In fact, using certain methods for mindfulness (such as meditation, writing a gratitude journal) can play a very important role. Of course, in order to effectively resist stress, it is very important to keep the body healthy. To do this, we must exercise, get proper nutrition, and maintain good sleep habits.
However, interpersonal solutions are also important: people with more diverse lives and broader relationships will not only cope with micro-stress in different ways, but also look at them from a correct perspective. When we interviewed some people who lead active lives, we found that they tend to be in various situations (such as sports hobbies, volunteer work, civic or religious communities, book clubs, dinner clubs, local communities). And maintain a sincere relationship with them.
Communications in these areas can not only expand their identity, but also help them “open their perspectives” and see their lives from a wider perspective. The key to overcoming a lot of micro-pressure is some interpersonal relationships that can make your life have a sense of mission and meaning. We need to establish contacts at work, and diplomatic friends at work, in order to define our identity and allow ourselves to persevere.
3. Stay away from people who create stress and stop activities that create stress. Over time, it is difficult for us to detect whether a friend or colleague brings you pressure or happiness. Because of this, stress becomes more dangerous. Whether on a personal level or a professional level, once we become entangled with certain people, we may become emotionally exhausted.
You have to take a step back and evaluate the relationships in your life that you can control, and then try to stay away from people who will only make you nervous but not happy. It must be clear that it is not only negative or toxic people who create pressure. They may be people who we like to be close to but encourage inefficient behavior (“Come on, finish this project tomorrow, let’s go to the new restaurant tonight for a meal!”), or some who always fail to fulfill Work commitments, always love to leave the work to our people (“I have not finished the report, I will give you the notes, you help me take over”).
You don’t need to cut off contact with people you like to be close to, but you must be aware of their impact on your physical and mental health and try to divide these relationships.
Micro pressure does not necessarily have to be our destiny. The patterns of stress are often predictable; as long as we can recognize them, we can build the support network, mentality, and constructive response needed to cope with stress.
A leader once told us: “I will make some new rules. They may disrupt the status quo at the beginning, but in the long run, they will help me make better contributions, because then I will You won’t feel tired all the time. “As long as you learn to recognize the micro-stress patterns in your life, you can also create appropriate conditions to reduce the impact of micro-stress.
Keywords: self-managementHealth care
Rob Cross (Rob Cross), Jean Singer (Jean Singer), Karen Dillon (Karen Dillon)|Text
Rob Cross is the Edward A. Madden Professor of Global Leadership at Babson College and the co-author of “The Hidden Power of Social Networks” (Harvard Business Review Press, 2004). Gene Singer is the principal of Collaborative Analytics and co-editor of The Organizational Network Field Book. Karen Dillon is a former editor of Harvard Business Review. She co-authored three books with Clayton Christensen, including the New York Times bestseller “How Will You Measure Your Life?”