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Chen Yue described that the happiest moment every day is the moment when the door is opened. Naho will definitely wait at the entrance, reach out to take the purse, and say “Welcome home” with a smile.
I laughed and said, this is almost like a TV show.
Naho’s eyes widened: “This is very ordinary.”
Chen Yue has been taking care of Naho, unwilling to let her experience sudden changes in the language environment. After the two got married, they always lived in a Japanese environment. Therefore, although Naho works in a language school and often contacts Chinese students, he is the one with the lowest Chinese usage among all the interviewees.
When I talked with Chen Yue in Chinese, Naho could hardly understand our conversation.
I told Chen Yue that when some Japanese wives came to China, they would feel very lonely because of language barriers.
Chen Yue was silent for a moment, probably reminiscent of the topic of taking care of parents we talked about before, and then whispered: “She might do this too…”
In the final scoring session, Naho scored 10 points and Chen Yue scored 8 points. Chen Yue said that there are 2 points for better future.
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Du Peng (38 years old) & Mizuno Jing (37 years old)
Marriage age: 5 years
Currently living: China-Beijing
Occupation: Image design consultant & full-time housewife
Keywords: surrounding eyes
The 37-year-old Mizuno has a sharp short hair, fair complexion, clear eyes, and almost no trace of time can be seen on his face.
She told me that she was very happy today because it has been a long time since I had no relationship with anyone other than her husbanduote>
Similar cross-examination Mizuno has encountered many times: how to dress children so thin? Why only wear half pants for children? Don’t you be afraid of suffocating the baby with a brace?
Maybe the backlog of emotions is too much. On this day, Mizuno nodded and murmured. Faced with the anger of the old lady, she spoke in a loud voice in her unskilled Chinese: “Leave me alone!”
During the interview, Mizuno vividly imitated the other person’s expression to me at the time-his mouth was half open, his eyes straight, his face was three-pointed angry, three-pointed shocked, and three-pointed wronged. The old man and old lady who was on the sidelines came up to comfort her partner, but Mizuno felt extremely happy.
Shui Yejing and Du Peng hold a wedding
Before meeting her husband, Mizuno was also a barber and worked in two high-end Japanese hairdressing shops in Beijing. But in order to take care of the children after marriage, Mizuno quit his job and only occasionally came to serve regular customers.
Compared with Japanese men, Husband Du Peng has to be more open and free in thinking, and never interferes with what his wife wants to do. But sometimes thinking too freely, it also seems unreliable-take the child to the supermarket, 20 minutes later the child calls home: “Mom, Dad is running!”
So during the five years of taking care of the children, Mizuno was always in a state of trepidation, and never went out for a drink and party with friends on weekends. For the first three years, I was immersed in household chores every day. No one around me understood what I was doing. Instead, I felt like critical eyes everywhere. Mizuno felt immensely lonely for this, and his spirit was almost toward the abyss of depression. > In the worst case, I just want to leave and return to Japan. In the next two years, the children grew older and started kindergarten, and the situation gradually improved.
After taking a sigh of relief, Mizuno’s brain suddenly turned around: “Maybe sometimes, it’s good to rely on others.”
Mizuno no longer arrivesXuan’s in-laws tried to help with the assistance of the children and started to rediscover their own lives.
Faced with my scoring requirements, she scored 7 points for the first year after marriage, 4 points for the third year after marriage, and 9 points for the fifth year after marriage.
After 5 years of painful struggle, everything finally started to go on track. The only thing Mizuno worries about now is the care of his parents as an only child in the future. However, parents are still in good health, and this problem can be eased for a few more years.
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A Cang (30 years old) & Yong Mei (28 years old)
Marriage age: 3 years
Currently living: Japan-Fukuoka
Occupation: IT&Service Industry
Keywords: Kyushu
A Cang opens an account at Station B@福冈阿苍, and Yong Mei occasionally appears in the picture
A Cang and Yong Mei are very married, with kind and weird spirits in their eyebrows. He raised his brows and was ready to talk about that energy at any time. You can compare Guo Qilin’s imagination.
They met in Beijing, fell in love with each other in Beijing, and finally settled in Fukuoka. They were the only couple of the 4 interviewees who had reversed migration.
As mentioned earlier, Japanese people care about distance. Even biological parents may feel uncomfortable if their living spaces are too close. However, Yong Mei seems to be an anomaly.
In 2013, Yong Mei was still studying at Beijing Language and Culture University. As soon as the two started dating, they moved with A Cang. In order to save rent, A Cang lived with his parents in Beijing. Every day at the prime time after dinner, the mother goddessWill turn on the TV Central set, greet Yong Mei to watch TV series together. Yong Mei didn’t feel pressure at all, and she stayed with her for a year.
Yong Mei no longer remembers the name of the TV series. She just remembers that the blue sky mother is happy to explain the plot to her and discuss the story with her. After one year of mandatory training, Yong Mei’s Chinese has improved by leaps and bounds. Not only the pronunciation is extremely standard, but also fresh vocabulary is readily available.
A Cang Xiao said that she first liked Yong Mei because she had few beautiful words. Later, she discovered that after the mother’s language training, Yong Mei could carefully report the day’s itinerary before going to bed.
Originally determined to do a pure Kyushu tour, but it turned into a joke
Yong Mei’s personality probably originated from Kyushu. Kyushu is located on the westernmost side of Japan, and its terroir is very different from that of the island. Since ancient times, there has been a saying that Kyushu men are more valiant, and it is a place rich in heroes and police. In Kyushu, the sense of distance between people is obviously weakened, and there is a trend of convergence with China. When you go home at night, your Kyushu wife will not wait to carry your bag and hand over your shoes, but the phrase “welcome home” is always indispensable.
In 2015, after graduating from Yongmei University, his student visa expired and he had to return to Japan. At that time, A Cang, who couldn’t speak a word in Japanese, left a small accomplishment job for Yongmei and went to Kyushu together.
A drunk broke the door of the two men, A Cang stood in front, propped up the momentum, Yong Mei followed, and the translation supported.
Yong Mei appreciates this strength of losing and not losing. At the same time, like other Japanese wives, she also likes her boyfriend’s kindness and gentleness. A Cang’s gentleness is not only reflected in undertaking housework, but also in the enthusiasm for ridicule. Even during the interview, I never forgot to make a fool of myself, and Yong Mei couldn’t help but laugh.
A Cang said that the last photo is a pure Japanese style
A Cang likes Yongmei, her sincerity, and her dedication. During New Years and holidays, Yong Mei always tries to prepare surprise gifts for A Cang, but she often seeks secret affairs and is smashed by A Cang in advance. Yong Mei valued this feeling of surprise. One Christmas, A Cang accidentally turned over a carefully prepared greeting card. Yong Mei cried on the spot, and A Cang has no Christmas presents ever since. When talking about this, A Cang’s mouth was full of Hu Qin, but the corners of his eyebrows and eyes were filled with joy.
Nowadays, A Cang’s Japanese is also a little accomplished. One of them speaks Chinese and the other speaks Japanese. When they walk on the street and communicate with each other, no one understands one sentence of Chinese to one sentence except for the couple.
A Cang is an only child, and the issue of caring for his parents will eventually be put on the agenda, but because they are still young, the two of them don’t want to think about the issue that is too remote. In the final scoring session, Yong Mei gave a perfect score of 10, and A Cang also gave a perfect score.
That’s right. After all, someone who just likes to mention a new house, who can’t give full marks?
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Before selecting the topic, I estimated that when the love between Chinese and Japanese couples begins, at least one of them must be very fluent in the language and be able to speak the second foreign language to the native level.
However, what’s interesting is that after interviewing, I found that most Chinese and Japanese couples do not have very high language skills when they are in love, and some people even have no language foundation at all. The two had to use gestures, English and other tools to assist in communication.
The inadequacy of words does not affect the lover’s feelings. Even when the fancy language fades, the lovers learn to pay more attention to the true actions of the other party, and to observe the true heart from the actions.
Marriage has always been a thousand people, no matter how the outside world expresses and influences, the taste in it is still like a person drinking water, knowing it is cold or warm.
Someone intervened because of her husbandSome people feel angry because their husbands share the housework. Some people feel ashamed because of the gaze of those around them, while others become strong because of the gaze of those around them.
Faced with the same situation, some people regretted it, while others reluctantly.
Whether it is language or nationality, whether it is title or money, all the labels affixed to a person should not be a measure of whether it is possible to be happy.
Chinese, Japanese, stamped on the nationality column, first of all, they are still people who have a lot of words.
There are no tags that can summarize a complete person.
If it feels really coming, don’t be afraid and have a chat, maybe happiness is knocking on the door. (In short, don’t trust Google)
This article is from WeChat official account:Du Shaofei (ID: shaofeidu) , author: Du