters something that other programs do not have: the courage and confidence after experiencing life.
The sisters in “The Sister Who Rides the Wind and Waves” are excellent and worth learning.
But today, the sister I want to write is not on the show, but it is definitely the sister who is really riding the wind and waves, and she is on the tip of the wave.
Who is she?
If you are a book lover, or you often visit online bookstores or offline bookstores, you should notice a very hot book with the following cover:
Douban scored 8.9, scored by nearly 60,000 people, and a new book was ranked 81st on Douban Top250 list.
The sister I want to talk about is the author of “You fly to your mountain like a bird”, Tara.
This book of hers is a miracle:
This is her debut film, but she was listed on the New York Times bestseller list in the first week of listing. It has accumulated 80 weeks so far, and still ranks in the Top1, with sales in the United States breaking millions.
A new author who has published a new book-was named “Influential Person of the Year” by Time Magazine, and became the “New York Times”, “Guardian”, “Washington Post”, “The Times” and “The Sunday Times” “The Economist, Oprah Magazine, National Public Radio, and more than 20 authoritative media books of the year.
And became the first place in Bill Gates’ annual recommendation.
After reading her story, Bill Gates lamented:
“This is an amazing story, truly inspiring. When I read her extreme childhood story, I also began to reflect on my life. “You are like a bird flying to your mountain” Everyone will like it. It’s even better than what you’ve heard.”
Bill Gates talks with Tara
Tara said:
People only see that I am different,
Only I know my true face.
I come from a family that few people can imagine.
In this article, we will tell the real life story of Sister Tara riding the wind and waves.
Tara lived in a waste dump in the mountains of the United States when she was young. She never went to the hospital when she was ill. She had never received school education before the age of 17 and did not understand “mathematics”. nothing.
The family education she received from an early age was “showing legs in clothes, that’s what prostitutes do.” Her father kept telling her that “women should stay at home and can’t go out to work.” The elder brother had beaten her under the eyes. body.
Before 17, she was under the control of her father’s power, brotherLong abuse and beating, mother’s indifference and neglect. After 17 years old, she escaped from Dashan, went to college by herself, and Nirvana was reborn.
Seeing this, you might think I am telling the story of the grandparents generation.
No.
Tara was born in 1986. She is from the same age as us.
If you didn’t read her story, it’s hard to imagine that today in the 21st century, behind the beautiful “new life”, there is still such a horrible history of blood and tear growth.
Tara, like every sister who rides the wind and waves, tells us with his actual actions:
The world is vast, and it’s not like the one-third of an acre of land in front of you.
Even if you have bruises in the past, you still have to chase your dreams seriously. Even if you are hit by failure, you can’t easily admit defeat and stop struggling.
Who you are, what you can do, you have the final say.
01A girl who grew up in the garbage waste yard
Tara was born on Mount Barker in Idaho. His father runs a garbage dump, and his mother is a herbalist and midwife. Tara is the youngest child in the family, with five older brothers and one older sister.
Tara’s father is a strict Mormon and opposes his family going to the hospital for treatment, and opposes sending his children to school. He has been evading the government all his life and firmly believes that public schools are a conspiracy of the government and a demon that brainwashes people.
“I send children to school, what is the same as giving them to the devil?”
Tara worked with her parents from an early age, either picking up waste at the scrapyard, or helping her mother with herbal tinctures. She has never received formal education.
Even if I saw Tara reading, my father would do everything possible to find her a job. One afternoon, he caught Tara reading and asked her to water the fruit trees for an hour, even though it was actually raining that day.
Under Dad’s daily admonishment and influence, Tara firmly believes that school is very evil and will be brainwashed when he goes there.
Dad has absolute control over this family and seems to know everything.
Tentara tonsils are inflamed and swollen.
Dad told her: “The sun is the most powerful medicine. You can go out every morning and stand under the sun for half an hour to cure it.”
So, in the severe cold of Idaho in the winter, Tara goes to the sun to “heal” the tonsils every day.
She persisted for a month, and of course nothing was cured, and she almost died outside.
Tara went to her grandmother’s house as a guest. After going to the toilet, the grandmother asked her: Have you washed your hands?
“No.”
“Why notWhat about washing? “
“The hands are not dirty.”
Grandma can’t believe it, ask Tara’s dad: Don’t you teach children to wash their hands after going to the toilet?
Dad disagrees: I teach them not to pee on their hands.
When Tara was eleven, she went to the gas station in town to learn dancing for free.
The dance teacher asked her to buy a bodysuit as a dance suit. Tara refused: “I can’t buy it. This dress is not dignified.”
Dad said that decent women can never show any part above the ankle.
Tara believes her father religiously. If my father said that wearing a skirt is indecent, then it must be indecent.
She equated herself with “inferior prostitutes” in her heart.
Dad used to teach her:
“The more honorable a husband lives, the more wives he marries. Women are born at home and should not go out to work.”
She followed such teachings, thinking that she would stay in the mountains for life for her parents, grow up and become a member of her husband’s many wives, and live forever.
02Until one day, someone told her:Outside There is another world,She can live another life
If a person stays ignorant all his life, maybe this way he can live. But life did not miss Tara.
When she was young, she had to deal with her father’s ignorance and brother Shaun’s abuse.
Brother Sean is a dominatrix with a strong desire to control. As long as Tara doesn’t agree with him, he abuses Tara.
When he sees Tara putting on lipstick, he will grab her neck angrily and scold her like a prostitute.
One night, Tara angered Sean while joking with Sean. Sean grabbed her, grabbed her hair tightly, and dragged her into the bathroom. He picked her up and pressed her head into the toilet.
She cleans the toilet “consciously” every day because she doesn’t know when she will be pressed into it.
Mark Twain said a word:
“Sometimes reality is more absurd than fiction, because fiction is carried out under certain logic, and reality is often without logic.”
The year Tara was pressed into the toilet, she was already 14 years old.
The 14-year-old girl should have been educated at school and loved by her parents at home. But Tara had nothing.
Tara’s 14-year-old, only scrap metal scrap that the scrap yard can never pick up, a stubborn father, a sadistic brother.
But Tara never questioned.
She thought: all this is normal.
Until another day, another brother, Taylor, came home and saw Tara dragged on the ground by Shawn’s hair.
Taylor ran away from home when he was a boy. He was a betrayer at home and the first person to see the outside world.
Taylor told Tara: “It’s time to leave home. For you, here is the worst place.”
“There is a world outside, Tara. Once Dad no longer instills his opinion in your ear, the world will look very different.”
Taylor tells her that even if she has not attended school, she can prepare for the American college entrance exam. As a believer, as long as the exam is passed, she can go to church university.
Through education, she can redeem her incomplete and humiliating life.
With Taylor’s support, Tara secretly went to town to buy an exam guide and began preparing for the exam.
The American college entrance examination is divided into four parts: mathematics, English, science and reading. Tara knows nothing but reading and English.
She does not know any mathematical symbols, does not solve any equations, and does not know what science is.
However, Tara did not give up. She got up at 6 a.m. every day to learn, and used all the intermittent work to secretly hide from learning. She learned very hard and did questions in her dreams every day.
Sometimes it takes her three hours to solve a question. The answer is still wrong. But she was never discouraged.
To understand a question, she will drive for several hours to ask someone for advice. She is not too hard.
She failed the first exam, but this did not dispel her desire to go out.
Nothing brought her down. Tara finally passed the exam when she applied for the second time.Brigham Young University, the largest church university in the United States, was accepted.
Of course Daddy doesn’t support him to go to college, he threatens Tara:
“God called me to be a witness. He was very dissatisfied. You rejected his blessing and shamelessly pursued the knowledge of mankind. His anger came up because of you and will soon come.”
He forced his daughter to move out of the house, otherwise he would have to pay the rent himself. He kept searching for her money from his daughter, trying to make her go to school without tuition.
Tara will not give in.
On New Year’s Day in 2003, 17-year-old Tara left her scrapyard for the first time, resolutely walked out of the mountain, entered the school, and saw the outside world.
That is a world completely different from the home in Dashan, a world without father and brother control, a world full of common sense, and a free world.
03“I never realized before,I Can also be as powerful as theirs”
After entering university, life has not become easier.
Because she has never been to school, Tara has a huge gap with her schoolmates.
She doesn’t know how to communicate with people, she doesn’t talk about hygiene, she doesn’t trim, she can’t make a friend.
She doesn’t know what a thesis is, she doesn’t understand that textbooks are for reading, she thinks Europe is a country, and she doesn’t even understand what Western civilization is.
Dad told her that slaves were happier and freer than their masters during the colonial period because the masters also had to pay for their care.
She always felt very reasonable, and she didn’t know how ridiculous it was until she went to school.
In order to keep up with her classmates, she learns until three in the morning every night. There are no shortcuts, it all depends on hard work.
Continuous high-intensity learning has brought unexpected gains. Not only did she pass the exams in various subjects, she also got A and got half of the scholarship.
It’s not easy for someone who has no school education. Tara can imagine how much he paid.
While studying, she also began to have a new understanding of her family and herself.
In the past, Sean always said that adolescent girls are not worth itTrust, applying lipstick is like a prostitute. He wanted to arouse Tara’s shame and manipulate her.
“Shawn exerted far more power on me than I had imagined. He defined me, and no power is more powerful than this.”
But she courageously broke the shackles she had previously recognized and began to reinvent a brand new self.
The family has always told her that the medicine is a special poison that will never be excreted from the body and will slowly corrode you for the rest of your life. Even if you take medicine now, your child will be deformed ten years later.
She has always been convinced.
But when she went to college, when her ears became inflamed, she took the first anti-inflammatory drug in her life.
Shawn would still call her a prostitute, but she slowly rejected the so-called “shame” of women.
“The word prostitute hasn’t changed. Sean’s way of saying it hasn’t changed, only my ears have changed.”
During the first summer vacation of college, Dad asked Tara to go home to work. She said without thinking about it: In this life, I will never have anything to do with the waste yard again.
This is the first time she has rejected Dad.
For the first time in her life, she found that what she said was so powerful.
“I have lived in the words of others all my life. They are authoritarian and absolute. I never realized before that my voice can be as powerful as theirs.”
She applied for a bursary with the help of the school and no longer relies on her parents’ support. In order to earn money, she went to clean the engineering building at four every morning.
She began to study eagerly, and read many, many books, far exceeding the requirements of the school must read. She studied intensively and intensively. She learned very late every day. She grabbed her hair and pondered over the textbook. She refused to go to the doctor if she had a stomach ulcer.
She listened to the lectures on geography, history and politics for four months in a row, and finally realized the true face of society, and began to realize how ridiculous the past fathers instilled.
Before going to university, she experienced two serious car accidents. She fell from a high-altitude crane and witnessed two people in the family being severely burned by fire and almost burned into skeletons. One of her brothers had a concussion, and another brother had a blossoming head.
Even so, Dad did not allow anyone in the family to go to the hospital.
She finally understood how much the father’s stubbornness and strength made the whole family pay.
Tara has been living according to his father’s wishes for nineteen years,